Your Holiday Mom: Lily

liz turek

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My Dearest Holiday Child,

How are you? The holidays are upon us. Everywhere around us are the sounds, sights and smells of a joyous time. I am well and am looking forward to the holiday season.

If I had to pick a holiday that I love the most, its this one. My family celebrates Christmas. Each year, I think back to when I was a child, and realize, I am incredibly lucky. The most important lesson I learned was that there was always room for one more person, or two (or a whole family) at our table. Whether it was a turkey dinner, or ice fishing, or just making s’mores in the wood stove. There is always room. I learned that no one should feel lonely or be turned away at this time of year. I learned that even those with little, still give and share, because giving is more important than receiving. As a parent, it’s my job to teach my children a lot of different things. Love, acceptance, generosity, how to be humble, tolerance and when the need presents itself (which is often)….patience. I am constantly amazed with what my children can say and do. Like recently, Bubbles (my oldest daughter, she is 9) got permission and organized a fundraiser, by selling bracelets that she and her classmates are making. We had no clue she had done any of this until a recent parent teacher conference, and I am so proud and speechless at the work she has put into this.

Sometimes it’s hard for me to fathom the idea that a parent won’t or has trouble showing unconditional love and understanding to their child. For in you, is so much potential, so much love. Please know, that I will not turn a cold shoulder to you. Not ever. You are who you are, you cannot change that, and I think you are perfectly imperfect. I love you just the way you are. No matter how you identify yourself or which orientation you have, no matter which pronouns you prefer to use, and no matter who you decide to love. No matter how messed up you feel you might be, there is nothing you can do or say that will make me love you any less. In fact, I will only love you more. My roll as your mother is to guide you, encourage you to strive for those life decisions that will make you the happiest, whatever those might be. Everyone needs someone in their corner, to cheer them on unconditionally.

Sometimes it’s not blood that makes a family, but the people around you that love, and accept you and want you in their lives. So let me open my arms when you come to my door. I want to give you (and your partner if you have one) the biggest, warmest, welcoming hug, and invite you inside. I will give you a cup of steaming hot chocolate decorated with marshmallows and crushed candy cane. My husband J.T., and our daughters, will welcome you. Bug (who is only 4) will ask your name and if you like to play with legos. Bubbles will be excited that you are coming, and both are going to show you all their toys and fun things, as this is their ritual, they even do this to their grandparents. You will be the most popular, funny, and huggable person of the holiday. We will sit and catch up on all the things you’ve been doing and where your goals are taking you. I will tell you how happy I am that you came, and you would see an excited and proud smile on my face when I listened to everything you have to say.

Our traditions usually begin when I break out the Christmas box. There are two things in the box that come out right away, the Count Down Blocks to the days until Christmas and the advent calendar. There are extra candies in the calendar so you can celebrate with us, however, you might have a wrestling match when it comes to the countdown blocks. Bug and Bubbles love to make sure that the count down is completely accurate. The stockings are hung, with extras for you (Bug and Bubbles will make sure of that). The candles are next. I love smells that give me nostalgia, Gingerbread cookies and peppermint especially. The tree, while artificial, is still beautiful when done. The star that will sit on top, is silver with ornate molding and embossing. You have the honor of putting it on top. Then we will turn off most of the lights and light the tree to see it finished. The gifts will be stacked and tucked in under the tree.

What’s next? Cookies! It’s not Christmas with cookies! This year is our family’s second year with a new tradition. Each year, we go out and find a unique cookie cutter, and we make gingerbread cookies. Last year, we made Zombie Gingerbread people! The whole house smells like warm ginger when we get the cookies into the oven. I guarantee, you will have flour from head to toe when we’re finished. We can sit and help the girls decorate. Perhaps you’ll even be presented with a version of ‘Jingle Bells, Batman Smells…’ as sang by Bug. We would make a double batch of cookies, so when you leave you have plenty to take with you.

In our home, we do not believe in a Santa Claus, they understand the legend and stories behind Santa Claus but they know he is not real. However, Bubbles and Bug know there is a Santa Secret and enjoy pretending. On Christmas Eve, we make s’mores, and watch Christmas movies. In the morning, wrapped gifts and a sparkling tree is what your sleepy eyes will find. We all open gifts and look through stockings, still in our pajamas with cups of hot chocolate.  There would be wrapping paper everywhere after all the gifts were opened. I’m sure you’ll have bits of paper or tape stuck to those christmas socks on your feet. Funny how it takes thought into wrapping those boxes so the paper doesn’t rip, yet it’s still so fun to rip that paper when you finally get to. It’s almost like bubble wrap.

Turkey, Beef Brisket, or maybe Roasted Chicken. Depending on what sounds good, is what we will make. Most of all, I would love for you to be in my kitchen helping me. The best memories are when my family helps me in the kitchen. There will be Cranberry and Walnut Stuffing, lumpy mash potatoes, cornbread, dinner rolls, roasted Brussel sprouts with bacon, roasted asparagus, peas, and broccoli salad. We will be sitting at a little table built for 7. Egg nog, hot chocolate, and board games will take up our evening. Perhaps a game of Munchkin, or Fluxx, or Pirates Vs. Ninjas. Then we will have desserts, Apple Crumble, ice cream, and fresh fruits.

I will be so happy that you came to spend the holiday with us and I will be sad that you have to go. Bug will not want to see you go, and she will ask you to stay just one more day. Bubbles will ask you to play one more game before you have to go. I told you, you’d be popular, did I not?

So you must promise me, that you’ll look after yourself. Keep your chin up, and keep that beautiful smile on your face. I want you to try your best to tackle the obstacles in your way, and conquer every mountain that you need to climb. Know that I am sending you love and thinking of you every day, and every holiday you are not at home with us.

Much Love Always, Lily

PS. Don’t forget your cookies!

29 comments

  1. Natasha says:

    Thank you so much. I am queer and i am from a country which criminalises homosexuality and there’s no place for us in the society. I cried reading your letter. I have never felt so loved. Thank you so very much.

  2. Jenna lynn says:

    It all starts as far back as I can remember, I knew I was different from other boys. When I was very young not sure how old two older girls forced me to undress so they could play house, that is about all I can remember about the event as only fragments started to come back to me. When I was about eight I experimented with taping my private parts up pretend I had a vagina.

    At roughly the same time I used to sneak into my parents room and borrow my mother’s clothes to try on. I enjoyed the way they made me feel. I did not know what it was, but knew it felt right. I also learned that showing the softer side of myself got me picked on so I tried to make it all stop and pretended to be a “normal boy”.

    Upon entering junior high my hormones kicked in and the confusion about myself really kicked in. I started to like girls, but also started to wish I looked like them. I even started to have dreams about becoming a girl. At this time I still did not know what it’s was, but knew I was different and though it was a “weird fantasy”. I started to steal girls undergarments from a store to wear under my clothes whenever possible. I started to pleasure myself while it the girls clothes, however, eventually that stopped as I got older. One Halloween I cross dressed to go to school in and attended the school dance like that. During my school days I was relentlessly picked on and bullied almost to the point of committing suicide.

    My collection of girl clothes started to grow and eventually I would feel ashamed and get rid of them. Eventually I would always start to collect them again. As soon as I started to get money, I would buy the items from the stores. The cycle of collecting and purging kept going on for a long time.

    When I was about to my limit my future wife came into my life. Things started to get better and I tried harder than ever to hide the secret side of myself thinking that eventually it would go away, which it never did. I continued to struggle with my identity, not knowing what it was until I was about 35, when by chance read an article written by a trans female, and her story had many similarities to my life. I can’t describe how it felt to finally know what it was, and that I was not alone anymore. I am looking forward to start taking hormones with hope to take on a more female shape and finally feel good about myself. I do not know how much physical changes will happen, but will take anything I get with pride knowing I am growing into who I was meant to be.

    Jenna Lynn Frittenburg

  3. Aubrey says:

    Hello lily. I am glad that I found this website when I did. I’m so glad that I found your letter. If you don’t mind I’m going to share somethings about me. I’m 12 years old and I’m a lesbian. My mom and her boyfriend hate me for being the way I am. My dad doesn’t talk to me because he left me when I was very young. I self-harm but I’m trying to stop. I have an eating disorder that I’m trying to fix but I always feel too fat. My brother and a few friends are the only reason I haven’t 1: killed myself or 2: ran away. My girlfriend is another reason. This letter made me smile. That’s all that matters to me. The fact that simply hearing you say these words through my headphones could make me smile amazes me. I should probably go to sleep though considering its 2:01 AM where I am.

    Love, Aubrey

  4. Cassidy says:

    Mom –
    Thank you so much for your letter! Hearing your voice read it to me was insanely influential. I know you love me and that alone is amazing to me, since we’ve never really met. All the same, I’m thrilled to be a part of your family this holiday season. Give Bubbles and Bug (SUCH adorable names) a big hug for me! It’s great to think these kids love me so much, too.
    I’ll be sure to think of you when I make Christmas cookies with my blood family this year!
    Cassidy

  5. Jessica says:

    Lily,

    I’ve never read a letter as wonderful as yours. It’s every holiday fantasy I’ve ever had rolled up in one.

    My parents kicked me out when I was sixteen after years of emotional and physical abuse. I ended up in a relationship with a pedophile who had been grooming me since I was fourteen. I had to give up every dream i had just to survive.

    I haven’t talked with my parents in years. I’ve never had a home and I desperately want one. I’ve wanted a holiday home — or any home — my entire life.

    I’m a bit awkward sometimes and it has never worked out every time I’ve tried to connect with a family, even those in my extended family. I never find the acceptance I crave. Do you know how I can find a forever family?

    I’ve always wanted to be a writer, and I think this is the year that I’m going to go for it. I’ve waited a very long time for this. I also want a fluffy dog and a beautiful place to live.

    • Lily says:

      Jessica!
      I am delighted you came to see me! I am so happy that you felt my letter was wonderful.
      My heart hurts to hear that you’ve never had a holiday where you felt welcome or accepted.
      My home is free a judgement free place. I’ve raised Bugs and Bubbles to be curious about the things they don’t understand, so expect a ton of questions, all about what you want for Christmas, or your favorite meal, or if you like S’mores! Especially if you like Legos!
      Jessica, I don’t know how you can find your forever family, even parents don’t have all the answers. That can be a scary thing for us, because sometimes it’s important for us to have all the answers. But there was a great response to a previous Child named Wenxin, a gentleman named Tim said, “Even if your going through hell – keep going, for even if your family doesn’t care for you (my actual mother never did) someone else will, I promise.” Tim is right. There will always be someone else that does care. I said in my letter that blood doesn’t always make a family, but it’s the people that love you and want you in their lives. Keep that in mind when you receive greetings and little gifts from friends or co-workers. You’ve found acceptance with me and the other Holiday Moms here.
      I am proud of you for keeping your dreams. You want to be a writer? Then do it! Go out there and make it happen! You can do anything you set your mind to. Let nothing stand in your way to greatness.
      You deserve happiness and success Jessica, just as much as anyone else. The only difference is how one goes about attaining said greatness. I know you can do it sweetheart.
      I love you. Good Luck with your writing. I know you’ll go far.
      Love from your mum,
      Lily

  6. Kayelynn says:

    Dealing with stress isnt something im really good at, but ill try. Is knitting hard? Ive always wanted to learn but i honestly dont think id be able to do it lol.. i m sorry if im bothering you, i just wanted to say thank you for being so nice.

    • Lily says:

      Kayelynn!
      You are so very welcome! I seriously think the world needs more kindness and compassion.
      I’ll be completely honest with you… I cheat at knitting. I use a loom. Which is super easy. Loom Knitting is the easy way.
      Around certain holidays, things can get pretty stressful. Which is understandable. So take moments for yourself. Self-care moments. You deserve the it.
      No way are you ever a bother Kayelynn!
      Love from your mum,
      Lily

  7. Caitlyn says:

    Hey mom. Thanks for this. This is my first Christmas since I came out as a lesbian. My immediate family seems pretty ok with me, but the aunts and grandparents are less inclined to be accepting. They have been raised in a religious background and are having problems with my “choice” from a biblical perspective. I avoided them at thanksgiving but Christmas is harder. More relatives asking questions about my life, more people who are going to comment on my sexuality. This past semester at college hasn’t been easy on me. It saw a trip to psych because of my depression and anxiety. It saw me relapse with self harm. Honestly the thought of the holidays is enough to send me into an anxiety tailspin. I’d happily come home to Bug and Bubbles and play Legos to their hearts content.

    • Lily says:

      Caitlyn!
      I am so happy to see you!
      There is only one of you. You are special and unique. That’s why I love you so much. Family is sometimes hard to avoid. I can understand that completely. So… Do your best, be yourself. I’m happy your immediate family is ok with what you’ve shared with them. Don’t ever change Caitlyn. You are wonderful just the way you are.
      It takes a mature person to respect the perspective of someone who doesn’t agree with your own point of view. I am proud of you for being able to do that.
      Now, take care of yourself. If you feel your anxiety is getting to high take those steps to help yourself.
      My heart aches to know that you had a self-harm relapse. I don’t know what I can say that will help you to stop, but know that I worry for your mental health and that I hope you will take the time for self-care. Moments to spend on just you.
      Find the little things that make your heart feel light this holiday. Take one moment at a time, when things become stressful. You are stronger than you realize Caitlyn.
      You are very much loved sweetheart.
      Love from your mum,
      Lily

  8. Nathan says:

    Hi mum

    This is the very first letter I’ve gotten and I’m so happy to see this in my inbox when I wake up. I haven’t been sleeping well recently due to stress in my family so I’ve been sleeping all day and all night for several days in the week.
    So I’ve been feeling lonely a lot.
    And then I read this and all of the sudden I can picture two kids both wanting my attention to show them what they got yet are equally excited to know what I’ve gotten. Even when I was a kid myself, my own sisters never cared what I got.
    I can picture the tree and can see myself giving the star to Bugs or Bubbles so I can pick them up to put on the tree – I’m too short and I will make the tree fall.
    I can see myself sitting at the table surrounded by laughing and smiling people who actually want to see me smile with the group because of being happy, instead of smiling so nobody thinks anything is wrong.
    Thank you mummy.
    Love Nathan.

    • Lily says:

      Nathan!
      I’m so happy you made it! I love seeing the smiles on my kids faces! Sometimes seeing those smiles is even better than presents at Christmas.
      I won’t lie, I worry about your sleep and about your stress. Take time to decompress and care for yourself ok? It’s ok, you don’t have to smile all the time. We all have those days where smiling just doesn’t seem possibly. But being happy isn’t about smiling. It’s about finding delight in the little things that lift your heart and spirits.
      Bug and Bubbles would love to know what you received. If it includes Legos, expect help from one or both of them.
      Are you a big eater?! There will be tons of food. Food comas are common after a holiday meal in my home.
      Take care of yourself Nathan. Love you to the moon and back!
      Love from your mum,
      Lily

  9. Aly says:

    Hey, mom! I’m super excited to be spending Christmas with you guys. It’s hard spending Chriatmas with a family that I can’t come out to because they aren’t very accepting. I look forward to hot chocolate and playing with toys! I’m asexual Homoromantic and I’m sure my girlfriend would love to meet you guys too!

    • Lily says:

      Aly!
      I am so happy you are here! Give your girl a hug from me and tell her Happy Holidays for me!
      I don’t care if you come out to me or not, I still love you! You are perfect however you choose to be, because you are you! There is only one Aly like you.
      Take care of yourself Aly! Keep your chin up.
      Love from your mum,
      Lily

  10. Wenxin says:

    Momma:
    Thk you for inviting me to your house mom :) it sounds great. It’s been a while since I’ve had a good Christmas. I will be turning 15 in January. My dad left when I was little…and my mom doesn’t really care…she just yells at me alot. I’m bi. And I have to deal with hearing the “those who are not straight will go to hell” speach every year. I’ve been struggling with depression and anxiety and though my school counsellor has called home to tell her I need help…my mom just says I’m attention seeking. My boyfriend left me. We’re still best friends…but still. It really hurts. And since Christmas involves quite a bit of food…it doesn’t help that I’ve been struggling with an eating disorder as well. Life doesn’t seem worth it these days. Sometimes it just feels like…a bullet will hurt less than this lonliness. I spend alot of time talking to my stuffed animals…they’re the only ones I trust to not leave me. But finding this website…well…it’s like finding loads of long lost relatives.

    Do you think you could tell me more about my Holiday family, mom…? I’ve always been an only child. I don’t know what it’s like having siblings…and I’ve always been shy and awkward around people. I don’t really know much about families really. Do you guys really want me around…?

    I’m sorry to bother you, mom. I love you. Thank you.

    Your holiday daughter,
    Wenxin

    • Tim says:

      I’m sure Lily will respond soon, but I just wanted to say about “Sometimes it just feels like…a bullet will hurt less than this lonliness.” – we’ve all been there, it’s a cliche and you might not believe it now, but it does get better. A lot better.

      When you’re going through hell – keep going, for even if your family doesn’t care for you (my actual mother never did) someone else will, I promise. And you’ll look back and think ‘what was that about?’ and be glad of your new life, your new friends, and new love(s).

      Xmases were a nightmare for me before and after my parents divorced, everyone just seemed to take it out on me, half-siblings included (having siblings isn’t that great in my experience!) so this time of year is bittersweet but I made better memories later on. I made my own family, I took Xmas and New Year back and made it my own.

      As you will.

      • Lily says:

        Thank you Tim, for speaking about your own situation and experience. It’s always great to know that others have been in those same situations.
        Love Always.

    • Lily says:

      Wenxin,
      What on earth makes you think you’ve been a bother?!?! I am beyond happy to hear from you! I am so happy we get to have this visit!
      I know things are tough sometimes. But don’t let it get you down, keep your chin up. Take one moment at a time. You are stronger than you ever realized possible. There will always be those that follow the “misery loves company” idea. Your energy is better spent on things that are important. Like your school work, and your health. You are important sweetheart.
      Wenxin, you have so much potential, and so much greatness trapped inside. You are perfect the way you are, and I would be sad if you were no longer around. Please keep talking to your counselor (and the stuffed animals too).
      Your holiday family is very geeky. We love a bunch of fandoms. Starwars, and Legos are the current interests for Bug. Harry Potter, and Legos are Bubbles current interests. Bug and Bubbles would LOVE to have an older sister. My husband, J.T., loves video games, and has both XboxOne and PS4. You could play RockBand4 with us! Me, well, I would love your help in my kitchen preparing all the food. I understand that you struggle with food issues, and that’s ok. Would you still like to help me with the Christmas meal? This year we will be taking a drive around the city to look at Christmas lights and displays, would you like to come along?
      I do want you around, Wenxin. Always. When I said in my letter that Bug and Bubbles would be sad to see you go, I wasn’t kidding. J.T would insist that you keep in touch often. You might not feel like you fit in. But you do. You would always be welcome. Talking to and worrying about my kids is part of my job as a mum. Nothing you have to say is ever a bother to me.
      Love you to the moon and back!
      Love from your mum,
      Lily

      • Wenxin says:

        Momma<3:
        Well…I might be a disappointment to Bugs and Bubbles. I've never had much of an interest in Harry Potter or Star Wars and I don't know much about either. I like legos though…so maybe that will make up for not being part of those fandoms. I've never played on the Xbox or PS4 either. I don't know much about playing the video games…I just watch other people play video games on Youtube. Again, the disappointment. Sorry mom. The only fandoms I belong to is the Twilight fandom and the Phandom (Dan and Phil on youtube<3). I've never played any video games ever…but I'm willing to learn. I spend most of my time drawing. Crafts. I like art. I don't like to talk much…art gives another platform for me to express my feelings.

        I'd love to help in the kitchen…I just. Well I like preparing food. I like cooking and baking. I just don't like…the eating part much. I know it's crazy to some people who love food…I just don't like it. I've never been over weight…but I've been told I'm fat and well…it just got to me. I had 2 extremes…not eating for days or eating everything and then forcing myself to throw up. I'll love to help you in the kitchen…but I'm sorry if I have to leave the table halfway mom. Food is stressful. I hope you won't be mad.

        Thank you for wanting me around<3 I love you<3

        xxx
        Your holiday daughter,
        Wenxin

        • Lily says:

          Wenxin,
          Sweetheart… What is with all this disappointment?! Where and why do you think Bugs and Bubbles would feel such? I can assure you, if you know little about things that interest them, they would gladly talk your ears off about those things. But the time you leave, you’d be an expert! But crafts! Oh gravy! You and Bubbles will have mountains of fun! She’ll teach you her anime eyes that she draws, (she draws those on just about everything animal and person she makes!) and this house has got crayons and colored pencils in just about every corner, nook and cranny. (SShhhh! She’s getting a nifty little drawing caddy for Christmas this year, with real sketching paper and artist pencils.)
          And trust me, I’m probably about the most uncoordinated person my husband has ever met. Yet I can play Rockband pretty well, and it’s easy to learn!
          If you leave the table half way. That’s ok! Even if you don’t want to eat, you are still welcome to sit at the table and talk to us. I don’t like food much either, but I love cooking the healthy stuff. Bubbles will be making our dessert this year, Apple Crisp. You are welcome to help her (she might need it!).
          You are in no way a disappointment to me. Remember, that while you might see and hear the disappointment in a parent’s voice. That doesn’t mean we don’t love you just as much as always. There is only one of you Wenxin. And that means a lot to me.
          You’ll take care, won’t you sweety?
          Love from your mum,
          Lily

          • Wenxin says:

            Momma:
            Well…I hope they’ll like me. They sound amazing. I’d love siblings. >.< what exactly is apple crisp…? I'd love to help Bubbles. And I can bake you guys cupcakes :)

            I'm just praying I'd be able to take in whatever they tell me about harry potter and star wars…my brain doesn't seem to process stuff very fast…and I forget alot of things. Oops. I'm behind in class too…I'm struggling with school…between the bullies and hard lessons…school is hell to me. I'm having a school holiday now…but when we get back to school…I'm gonna have a panic attack.

            Is there snow where you are, mom? Where I live it's hot all year round. Basically summer forever. I've never seen snow before. It'll be nice to experience it. In our so called winter, all we get is alot of rain. :(

            Send Bubbles and Bugs and J.T my love. I love you too, momma. Thank you <3

            Love,
            Your holiday daughter,
            Wenxin

  11. Marshall says:

    Dear Holiday mom,
    Thank you for welcoming me into your home! I’m an FTM transguy, and I’ve been finding it hard to be accepted by my family, so thank you so much. I recently decided to cut ties with my family once I turn 18, so these next few holidays are going to be tough. I’ll gladly play Legos with Bug, Legos were my childhood! And I’ll tell Bubbles how proud I am of her. I’ll be their holiday brother! I’ll help you in the kitchen, and tell you all about school, cross country, track, GSA, and all that jazz. And I’ll join in with the singing of “Jingle Bells, Batman Smells”. I’ll give Bug and Bubbles one last hug before I go, and I won’t forget the cookies, either!
    Your holiday son,
    Marshall

    • Lily says:

      Marshall!
      I’m delighted to hear from you!
      You could be green with purple polka dots, and I’d still love you. Thank you for telling me about your transition. I hope you are taking care of yourself properly as you transition. It’s my job as your mum to worry over all you do.
      My heart aches with the news that you’ve decided to cut ties with your family. That’s a very hard decision to make, and I’m sure you didn’t come to this lightly. Those holidays will be hard ones, I can’t sugar coat that but then it’s time to make your own traditions. Even if that means you sit around in your pajamas, binge watch Netflix and eat sweets all day.
      A brother! You wouldn’t just be their brother for the holiday. Heck no! You’d be their brother for life! I can guarantee you, well into the months of April and May, I’d still be hearing stories about their brother who came for Christmas!
      How is track? Are you keeping up your grades in school?
      I love it when I have help in the kitchen! I would even leave you with copies of your favorite recipes to make on your own.
      So take care Marshall. Your visit has meant so much. Take each moment, one at a time. Keep your chin up and know that you are loved.
      Love from your mum,
      Lily

      • Marshall says:

        Thank you, mum, for your reply. It has helped a lot. I have recently been discussing the possibility of getting my hair cut short, and my mom and sisters are saying that I can get one similar to one of Halsey’s, as long as they get to do my eyebrows. To tell you the truth, that’s quite the ultimatum.I hate my family poking fun at how bushy my eyebrows (I’m a man, men can have bushy eyebrows if they want to!). To answer your question, I haven’t run in a track meet yet (therapy for my ADHD and injuries have gotten in the way), but I will hopefully be able to soon! My grades aren’t doing too well, but I’m trying to bring them up. As far as transitioning goes, well, I’m nowhere close to where I hope I’ll be someday, but I’ve been working out (doing hundreds of push ups in a day) to get my chest flatter, and I’ve been maintaining a diet of testosterone boosting foods, simply to lessen the dysphoria that tends to force me to stay in bed for hours after I wake up. But I’ve been trying to stay hopeful. Thank you so much for loving me.
        Your holiday son,
        Marshall
        Ps. Hugs to Bubbles and Bug!

        • Lily says:

          Marshall!
          Sometimes even the biggest steps take time. It’s a lot to think about. The different details that go into transitioning. I just want only what’s best for you.
          I know you will take care of yourself the proper way. I hope you like the hair cut, whichever way you decide to have it done.
          Take care of your injuries and your ADHD. Track can come once you are feeling better, right?
          Keep trying your best in school, with ADHD that’s a challenge. But I know you can do it. You are stronger than you realize.
          You don’t need to thank me Marshall. But you’re welcome, nonetheless.
          Love from your mum,
          Lily
          PS. Hugs given and loved!

  12. Kayelynn says:

    Hey mum!
    First off I just wanted to say thank you so much for taking the time to write me this kind letter. Ive read it at least three times over and it always puts tears of joy in my eyes (: Im doing alright, holidays arent really my favorite thing, my family is pretty dysfunctional, and there have been many years that Ive been the kid over at a friends for Thanksgiving dinner or something. Im extremely grateful that ive met people so nice to take me in. Im grateful i met you (: Bubbles sounds like such an amazing kid! Wow, will you tell her that i believe she will do amazing things in her life, i mean look at her so far.
    For me, honestly its kind of hard to imagine a parent loving a child no matter what… no circumstances, or ‘if’s… Thank you for loving me. It really means so much to me, anc its something new im learning, but i love you too..
    My girlfriend and I would gladly hug you back, and love to play leggos with bug! Im soo very grateful that youd actually listen to what i have to say, about whats been going on lately.. I havent been to school in a few months, just working, thats where i met Morgan (my girl c:) How have you been? Whats new in your life? The christman box and cound down blocks sound awesome! Ive never heard of anything like that…
    The thought of making cookies and hearing bug sing gives me complete joy (: ahh haha i love food (: all of that sounds amazing, but even better cause i get to spend it with my new holiday family. Id promisee to play another game with bubbles, a nd promise bug ill see hr again.
    I promise… and ill smile every day that i think of the worderful time i spent with my new family. Thank you so much for loving me, and accepting me for who i am.
    Love, Kayelynn.
    Ps thanks for the cookies c:

    • Lily says:

      Kayelynn!
      I’m so glad to hear from you! So work is keeping you busy then? Don’t forget to take some time to decompress when you get stressed ok? Bubbles isn’t the only one I know who will do amazing things Kayelynn. You will too, I know it.
      No matter which holiday it is, you (and Morgan) will always be welcome at my table. The Christmas box is a red plastic box with a green lid. The girls know as soon as it comes out that the decorating begins! The count down blocks are cute. It’s a little statute of a snowman in a top hat, holding a snowflake. The two blocks, with numbers on all sides, sits inside a cavity where his tummy would be. I forgot to mention, we got a new tree this year! J.T and I decided to get an artificial tree, this one has lights already on.
      How am I? This time of year, I always seem to be rather busy. But I will always have time for you and Morgan. What’s new? Hmmm… Well I’m finally half way done the blanket I’ve been knitting! It took me most of the year, only because I found a few holes, which meant a bunch of stitches needed to be removed and done over again.
      So… Take care Kayelynn. You deserve happiness and the best in life. I’m so happy you came to spend time with us!
      Love from your mum,
      Lily

    • Lily says:

      Rosie-mai!
      I’m happy to hear from you!
      You’re welcome! I’m glad that spending time with us has made you feel better.
      Please remember to take care of yourself!
      Love from your holiday mum,
      Lily

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