I want to write to you a letter just as you would want your own mom to write. I hope I can speak to you wherever you are on your journey—this beautiful, challenging journey of discovering your place in the lesbian-gay-bisexual-transgender-queer-questioning community.
The holiday season is when a whole host of emotions compete for attention within most of us. There may be fear that you will be “outed” to some relation whose reaction you anticipate will be bad. There may be sorrow because you can’t share the identity of the person you love–or anxiety that people you come “out” to will not accept you–or loneliness , when you feel no one really knows you. You might feel especially at holiday time your rejection by your faith group. Continue reading →
First of all, Hugs. I’m that kind of person – so when you’re rolling with me that’s what you get; and lots of them.
This time of year can really suck, to be blunt. The inflated expectations for the “perfect” holiday (Just what is that anyway? I still haven’t figured it out, and I have a half century of holidays behind me already!), and the “perfect” family to spend those days with. My family certainly isn’t perfect; we live a noisy, crazy, chaotic life. But I’d love to share it virtually with you, even just for this brief time. Continue reading →
It’s that time of year again- the time when everyone talks about peace and joy, when smiles and good wishes are passed out like candy, when families gather to share their love. For most people, the holidays are a happy time, but I know for many, they can be challenging, especially for those whose families are less than accepting of who they are. If this is you, I’m sorry. I’m sorry if you have to face the holidays without your family of origin, and I’m sorry if they, or anyone else, has made you feel less than wonderful about yourself or who you love. No one deserves that, and in an effort to insure you have a happy holiday, I’m offering to be your Holiday Mom. Though you may not be able to spend your holiday with us in person, know that there is a family out there that is thinking of you this year, and who thinks you are just fine, just as you are. Continue reading →
This is my blessing for your this solstice (and feel free to share it, because it is for ANYONE of any age who would like a holiday blessing!), plus a few words about the longest night of the year and why I created wwwYourHolidayMom.com.
Welcome home. It’s so good to have you here, even if only on a web page. I can’t wait to talk to spend time with you. If you’ve had a tough time, know you will not have that in your new adopted holiday home. We have both an adopted daughter and a gay son. So we welcome you with open arms, love, joy and acceptance.
We want you to feel the love you deserve, just because you’re you. We love you just the way you are. (Continued, including an additional message from Dad Bob) Continue reading →
Ohhhh, there you are!! We found each other . . . yay!
My name is Tamilyn, or as the others call me, “The Momma.” Today, I am your Holiday Mom.
I would love to be able to give you a big, squishy hug . . . hugs warm my heart. I am an open, loving mom who is so excited to be here with you to be your loudest cheerleader!
I am a mother of two fabulous boys. My oldest is 23, and he is straight, while my youngest bundle of light is gay. He is 20 now and has been out for eight years. I tried very hard to show and allow my children to express themselves from the time they were born. Davi came out to me in a letter when he was 12. I still have and cherish that letter. How hard it must have been for him to have such courage in sharing so much of himself at such a young age . . . soooo very courageous! I, as his mother, and knowing my child, thought maybe he was special and had always made a point of stressing that sexuality was a personal thing and it did not make any difference whatsoever in a soul’s life or potential, nor was it more important than anything else! Continue reading →
Hi there. I’m excited to be your virtual Holiday Dad this year.
I know that this time of year is stressful, to say the least, what with dinners, guests, presents, parties, and all of that other stuff that make the holidays fantastic and terrible at the same time, but I wanted to just take a minute and talk with you. I wanted to let you know something fantastically important. That thing is this: I love you, and I am so very, very proud of you. What you’ve done, what you’re doing right now, is the most difficult and terrifying thing anyone can do, and you’re doing it so much better than I ever could dream of. Continue reading →
This lovely season should be a time of family and gifts, but the biggest gift of this season is that of acceptance and love. I am a mother of three teenagers that bring joy to my life. One thing that I have always held close to my heart, no matter what their life choices are, is that I would support whomever they love and whatever they wanted to do or be in their lives. Though you may be in a place right now where this support has never been offered to you, I am here to let you know that I do. Right now. Continue reading →
How fortunate am I? To be your Holiday Mom for such a loving soul who just wants to be loved and accepted for you.
I am Mom Rosie, also known as Debbie, and the holidays are a time of year for some to celebrate with family and friends. For others, it may be a time to shy away from because it’s a reminder of what may not be. Having a warm loving, accepting family. A family who loves you for who you are.
For me, this time of year is very difficult. Four years ago, five days before Christmas, my son passed away. I was devastated. My world was turned upside down. That day when there was a moment of quiet, I picked up my gratitude journal and started writing how grateful I was for the 30 years I was gifted and blessed to be Ken’s mom. Continue reading →
I’m sending you a holiday gift of unconditional love from my heart to yours. As your Adopted Mom, your happiness is the most important thing in the world to me. You see, as a mom, it is my job and your birthright to be loved for who you are and not for what others expect you to be. When I think of that tiny baby placed in my arms looking up at me with trusting eyes, I vowed to give them everything and protect them from any hurt or pain. I promised to put my own needs aside, put their happiness high above my own, and make their life as wonderful and joyous as possible . . . and speaking of joy, I know this is a time of year which can make you feel sad and lonely when many others are cheery and full of holiday spirit. So, as your mom, I’d like to remind you that you are not alone. There are moms like me who would love to adopt you and welcome you into their homes this holiday season, and now I’m opening the door to my home, where you will smell my homemade chicken soup, join in the laughter, and be embraced by a loving family who adores you, a dad, two sisters, and two brothers.
My youngest daughter, Jazz, is 12. She’s your adoring holiday sister. Jazz was born a boy, but from the time she was five, she has lived life as a girl. She is transgender and proud of who she is, I call her “my beautiful trans angel,” and I give thanks every day for the honor of being her mother. Jazz has been an advocate for trans rights for half her life, and is leading the trans kids movement. She often gives speeches and her biggest message to all who listen is, “Just because your brain doesn’t match your body, doesn’t make you a freak or a bad person, in fact, I think it’s just the opposite. Transgender kids like me are unique and special.” She’s a pretty amazing little girl. Continue reading →