Holiday Mom: Mama Bea

m20161126Hello and welcome to my home,

Don’t mind the dog or the chaos my daughters create. Take a seat at the table and get ready to enjoy a great meal. I love Thanksgiving and am so happy to share this one with you. In our house Thanksgiving is unique. As the years have past we are a smaller group but we have kept certain traditions. Our pilgrims are partially Cuban and our turkey will have sides of black beans, rice, yuca, sweet potatoes, plantains and stuffing. The stuffing is made following my mom’s recipe and we keep multiple copies of the recipe on hand because just like some life events are officials until they are Facebook official, thanksgiving at my house isn’t official until my mom’s stuffing is on the table.

As you fill your belly with food and my kids ask you a million questions know that in my home you are part of the family. This life is too short and too crazy to not try to choose love and happiness every chance you get. I am proud that you have chosen to be true to yourself and know that while they may not fully understand yet, my girls look up to you because you are being yourself.

Every opportunity I get I tell them to be the best them that they can be and I want to share that sentiment with you. You are who you are and that alone makes you worthy of love and respect. Know in your heart of hearts that there is value in being true to yourself.

While your stop in my home will be brief know that as you travel your journey I will think of you and hope you are happy, safe and loved. The world is a better place because you are here and don’t forget this for a second.

As the evening winds down and now the little ones start to fade, I will make sure that you have a proper Cuban coffee and some sweets. Thanksgiving is usually finished with a serving or two of pumpkin pie and flan. The adults may be a little giddy from too much food or too much wine, but know that you are in welcome and joyful company. Always know that you belong here and that there will be a smile to greet you at the door and some food waiting at the table.

All the best,

Mama Bea


  1. Daniel says:

    Hi mom,
    Thank you for inviting me to your unique Cuban thanksgiving, it was a real treat to have something different this year. The stuffing was wonderful, and of course the pumpkin pie was too, pumpkin pie is my favorite.
    I have no problem answering any questions your daughters may have, I’m a very open person and I’m happy to be a part of your family. These holidays for me are tough since I work in retail and spend so much money on people who make me uneasy about coming out of the closet. I grin and bear it though because I have moms like you who remind me that I’m wonderful the way I am, out or not. I appreciate you for accepting the gayest transboy that I am and I look forward to sharing many more days being the best boy I can be.
    Thank you mom.
    Love, Your Little Daniel

    • Your Holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Daniel,

      I love the way you said gayest transboy, that made me smile today. Sending lots more love.

  2. Brittany says:

    I have already left a comment on a previous letter about my situation that lead me to this website, but I realized something today. Every letter so far has had me on the edge of tears and I figured out why. All of the amazing mom’s are not only welcoming of my sexually but keep saying more general statements of me being myself. I have always had a horrible self image for as long as I can remember. Most days I could honesty say I hate myself. So reading these words are hard because it’s hard to think good things about myself. I am going to continue reading every day and maybe by the new year I’ll believe some of these good things about myself.

  3. Ash says:

    I forgot about these holiday letters until I got a notification for this one, and this year, I needed this more than the years before. I’m in a pretty rough patch right now, both with family and life in general. I just wanted to thank you and all of our wonderful online family for making me and other people who can’t go home for the holidays feel like we belong, and making our holidays a time of joy instead of mourning. Thank you for including me in your lovely home, and I hope you have a happy holiday season. c:

    • Auntie Yvonne says:

      I am so thrilled you are here. We were waiting for you. Sorry to hear there are some challenges. I have saved a place at the table next to me. You can fill me on the details: good and bad. Lets start with a big hug.
      Auntie Yvonne

    • AuntBran says:

      I am so glad you are here, too! I’m so sorry things are tough for you right now and am sending you all my love.

  4. James says:

    This truly warmed my heart, it’s probably the best thing I could ever read in the morning. Thank you for your kind words, they mean the world, and thank you for welcoming me (or us) into your house and heart. I wish you every happiness, to you, your daughters, and your family.

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