I want you to know how thrilled I am to welcome you into my family for the holidays. I fully believe that we all have a reason for being exactly where we are in each moment, which makes this opportunity to share the holidays with you even more special for me. It’s my favourite time of year – the twinkling lights on the tree, the smells of baking and spices in the air, and the snow reflecting the light of the moon. You could help me decorate the tree with tiny lights and ribbons and shiny balls. There is magic in the air so we could bundle up and take a long, slow walk along the lake, taking in the beauty of the glittering snow and the Christmas lights in the distance. Afterwards, we could warm up our toes by the fireplace, drink hot apple cider and enjoy cookies fresh out of the oven.
I know that sometimes people don’t understand what we hold in our heart, yet our nature is to reach out for acceptance and love. While my daughter was in university, she was the president of Queers on Campus and I thought it was such a wonderful thing that she would so passionately advocate for gay rights, even though she was straight. She is now 27, but when she was 21 she found the courage to tell me and her stepdad that she is bisexual. We were at a wakeboard competition at the lake and I’m pretty sure I didn’t react in a way that was what she wanted, which was by not reacting at all. I went totally inside myself, trying to fit the pieces together throughout her entire life, the places where she felt unloved at school, as though she didn’t fit in enough – totally lost in my thoughts, instead of giving her the acceptance and support that she was looking for in that moment. She is my shining light – my greatest achievement in life – and it’s sometimes hard to imagine that there was anything she felt she couldn’t share with her mom. I later told her how much I loved her and that she is always and will always be perfect, because of who she is, and that I was so proud of her ability to express that, when I know it wasn’t easy for her. I love that she has love in her life, regardless of the gender of her partner.
Native tribes refer to Two-Spirits. They are not only accepted for who they are, but they are revered and honoured as people who were gifted among all beings because they carried two spirits, that of male and female. They were often the visionaries and the healers – the medicine people. They were a guiding force and a source of strength.
I honour you for being truly who you were born to be. I hope that you find all of the love that you deserve in your life, because you truly are a gift. My wish is that you love yourself for being exactly who you are and that you have the support and courage to chase your own dreams, become your own source of light in life. Thank you so much for being my gift this holiday season!
Sending you big hugs,