Happy New Year! from Shamama

Robin RiceDear Holiday Child,

Well, another year has come and gone, and here we are – each one of us poised to grow, change and love in 2017. I hope you are excited about the year, because that is the perfect way to begin. Dream big dreams, and we holiday moms will dream alongside you!

True, is has been a hard year in 2016, and there have been setbacks. We won’t sugar coat that truth. We’ll honor it. BUT, as your very first holiday mom, I will also remind you that you are stronger than you think, braver than you know, and more beautiful than you can imagine. Even if you have had it bad this year, and have lost a little confidence, please know that there is always someone who is struggling that you can help. Yes, YOU can help someone somehow – and it will do you both a world of good. Honestly, I am hoping you will take all the holiday love we’ve had this season for you here and pay it forward. Bring hope and love to someone who needs it even more than you. Why? Because giving of ourselves is what makes life worthwhile for all of us. (I’ll be telling you that every year till you are 92 at least, because that never changes!)

As for our house this New Year’s Day, we are not likely to make resolutions – we all know how those don’t last. But we will be thinking about who we want to become in the coming year. Also, about what we want to enjoy more, and how we’ll accomplish that. Feel free to tell me your plans and dreams in the comments – I would love to hear!

Behind all of our 2017 family plans will be to keep LOVING you, our holiday child. We wish you the very, very best. You mean so much to us. Truly, you do.

As for next year, I just got word that Letter Mama Yvonne will once again do the work that makes all this happen behind the scenes. So yes, we will be back come Thanksgiving! (By the way, I hope you’ll take a moment to thank Mama Yvonne in the comments, it would mean a lot to her I know! You don’t hear from her directly much, but she has put in countless hours to make that work. Thank you Mama Yvonne! AND if you are on Tumblr, a nice thank you to Auntie Marni would be lovely – she shows up every single day to be sure you have someone reading your comments and letting you know you are loved there!)

Between now and next year, if you find yourself needing a little mom love, you can check out all our past letters. We don’t answer comments as often, but we do have the site up year round. It’s here for you when you need it!

So now it is time – imagine me lifting a toast to you, in honor of all that you are, and wishing you the happiest of New Year’s.

With so much love,




  1. Kylie says:

    I love your caring words. I’m a 16 year old lesbian and those letters keep me smiling during this time

  2. Rob Scott says:

    Thank you for being back on line this year and making a difference!

    Spot On with your comments below:

    You might say this website is just a fantasy – but you’d be wrong, there, holiday child. The love is real. The care is palpable. The moms FEEL for you, with you, and about you!

    Love, Shamama (aka Robin Rice, founder)

    Nice article on NBC News:

    “We have quite a few comments where [readers] said ‘I was going to take my life tonight and I found this and I’m not going to,’” Rice told NBC News. “It’s really powerful.”

    “What a parent has the opportunity for is unconditional love and that’s the opportunity that I wish every mom would have for their child regardless, but it’s not the case,” she acknowledged.

    Julie Compton / Nov.23.2017 / 10:42 AM ET / NBC News


    Truth, Wisdom, Love and Sincerity, to ALL Mankind.

    Rob Scott
    Sandia Park, New Mexico

    • Shamama says:

      Thank you Rob, we are so grateful for your sharing here with us. We were so honored to be a part of Julie’s article. It means all the more we can love through our letters. Big hugs to you! Shamama

  3. Belsi says:

    Thank you. All of you, especially Mama Yvonne for this years’ letters.
    I may not be a kid anymore by any definition, but as someone who hasn’t spoken to their mom in four years because she “couldn’t deal with who I chose to be”, a community where I don’t have to worry about who I am or how I present gender-wise means a lot to me. To have a mom who loves me and doesn’t think me a disappointment– her kindest words for me– well, it means more than you can imagine.
    Thank you. Thank you, Holiday Moms, and Dads, and Siblings, and everyone else. Thank you.

    • Brigid says:

      Hi Belsi,
      We all need love and acceptance, whatever our age! Know that you can find love and acceptance here anytime. Of course you are a wonderful person and perfect just the way you are. Stay strong! Hugs.

  4. Yann says:

    Good morning Holydays Moms!
    I’m french so my english is completely random sometimes but I’ll do my best.
    Thank you so much for all these letters, I really cried for each and every one, I wish my parents would be so supportive to me. Since one year I’ve made my coming-out as a boy to my family, my parents keep doing like nothing is real, and those three months of summer have been absolutely awful.
    Being deadnamed and misgendered every time someone talks to you is like a hammer strike right in the face, and something I wish to nobody. Everyone deserves love from their family.
    So I’d like to thank you very much for these letters.
    Reading them was feeling that someone out there truly cares about how I feel, live, and this feeling is awesome!
    Thank you.

    • Letter Mama Yvonne says:


      I am so glad you found us. During the off season this site is not monitored on a daily basis so I am sorry it took a bit to response. Please be sure to come back between Thanksgiving (Nov 23) and New Years to get a daily dose of caring.

      Letter Momma Yvonne

  5. Daniel says:

    Hi Mom,
    My wish for this year is to recover. I’ve been battling severe depression for quite some time and I finally got a prescription for antidepressants for Christmas for myself. It’s a low dose and I know it’s going to increase but everything takes time (even though I’m very impatient). However my mental illness hasn’t changed who I am inside and I’m grateful that that hasn’t changed. I am very anxious and scared about what this year is going to bring, but I really do hope that we will all be safe. Best wishes for everyone.
    Your Little Daniel

  6. Your Holiday Ciocia says:

    Thank you Mama Yvonne and all the holiday moms! Thank you to our holiday visitors for sharing a bit of youselves with us.

  7. Martha says:

    Thank you, and thank you to Momma Yvonne for writing these letters. These have helped so much this year. My plans for the year are 1) finish my junior year of college and start my senior year; 2) start looking at jobs in the world of theatre (more backstage, but being onstage would be cool too); 3) learn voice over work; 4) live and learn and love and grow with my girlfriend (we celebrate our first actual relationship anniversary on Jan 3!! We’ve known each other for 7 1/2 years now) and 5) continue writing my book. Oh, and maybe knit my sweater. That’d be cool.
    Thank you so much and thanks to all the holiday moms. Reading these words have helped me through the pain and tears of the holiday season. Knowing that there are people out there that do not judge harshly and automatically paint me as evil because I love my girlfriend…is just amazing.
    Happy New Year to you as well and may it be good to you.

    • Shamama says:

      Dear Martha, I am sooooo glad that you have been with us and a part of our holiday family. Your goals are awesome and happy anniversary! Have a great year! We love you, Shamama

      • Emmett says:

        Thank you moms, all of you, for these letters. This was my first holiday season away from my parents and 5 younger siblings. My mom and siblings are pretty supportive of me being transgender and my dad says he is but it’s been over a year since I came out and he still calls me a girl and my deadname. I got disowned by my parents back in August for other reasons so I haven’t seen anyone much. I spent Christmas with my grandparents and got to see my siblings (and got in a car accident but I’m ok). But reading these made me feel like I actually had a mother who cares still. Thank you so much.

        • Brigid says:

          Hey Emmett,
          We are all hoping you had a good year this year. Best wishes for a happy holiday season, from all the Holiday Moms, Holiday Siblings and other Holiday Relatives here! Hugs!

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