Holiday Mom: Nashia

m20161203To my dearest holiday child,

I’m so excited to welcome you home for the holidays. This is most definitely my favorite time of year as evidenced by the way I go overboard on all the decorations in the house. Can you tell that snowmen are my favorite? All those Santa figurines? Most belonged to my grandmother, she passed away when I was 17 and out of all the people in my life, she was my biggest supporter. I wish everyone someone like her in their life.

In anticipation of your arrival I have made my very own homemade pumpkin roll with sweet cream cheese filling and crockpot hot cocoa. This year I would love to teach you to how to make it, passing on my recipes to my children is one of my favorite traditions. Your holiday brothers Alex who is 16 and Caleb who is 13 love my pumpkin roll; I hope you like it too! Alex has also asked to learn how to make it this year and I know we will have a blast in the kitchen learning to bake and listening to Christmas music. Do you hear that? I think the boys are getting ready to watch a Christmas movie, let’s get a slice and join them!

I love that for a brief time, we can surround ourselves with love and family and know that nothing bad can happen here. I know the rest of the world can be cruel and I wish I could keep you here forever, snuggled up in blankets with a fire in the fireplace and purring cats in your lap. You don’t have allergies, do you? With 6 cats in the house and 3 dogs, I want to make sure that you are comfortable! They cream and grey long hair cat that is rubbing on your legs is named Katniss. She was a rescue as a kitten and has become a total sweetheart. That big black cat is Salem; I know he’s huge! The last time we weighed him, he came in over 20lbs! He is also a rescue, we got him when he was only 10days old and had to be bottle fed. You wouldn’t know it by looking at him. He loves to lick your face!

This week will be crazy busy with last minute shopping for those perfect gifts and baking dozens of cookies. You can go with me to drop off cookies at the homeless shelter. I try to remind myself that no matter how bad I feel sometimes, there are always others worse off than I and by helping others, it reminds me to appreciate what I do have. You know what I appreciate this year? YOU! I am so grateful to have you with us, sharing our family traditions, food, and love with you. I’m hoping we will have one day just the two of us to go out and shop, we can get coffee or cocoa at the local coffee shop and bookstore “The Fuzzy Duck”. They have yummy sandwiches and we can do lunch. There are a number of quaint shops here that we can meander through and just spend the day together. I have no doubt that at least one night we will have friends over. They started a LGBTQ group on campus and we all met while fighting for marriage equality. They are amazing young adults who I think would be great role models for you to meet!

Christmas day is actually pretty low key considering all the hype leading up to it. The boys tend to sleep in but if you are an early bird than I will get them up and make coffee early! How does French toast casserole sound for breakfast? We will spend the morning playing and relaxing with our gifts before getting showers and going to the movies. Typically, we hit the matinee and see something fun and lighthearted. We agreed that you can pick the movie this year! After the movie, we will head over to China Star and have a dinner of Chinese buffet. It’s certainly an atypical way to celebrate but we love to be different. We celebrate differences in this home and celebrating Christmas this way is the ultimate way.

I just want you to know that you are so special to me. You are a treasure and I love and accept you for who you are. When the magic of this season fades, I will still be with you in your heart. Whenever you smell the magic of pumpkin spice, warm cocoa, and the burning of wood in a fireplace you can be assured that I am with you. I’m sending you all my love, all my hugs, and all my best wishes for an amazing year. I love you!

Sending love and happiness,

Your Holiday Mom Nashia


  1. Gabs says:

    Hi Holiday Mum.
    I wish my mum was more like you. I’ve told her hundreds of times that I’m agender and I go by they/them pronouns yet she still calls me a she. I don’t know what to do because I feel rude correcting her… Any advice?

    Also I’d love to learn your pumpkin roll recipe. I love dogs and cats!

  2. Kaitlyn says:

    This time of year has always been hard for me, I dont have much family to celebrate with and we cant afford very many presents or decorations 🙁 Im looking forward to this year with you though!
    much love,

  3. Ian Wonderboy says:

    Hello, my beautiful holiday Ma,
    How have you been? I really love the way you decorate the house, it makes me feel safe among all those snowmen and figurines. Also, it gives an artsy look to the house, I love seeing where you place the decorations every year!

    The pumpkin roll sounds delicious, and I would love to learn the recipe! I’m sure cooking with Alex and you will be so much fun, but I won’t let Caleb double dip on the mix!

    The cats sound lovely, I have a soft spot for Salem, that soft ball of love. I love Katniss’ name, Hunger Games fan here! If by any chance we get a new cat or dog, may I name it? I was thinking of getting a ferret one day, what is your opinion?

    Can we try out the new chocolate chip cookies recipe my best friend Theo (in who I may or may not have a sliiiight crush on) taught me? I’m sure everybody will like them. You know I’m going to marry coffee one day, you will be invited, and an equally lovely old book will be there. That campus group sounds like my kind of people. Would it now be a good moment to tell you I got in a fight with a stupid boy because they kept making fun of a good lesbian friend, Charlie, and I because I was transgender? Sorry for that, Ma, I know you hate when I get hurt, but it’s just a black eye.

    I actually do get up early, I can’t help it!! I prepared some gifts for you and the boys, but they are a surprise so don’t tell them!! By the way, Chinese food sounds amazing!!

    You are so special to me, Ma. You are sweet, caring and feel like home. Thanks for making of this one of the best holidays ever! Remember me in every Christmas while drinking coffee, you know how much I love it, or when you smell vanilla, it always calms me down when I’m having a panic attack. I had one last week, but don’t worry, I’m fine.

    Oh, I almost forgot. Would it be alright if Theo comes to our house on Christmas morning? He said he wanted to give me my present and also to meet you and the boys, I can’t seem to be talking about anything else!!

    I love you and the boys so much, you are so beautiful and the best holiday mom ever.

    Yours truly,
    Ian, your transgender holiday son

  4. Nashia says:

    I’m so sorry this year will be extra hard for you my darling daughter. You are loved, you are special, wonderful, and im sending you all my holiday love and cheer. (And some extra just in case) xoxo

  5. Cassidy says:

    Hi Mama!

    I’m so excited to be spending the holidays with you! My cat will be so jealous that I’m seeing other cats while I’m here 🙂

    I can’t wait to try some pumpkin roll and learn how to make it myself! My sister is gluten-free and always has some exotic recipes in mind – I’m sure she’d love to play around with modifying it to fit her own needs as well and I hope you don’t mind her trying to offer you some, too! She’s always so proud of her recipes.

    I’m with my brothers on this one – it’d be a shocker to see me awake before 11am if I don’t have to be. I’m sure we’ll still have more than enough time to celebrate Christmas, just as long as we can go to the Christmas Eve service the night before so we don’t have to miss it by sleeping in too late!

    I deeply appreciate your warm welcome and wish I could stay all year.

    ~Your holiday child, Cassidy

    • Nashia says:

      I’m sure we could find a gluten free version and have lots of fun in the process! I won’t let you leave without an extra one for your sister!!!

      I wish I could keep the holiday magic alive all year for you! Please know you are loved and it gets better xoxoxo

  6. LC says:

    Thank you so much. I am kind of dreading the holidays this year but this site is great! Thank you for being so supportive, it’s soooo great to have people like you.

  7. Sean says:

    I really want to learn how to make pumpkin rolls they sound amazing just thinking about them make me hungry and i would love some crockpot hot cocoa. thank you for being a holiday mom ❤

    • Nashia says:

      The internet is a magical place and where most of my recipes start my dear child. The best part is that you can add your own flavor and make it unique to you! Sending love!

  8. Haze says:

    This sounds amazing and fun! I love Chinese food! I also love animals! 6 cats and 3 dogs is not a problem, they will probably love me I’ve been known to be an animal charmer. Also Yum cocoa though I might have to stray away from to much sugar I think I’m getting a cold in my throat. Your house sounds like a wonderful place to stay for the holidays. My immediate family has been supportive as has one of my cousins but we are going to drive 7 hours to my grandparents this year and the only thing Im looking forward to is snow, that one cousin and food. It’s hard because they won’t respect my chosen he/him pronouns. Which is really hard because my dysphoria is so bad and I don’t want T and I can’t bind. So thank you for allowing me to come to your house instead! Coffee shops and bookstores and shopping sound like a great thing to do with you! And French Toast casserole sounds wonderful for breakfast. What would you make for my birthday on the 20th? I’ll be 17. I would also invite my boyfriend but he lives in Idaho, but if we’re just staying at your house then maybe he could come and stay for the holidays, if you don’t mind. Thank you for inviting me to your house. I love you mom!

    • Nashia says:

      I’m so glad to hear that your immediate family is supportive! We will have so much fun while they visit your other family and in our house; the more the merrier so of course your boyfriend would be welcome. If he makes you happy and treats you well than he’s okay in my book!

      Birthday dinners are the birthday boys choice, so you name it and we make it happen (or try anyway).

      Be safe, sending love my son!

  9. Daniel says:

    Hi Mom,
    I feel like I’m being spoiled with you at all the nice food and sweet cats that come to play. I’m always willing to try new things and your pumpkin roll sounds amazing. And I had no idea you can make hot cocoa in the crockpot!
    I love cats, mom though I’ve never had one I’ve played with many. My bio dad hates cats for an unknown reason. And I have no allergies so send all of your pets to me!
    I would be happy to help bake cookies for the shelter and I’ll try my best not to take a couple, I love baking. I think it’s great that you do that every year. Where I live it’s very dangerous to go into the city so I stay away and stay in my little town.
    I was surprised when I read about your Christmas traditions, they’re completely different than my bio family’s. And as I’m sure you guessed, I would love to try French toast casserole. I would love to join you in your traditions but please understand I might take longer in the bathroom if there isn’t a towel covering the mirror. I really hate looking at myself without my binder. But I’m so happy you guys have different traditions and embrace it.
    Thank you for letting me into your home and your life, I will remember you whenever I have hot cocoa or pumpkin pie. I can never say thank you enough.
    Love, Your Little Transboy Daniel

    • Nashia says:

      My beautiful boy, you never have to worry about trying not to take cookies when we bake for the shelter! We always have to taste test and you’ll have a care package of epic proportions to take with you filled with your favorites!

      You never have to feel shame for your body in this house, but I know how hard dysphoria can be. I’ll have your brothers take care of the mirrors before you arrive my love.

      Sending my love to you, my son! Xoxo

  10. Kate says:

    It all sounds so wonderful, especially when I’m really dreading the holidays this year, when I used to love them. This will be my first Christmas without my family after I told them I was really a girl and started my transition. That pumpkin roll and crock pot cocoa sounds amazing and I would love to learn how to make it. Thanks for being a holiday mom.

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