No matter what holidays you celebrate, I’ll be right there with you in spirit. I happen to be Christian, but my very best friend is Jewish. You may be neither, but may like to celebrate the Solstice, or Kwanza. I don’t care what religion you may practice. It really doesn’t matter, as long as you celebrate your right to walk on this earth. This is traditionally a time of festivities, so celebrate the light of your being!
I love to sing in the shower. One of my favorite shower songs is “Summertime,” because the second verse says, “One of these mornings, you’re going to rise up singing; you’re gonna spread your wings and take to the sky. But ‘til that morning, ain’t nothing gonna harm you, with daddy and mammie standing by.” (Hopefully close enough, with thanks to Rodgers and Hammerstein.)
I sing it because I have a LGBTQ son. I sing it as an affirmation that he is protected as well as loved. When he is old enough to go out into the world at large, we may not always be close at hand, but he will always know that he is loved. We will be there for him.
That is why I offered to become a Holiday Mom. Because you may need some extra loving this time of year. I don’t know your exact situation. It could be that you knew very early on, and hid it away in an air-tight compartment for as long as you could. But then you absolutely had to draw a breath. There are infinite other scenarios, some better than others.
When my son was little, I started a collection of Hot Wheels and Matchbox cars. Not interested. Dolls, especially Barbies as Snow White, Dorothy, and Glinda the Good Witch were what he wanted. I bought them for him. Now that he is older (a high school senior), he makes beaded jewelry and wears purple, his life-long favorite color, whenever he wants.
Now, why am I so understanding? Well, I have two cousins that I definitely knew were gay and lesbian. I have two more that may be. It’s none of my business, so I’ve never asked. But I would not be surprised. And it doesn’t matter. To me, family is family. And love is love. Period.
So, the holidays are coming up. I hope that they do not fill you with dread. I hope that there is someone who loves you unconditionally. If not, you have just not met the right person yet. You deserve to be choosy, so don’t settle for anything less than love.
I’m going to share a little bit of our holiday tradition. I am a recovering Christmas tree and ornament junkie. We have a huge family tree, complete with tiny framed school pictures of our son. Other ornaments tell the story of our family. We also have an angel tree, our son’s own gloriously quirky tree, and a fishing tree (my husband’s passion!).
You’ll be an honorary guest-in-spirit this year – I will hold you in my heart as we celebrate. My holiday wish for you is that you will keep your heart open.
Much love from your Holiday Mom, LARK