Holiday Mom: Angela

Holiday Mom: AngelaDear Holiday Child,

I welcome you into my home with open arms. Our home is filled with many traditions I can’t wait to share with you. In our home everyone is welcome. I have four children. My oldest came out to us as transgender three years ago when he was 25. We accept our son and have helped him along this journey knowing our love and support is important. Please know that you too are loved and I am here to let you know how blessed I feel to share this holiday with you.

We start our holidays with decorating every room with cheer. We always try to cut our own tree, but when we can’t it is still a family affair one that takes a lot of deciding. Who wants a fat one who wants a tall one haha but in the end once decorated its always perfect. We all get a new ornament each year so my children boxes are getting quite full. Christmas Eve has always been a special time with traditional Italian food like pasta, fish and of course those delicious cookies. Christmas morning we start with a big brunch attended by extended family. This too has special egg and french toast dishes, and min hot dogs in a brandy currant sauce ( yum ) that has been at every christmas brunch in my husbands family since he was a child. I also cook a big family Christmas dinner with lots of food and we welcome you to join in our feast.

We love being together especially at the holidays. We hope to make you feel welcome too. We would fill your plate with delicious food and your heart with love. We hope you know that you are special all year and that your strength and courage to be who you are makes you unique and wonderful. Remember every day that being who you are inspires others and you inspire me too. I hope this year brings you joy, love, and wonderful memories. Remember I am here for you and I am proud of you !!

Love and Hugs,

your Holiday Mom Angela

21 comments

  1. Hayden says:

    Thank you for your sweet letter, my heart has been hurting of late of everything I am going through with my own family, I miss them deeply, even though I am still with them.
    I miss them knowing me fully for even though my parents know who I am, they refuse to know me fully, it’s felt like my heart has been breaking, I’ve been sitting here reading these letter for the last few hours as it’s already been a rough night and why not cry more! Haha, thank you for helping me remember that someday people will see me as wholly who I am.

    • Sibling Kas says:

      Hey Hayden,

      I know that feeling of having parents who don’t see you for who you really are (or refuse to see you when you tell them). It hurts a lot, and I’m sorry you share that pain too. Wish I could be there to offer you a big hug and maybe some hot chocolate. (Or tea, I’ve totally got ten kinds of tea in my cupboard and some pretty great homemade mugs.)

      Someday people WILL see you–and not only that, they will love you for all the things about yourself that others have thought were a problem. You are whole and valuable and real. You matter and you belong. There are so, so many people who are capable of seeing that and will absolutely love getting to know you. (I know because I’ve met some of them already. They are pretty great. And funny and loyal and all that sappy-but-important stuff.)

      P.S. Promise I won’t think anything less of you if you cry. It’s ok. You still rock. <3

      Love,
      Your big sister

    • Angela says:

      Dear Hayden,
      So sorry to here there are troubles with your family. Please know that I am sending a big hug your way !! I hope too that you will be seen for the wonderful person that your are. Its ok to cry , I hope those times are less than more. I will be thinking of you in the days to come . I wish you were here with us ,you will be in spirit !
      Your Holiday Mom Angela

  2. Sean says:

    This made me feel warm. As I Always knew i was a boy and so did my mom im sure she did. I feel lonely on holidays for i have No parents in to support in my life changing decision. But thank you for this

    • Shamama says:

      Hello Sean – as a mom of a trans son, I can say that there are many moms out here who would hold you and say “be who you are!” and “I love you” so I’ll say it for all of us… Love, Shamama

    • Angela says:

      Please know that I support you and that I am proud of you for being your true self. I am sure that you will make the best decisions for you ! You are a true hero and you are loved !
      Love Holiday Mom Angela

  3. Kate says:

    Thank you for your warm message. You’re talk of food and dinners and family time really struck some memories for me. Memories of what I’m missing. This will be my first Christmas without my family. They only want their own expectations around them and haven’t been able to accept me as their Transgender daughter. So, I’ve been unable to be with them and I miss them terribly during this holiday season.

    Thank you for your love for all of us!

    • Beth & Kelly says:

      Hi Kate,

      Thinking of you and sending you a few extra hugs and a really goofy Christmas sweater. We miss you here. You bring such joy to everyone lucky enough to know you for the lovely woman you are. We are so thrilled to watch you shine.

      Love,
      Your cousins,
      Beth & Kelly

    • Angela says:

      I am so sorry you are with out your family. I hope you can find support with your friends ,I know that my son has a great support system.Hold onto those memories ……but make knew ones . I am proud of you for my holiday daughter.!
      Love Holiday Mom Angela

  4. Lucy says:

    Thank you for this lovely message. It was really heart warming and assures me Christmas is going to be better this year.

    • Angela says:

      Dear Lucy,
      Wishing you the best Christmas and Year to come ! May your heart be filled will love as my heart is full of joy be able to share it with you ! Love your Holiday Mom, Angela

    • Angela says:

      You are very welcome Barb C,
      I hope you have a very happy holiday ! Wishing you a fabulous New Year too !
      Your Holiday Mom Angela

  5. Rose M says:

    What an amazing letter AND Food, thank you so much.

    Since coming out as Transgender I’ve spent most of my Christmas is at Starbucks, so I wouldn’t be alone.

    A person that I am in a choir with has invited me into their home with their family for Christmas, i’m a little scared, it’s been so long since I’ve been welcomed into my home for the holidays.

    • Your Holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Rose,

      I’m happy to hear you will be spending Christmas with another family. I hope everything works out for you and you make some new memories, good luck!

    • Krysann J says:

      I’m so sorry you’ve had to spend holidays without your family. Hugs, love! I hope this Christmas is a little bit better and that you feel the warmth and love you deserve. ❤️

    • Angela says:

      Dear Rose M
      What a lucky family to have you in their home ! It was so nice of them to welcome you. It’s ok to be nervous. I too get nervous sometimes around new people . I am glad you will be spending time with friends, enjoy yourself and Merry Christmas !
      Love , Your Holiday Mom Angela

    • Angela says:

      Dear Rose M,
      What a lucky family to have you in their home ! I hope you are able to attend , sorry you have the flu .Please feel better soon, Its ok to be nervous around new people. I feel the same way too sometimes. Enjoy the company of new friends !
      Your holiday Mom Angela

  6. James says:

    This was amazing to read, coming from a transgender child, knowing that there are people out there who will accept me for who i am gives me hope. Thank you for the love, this Christmas is amazing with you
    Love,
    James

    • Angela says:

      Dear James,
      It makes me happy that you are your true self ! I know that you are awesome ! I am happy to have you as my holiday child ! Merry Christmas !
      Love Your Holiday Mom Angela

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