Holiday Mom: Sogi Ruth

Holiday Mom: Sogi RuthHello Most Precious Soul!

I am writing to wish you the very best over this Holiday season and to share that you are, by far, not alone. I am the mom to a beautiful 14 year old girl who I thought would never happen, as I lost 9 babies before her birth. You are one of the most precious in our Native American tradition, being recognized as “Twice Blessed” or one who is connected to all life in this world. We in the Native culture respect and revere the incredible potential you have for healing and good.

Christmas is a tough time of the year for so very many. Me included… So I try to make a good tradition every year with my hubby and daughter. We keep it very simple with a home made gift or two, spending a quiet day together talking and watching movies (my favorite is Little Lord Fauntleroy with Ricky Schroeder), and then having a simple Christmas dinner. Usually, it is a roast (Roast Beast) from our farm with farm grown veggies. This year, it will be a venison roast from my daughter’s first hunt (very important in our culture). Dessert will be an apple pie, a mince pie, and crème fraische to poor over the top of both.

Now, as I close, I want you to know that I remember being confused as a child, and the pain that my adopted father had given me because I was different (seeking my own identity). I give you a hug, dear soul, because I had precious few growing up. You are loved unconditionally in my heart. I will send you as many hugs as you need, and offer a small gift for your special holiday celebration. I remember one that I had, alone. I had a can of soup to celebrate the Holiday, and made a single origami crane ornament from the label. This was 23 years ago, and I still have that crane… because it symbolized my freedom. It was HOPE in paper form. Please know that you CAN and WILL make a difference in someone’s life, whether you can see it or not. It is the quiet and the hidden who affect the most profound change.

Much love,

Sogi (Aunt) Ruth

Pronounced SUE-Ghee (Mi’q mac language)


  1. Robert Sloan says:

    Wow. Thank you. This is so moving… especially the crane. I’ve done cranes many times, either in hard circumstances like when I was locked up as a 14 year old kid or later on, just because I was alone and I could. I did them with mylar candy wrappers for the shine. They mean that hope, thank you, this touches me so much.

    I remember as a small child reading about the custom and wishing I was born in a tribe that had it instead of being white.

    • Your Holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Robert,

      I used to wish I had been born into a different culture too, but we can make our own now if we want to.

      I hope you had a great holiday and I will make a crane for you.

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