Happy Holidays: Mom Michele

Dear You,

It’s that time of year again- the time when everyone talks about peace and joy, when smiles and good wishes are passed out like candy, when families gather to share their love. For most people, the holidays are a happy time, but I know for many, they can be challenging, especially for those whose families are less than accepting of who they are. If this is you, I’m sorry. I’m sorry if you have to face the holidays without your family of origin, and I’m sorry if they, or anyone else, has made you feel less than wonderful about yourself or who you love. No one deserves that, and in an effort to insure you have a happy holiday, I’m offering to be your Holiday Mom. Though you may not be able to spend your holiday with us in person, know that there is a family out there that is thinking of you this year, and who thinks you are just fine, just as you are. 

When I told my family about offering to be your Holiday Mom, they got so excited! Though this project is mostly written by moms, they asked me to let you know that whoever and wherever you are, you have a Dad and three siblings who will be thinking of you as well. You see, each of my children falls somewhere within the LGBTQ spectrum, and I have said to each of them exactly what I am about to say to you.

You were born a perfect child of the Universe. You have everything you need to survive and succeed within you. Don’t fight to be someone else. Fight only to be who you are. And if you need someone to fight with you, know that I am here. I will always stand up for your right to be who you are and to love who you love. I accept and cherish you- ALL of you- just as you are.

My spiritual family has a tradition. Each year on the Winter Solstice, we travel together to a place called Serpent Mound. Serpent Mound has been a sacred place since time before time, and every year they line it with luminaries. A sacred fire is lit, and a single candle is lit from the fire. From there, the light spreads, person to person, until every visitor has a lit candle. Then we all light the 1000 luminaries surrounding the mound. At that moment, nothing matters but sharing your light. No one cares about your spiritual path, your sexual orientation, your gender identity, or any of the million other differences that make each person unique. At that moment, each person there is family, working together for a common goal. Know that this year, I am lighting my candle for you. My holiday wish for you is that you can feel free to share YOUR light, that spark inside you that makes you . . . well, YOU! My wish for us all is that we can learn to work with one another that all our lights burn together to make the world a brighter place.

Today, I want you to remember that there are those of us who embrace diversity. We cherish the differences that make each of us who we are. I want you to remember that we embrace YOU. We are here, and we are cheering you on, knowing you have what it takes to succeed in whatever you choose to do. We have faith in your ability to choose the path and the partner that are right for you. And we hope you have a wonderful holiday.


Michele Griffin & Family


  1. Jackie says:

    Love your Serpent Mound tradition. The 1000 lights felt like a reminder of how connected we all really are. Xo

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