I am such a complete sentimental bundle of emotions at the holidays and so as soon as Thanksgiving ends, I am all about letting the people around me know how much I love them and how very much I am looking forward to celebrating with them this holiday season and YOU are not gonna get away without having to tolerate all my gushy, mushy emotions!
We have always had ‘extra’ people around our table during the holidays -sometimes because they cannot get home for the holidays, or they have no place to go. I have three children – one gay son who is 24, one straight son who is 22 and one queer daughter who is 18. I cannot imagine how hard it would be for them not to have a loving, welcoming, accepting, and joyous place to be at the holidays – so if you want to be in our warm, boisterous, loud and food-filled home, please join us! Our kids keep coming back and bringing their friends, so we feel we are doing something right! YOU will fit right in and will be laughing along with us right away.
We will decorate our tree on my birthday, which is December 11 – I’ll be 52. Our eldest and his boyfriend will join us – there is nothing like having two very dapper gay men (both of whom work in retail!) to help with decorating – ha ha – they know I’m kidding, but they are both better at untangling the lights than anyone else. Typically we will order take out and sit next to the tree when it is all done. This year, I am going to bake my own cake – mostly because it is really the only cake I want to eat. Chocolate, chocolate, and chocolate and a family recipe.
Our middle son will join us after his college exams are over. He loves to bring home other kids (two for Thanksgiving) and he also loves to cook – mostly meat – such a carnivore. He will sleep alot over the three weeks he is home and have a ton of friends over and they will stay up too late at night. We will all play Cards Against Humanity together. The kids like that their Dad and I have somewhat dirty minds and do not get offended by this great game! Have you played? Hard to describe, but “Bees?” and “Assless Chaps” are my favorite cards. I suggest to get a group of friends together and play sometime.
We have a ton of family coming to celebrate Christmas with us too. I am so grateful that everyone is loving and accepting of all of our kids – although my daughter has not come out to her grand parents yet….it took them some time to completely accept our older son, so she just wants to wait. It is a little hard when my mother-in-law wants to know what kind of guy she is interested in – but she also keeps trying to buy my great, smart daughter cashmere sweater sets, and , trust me, that’s not happening either. My kids are just who they are, and because we love, adore, respect, admire and support them as such – the rest of the family learns to do so as well.
We all love to EAT and have many holiday traditions around food. Everyone is required to help cook and/or tidy up. We make chex mix and buttercrunch toffee as gifts and we make all kinds of special foods for dinner – always meat – not many vegetarians in this house – but so many vegetable side dishes and desserts that no one has EVER gone hungry.
We also have dogs – two big ones. They love everyone and will out their big, soft heads in the lap of anyone who needs a little extra comfort. Dogs’ ears are therapeutic!
I am sending you love and hugs because you are special and valued.
Your Holiday Mom, Elizabeth