Your Holiday Mom: Shannon

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Click here to listen to Shannon reading her letter to you.

My dear child,

Though I have not had the chance to physically hug you or look into your eyes to tell you how loved you are, and how wonderful you are, please feel that – through my words.

I am so hopeful that this coming new year brings you more love, comfort and peace than you have felt ever. I hope you look in the mirror and know you are enough. You are perfectly imperfect, the exact version of you that you are meant to be. In this very moment trust you are more loved than you even know.

I hope that this Christmas you know that at our house we are thinking of you. I want you to be warm and safe this holiday. The mom in me can’t help but remind you to keep dressed for the weather, but more importantly keep your heart warm. Have a cup of hot chocolate, read something you love, watch something that makes you laugh, feed your spirit.

My child, this Christmas I want you to know you belong. You are the best gift a family could ask for. I am going to go make myself some tea, look at the stars and hope when you need some extra love and comfort, you will look to the stars and know we are looking at the same sky, no matter where we are. Those stars represent the love that surrounds you, the future that embraces you and the present that wants to comfort you.

Go to bed tonight knowing I love you.

Sending you the biggest hug,

Your holiday Mom xo


  1. Jade says:

    I guess I would be a little too old at 19 to be your holiday child but I never really had a mom that would tell me she loved me as I am, she only loves the idea of me. I came out as transgender a year ago, spilled my guts after years of anticipation and agony waiting to tell her who I truly am and she just stepped on any hope of acceptance as I was told shortly after I would be dead to my family. Coming out was a great relief because for years being raised as some “perfect” christian child I never really had the opportunity as a kid to explore who I truly am and now that I did it just ended in disaster. I struggled with alcoholism for the longest time hoping it would numb the pain enough for me to at least forget how miserable I was. I will admit you are the first person in forever to tell me they actually love me for me and it made me cry reading this letter but it gives me enough strength to move on. I hope to one day become the strong, confident woman that I know I am and to give the love I never received back to the world. Thank you

  2. Kary Caboose says:

    Hi Holiday Mom Shannon, I just wanted to say thank you so much for posting this. I forgot what it’s like to hear somebody say “I love you” and mean it. The stars are a very nice and big reminder to remember that I am not alone out here, thanks to you. I’m a nineteen year old asexual, been on my own for about a year now and trying to put myself through college. I only found this site tonight, but it is such a lovely thing that I can listen to you read a letter to me, someone you don’t even know, with such love. Now I’m going to make tea and watch some of my favorite videos. This made me cry very happy tears, and I’m going to sleep with a smile on my face tonight.
    Thank you so, so much. I love you and your family, too, and I hope you all had a lovely Christmas!

    Your holiday child,

    K. Caboose

  3. Finn says:

    Shannon (my dearest Holiday Mum),

    Tonight I find myself drinking a cup of tea and looking up at the stars, hoping you’re looking up at them too.

    I’m 19 (so can I even really be considered a Holiday child anymore?) and pansexual. I haven’t and likely won’t come out to my parents, for fear that I won’t be accepted. My biological family makes it hard to feel accepted, even without my sexuality issues.

    I wanted to thank you for the letter. It meant the world to me, and I really wanted you to know that you’ve made a difference to me (along with all the Holiday mums, but yours especially). Thank you for the love and acceptance you’re spreading throughout the world with this letter.

    I hope your holidays have been amazing,

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