Dearest and best holiday child:
When I grew up, my mom (a single parent) really didn’t think much of holidays. She had a tree because I asked her to, but there were never presents from Santa under the tree and she used to hide in the bathroom with the lights off on Halloween. I love her, but I also really love building my own traditions.
This year, I’m so happy that my tradition is going to include bringing you into our home. We’re still struggling to figure out exactly what things we like to do at the holiday season…I like to make little presents and decorations for the house. Maybe you could help us make some ornaments for the tree; I’d love to have one with your name on it. My husband likes to leave cookies out for Santa and the reindeer and makes sure they get eaten down to crumbs by Christmas morning, so maybe you’d like to help with that too.
We don’t really have any special foods we love to eat — although I really love baking, so we could make bread and cookies or muffins. We are vegetarians, which I hope is okay, but we don’t mind making turkey for our loved ones if that’s what they really want to eat. My toddler daughter would probably throw all of hers on the floor and try to eat yours anyway…you don’t have to share with her, but I bet she’d be happy if you did. She loves eating off other people’s plates.
The one tradition I always remember from childhood is filling stockings with lots of tiny gifts (and an orange in the toe, chocolate or real). It delights me to watch you pulling little fun toys or silly hair clips or anything else I can possibly think of, out of your stocking and heaping them in a big pile next to you. We have special stockings for everyone, although we just got them at the dollar store, so I hope you weren’t expecting something hand embroidered! Sometimes something doesn’t have to be super fancy to be special.
You are so welcome in our home and our hearts. As my daughter would say, “hug and kiss”. I hope you feel the strength and love of this invitation and use it to feel as welcome as you have ever felt.