I am an “older Mom” with 2 grown daughters. My one daughter has 4 sons one of which is part of the LGBT community. The other daughter has Cerebral Palsy and is in a wheelchair. Having this unique situation has helped us reach out to others with open arms during the holidays and other times. We want you to feel welcome in our home through this letter and welcome the warmth and affection we have for you. Our minds and souls embrace you.
Cooking is not my strength but we gather together at my daughter’s house and rejoice and enjoy her wonderful dinner. I buy an ornament for each member of my family representing something they have done that year. That includes the 3 dogs! Each is marked with their name and the year so when they are adults they can put them on their tree. This year I will include one for you. Though not in my daughter’s home you will be in our hearts. Close your eyes and think of each one of us embracing you with warmth and love. Hopefully you will know you are not alone but part of the barking dogs and the holiday chaos of 4 excited kids and adults.
The holidays can be difficult. But there are sooo many people in this world that are accepting of diversity. People have tried to “cure” my daughter of her Cerebral Palsy. We know that is not going to happen. She lives in a group home and my family makes sure they can celebrate too. I make flower arrangements and bring them to their home. I will think of you when I design the centerpieces. Just imagine the smell of the evergreens and the look of the pinecones and flowers on their table. Please be part of the celebration with us. We all laugh together and enjoy each other’s company. We make sure they are left with a feeling of love and know that we are all the same.
Our family holiday will be different this year because we will all have you on our minds. Though we do not have a large number of family traditions we are a close knit family and love one another unconditionally. We want you to be part of that even though you are not physically with us. You will be in our hearts and part of the dinners, the gift opening, the tree decorating and the laughter and love that abounds. Cherish who you are and remember there will be people keeping you close throughout the whole holiday season.
Love and hugs,