Holiday Mom: Mama McA

Holiday Mom: Mama McADear beloved child—

The Christmas season is approaching, and I can’t wait to spend the holiday time with you! The gifts and celebration are fun, but the best part is just hanging out with you, hearing what you are doing, what you are thinking about. Seeing the amazing person you are continuing to grow into being—that is the gift I want the most.

I’m hoping that this year, you will help me bake the dozens and dozens of cookies that we love every year. I love sharing that with you, because it was such an important part of my holidays growing up. Aunt Jan and I used to spend hours, into the middle of the night, kneading dough, grinding nuts, making frosting, burning our fingers on the thumbprint cookies to make the little dents where the jam goes. I know you will love the apricot crescents that Dad rolls out on the counter, and we put together so they look like little babies in blankets. And the melting moment cookies that Auntie Nette renamed “butt cookies” before you were born—so yummy! And of course, Colin’s favorite lemon cheese dainties—maybe we will make him an extra batch to take back to the barracks when his leave is over! Which ones will be your favorites this year?

The best part will be going to “unchurch” at the Unitarian Universalist congregation. Even though we aren’t Jesus-y any more, that doesn’t mean we won’t love going there together and singing all the Christmas songs together. Luckily the UUs like all traditions, so we get the old-fashioned songs there. And then we will come home, and bust out the cookies (and probably the whiskey, unless Dad makes us try egg nog, AGAIN), and watch A Christmas Story. We will get a bit tipsy and head off for a wonderful night’s sleep.

Then, in the morning, coffee and something special to eat—maybe cinnamon rolls, or a yummy egg casserole. All of you kids will open your stockings, since I have been keeping them here for you. I will wrap all the chapsticks and new pens and silly stuff individually, so you have lots to open. We will take turns opening gifts one-by-one, to make the day last so long. We will laugh and smile and cheer everything, and the dogs will get another lesson in how to unwrap presents. Mostly, we will just be together, and love one another.

Later we will make dinner together and relax. Maybe some of our friends will join us, and we will have a white elephant gift exchange, or just play a game. None of this will be complete unless you are with us. We will be so happy to have you join us for our holiday traditions. The holidays are a time of love—sharing love and feeling love. We love you and we want to spend our family time with you.

Much, much love, and longing to see you,

Mama McA


  1. Savannah says:

    Thank you so much! I appreciate this more than you will ever know. We all have our struggles and I’ll forever be known as a “phase”. Thank you for all you do! Merry Christmas Mama. You’ve done wonders for me!

    • Mama McA says:

      Merry Christmas Savannah! I love your positive energy and I wish you hope and love this holiday season. Keep on going!

  2. Bryan J says:

    Omg thank you guys for making this website. It means so much to me knowing there is acceptance out there for someone like me out there. Its difficult for me because I can’t stand up to my homophobic parents because im only 15.

    • Mama McA says:

      Hi Bryan–I’m so proud of you seeking and finding support out in the world. There’s lots of people who will love and care for you–keep reaching out!
      Much love to you!

  3. JB says:

    This made me really happy for some reason, I can’t come out to my family because they are super religious and I’m a bisexual atheist. I think my mom is starting to catch on to the bisexual part and doesn’t seem too pleased. This made me feel a little better, thank you.

    • Mama McA says:

      Hi JB–I am glad to have given you a little peace. I hope that you will love yourself continually, and know you are valued and loved by me.

  4. LinLaC says:

    Kids–do you know how wonderfully perfectly you were made? That ‘of all the zillions of people on this planet, there is just one uniquely made YOU? Only one! How lucky are we to be the mamas who love you and get to watch your glorious contribution to this world. Don’t hide your shine. Let us sit back and revelin it.

    • Mama McA says:

      You are so right! We are the lucky ones who get to see these beautiful kids bring their light to the world!

  5. Quinn says:

    I thought I’d be alone this Christmas, since I just came out as genderfluid and am not accepted.. But when I saw this letter, specifically, it made me feel not alone anymore. I’m literally in tears now. Thank you for this.

    • Mama McA says:

      Hi Quinn–I accept you and love you for who you are. I am thinking of you and sending you a big hug.
      Much love,
      Mama McA

      • Quinn says:

        Thank you. When the people you are forced to live with don’t accept you, its hard to really be yourself. I came out, afraid of the outcome, and that’s the outcome I received. To know that you are here for me and others like me, is amazing. You are very appreciated, thank you so much for being here.♥

  6. Briallen says:

    Uh… Hi Mama McA. I’ve really looked forward to something like this for so long. It’s not that myou family disowned me its… it just seems like the holiday seasons have just been a time of anticipation on anxiety; waiting for what’s going to go wrong this year.
    Lately it seems like my mom And I fight more since I came out to her, and she gets agitated and kinda mean when I bring LGBT stuff up around her… so I’ve been having so many problems with that and Imore looking forward so much to you and the aunties posts!
    I know I’m one of several people who are on here… but knowing people are here to support people like me And everybody who sees this makes me happy.

    • Mama McA says:

      Hi Briallen–I know you are facing hard struggles with your mom right now, and I hope they will work out so you can both love and understand each other.
      I am sending you wishes for strength and peace.
      Mama McA

  7. Prisma says:

    Thank you.. I was just told about this site.. I broke into tears reading this letter and the others.. it’s nice having some kind of family to welcome me as I am…

    • Mama McA says:

      Hi Dylan–Yay! I am so glad this made you happy! I’m baking more cookies today, so I will mark one with a D for you…

  8. Lily says:

    This made me tear up a little I have to be honest. All the stuff you spoke of is stuff I yearn for. I lost my mom last November and although I love her always – she never understood me. Now I live alone with no one and nothing. Just reading this is something I never knew I needed so much until just then.

    • Lisbeth says:

      I’m sorry you’re alone this Christmas. I’m on my own too, and it’s not great. I’m glad you’ve found us here.


    • Mama McA says:

      Dear Lily–thanks for reading my letter. I send you much love and wishes for joy.
      Mama McA

  9. Tiya says:

    Hi! I just found out about this website and your letter was the first I read. I am gay but my mom doesn’t know and is very homophobic and she also doesn’t understand how much I love decorating the house for Christmas and getting presents for the family, how much I try to make Christmas a good holiday for us and your letter made my eyes get teary. I just wanted to tell you I appreciate this letter so much.

    • Mama McA says:

      Hi Tiya and merry Christmas! I know that you are spreading love this season and I thank you for that. I wish you joy and peace this season. Take good care of yourself.

      • Tiya says:

        Hi! Aww! Thank you so much! It means so much to me. You and all the other parents on here are so so kind. We are so lucky to have such great people like you writing these letters. Merry Christmas.

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