I want you to know that I do not have any first-hand experience either being or raising a member of the LGBTQ community. I don’t know what you have faced, what you are facing, or what you will face. I won’t pretend to know. It’s not my job to know. It’s simply my job to say to you with open arms and open heart “I am here with you. I stand with you. I see you for who you really are, all that you deserve to be … in all your beauty, greatness, talent, and heart … You.are.loved.” Plain and simple! Know that for every mom like me there are literally millions more out there who know what is right, and know what it means to live, speak and act from a place of pure love. Imagine those millions: their knowing, and their energy and love, surrounding and enveloping you now with eternal support, kindness, and acceptance.
And now, I invite you to take a little journey with me. Fortunately for us, we get to take this journey together not bound by time or space but within the limitless realm of our own minds and hearts. Not just in our imaginations, but rather meeting in a very real dream-space that we create together. Let us call this space, shall we say … “Holimatrix” (get it? “Holiday” + “matrix”?!) In order to go there, all we need to do is close our eyes and *see* it. Heck… Since we are creating the rules, sweet child, let’s do it with our eyes open! (Read on!)
The first stop on our journey in the Holimatrix will be a winter wonderland … a snowy field. We are bundled warmly as together we look up to watch the snowflakes fall and land on our noses against the grey winter sky. We giggle! In the cold, crisp air, you can sense the absolute purity of nature, and suddenly you’re reminded that just like a snowflake, you are a truly unique and beautiful being.
The next stop on our journey is the doorway of a beautiful home. We approach the golden door decorated with colorful bells and winter greens. You open the door and we enter. A waft of warm air envelopes us. You take off your coat and notice the delicious aroma of spiced apple cider. You turn to find your holiday family greeting you: Your holiday sister, Avani (an amazing, beautiful 7 year old), rushes to offer you a snuggly hug. Your jolly holiday dad, loving holiday grandparents, and friendly holiday cousins all greet you with love and smiles. We are all so proud of who you are & who you’ve chosen to be, and we are tickled pink to get to spend the day with you!
The final stop on our journey is the living room, by the fireplace. After a full meal and day of family time, everyone else has gone to bed. It’s just you and me, your holiday mom. You cozy up next to the fire and close your eyes, feeling the warmth sink into your bones. I hum your favorite tune as you fall asleep. The last thing you hear from me as you drift off is “I love you just the way you are.”
Remember: Any time you need your fill of love this holiday season, meet me in your heart and mind in our Holimatrix – I promise to be there.
Big big big hugs!!!! You are not alone. Love love love to you now and forever!
(Your holiday mom) 💕