How To Help

Thank you for your interest in helping out at YourHolidayMom.com!

– COMMENTING –

Our audience grows each year, so we are always in need of moms (and dads, siblings, grandparents, and friends!) to comment in reply to our LGBTQ youth who are leaving comments. It is our goal for NO comment from our youth to go unanswered by a loving mom or friend. We can only do that with your help.

If you would like to reply to one of our LGBTQ youth, we ask that you follow these two guidelines:

  • Be kind and supportive, but do not offer advice. Our youth wish most of all to be heard! Even well-meaning advice often comes out as sounding less than supportive. “Just love” is our rule of thumb.
  • Do not include direct contact information or invitations to connect offsite (we must delete these comments for legal reasons).

– LETTER WRITING –

We currently have all our letters set for the 2017 year! Thank you Moms! Click here to be notified when we start collecting letters for next season.

Thank you again for your loving support and another wonderful year of saving lives through positive social change!

159 comments

  1. Jen says:

    Thank you. I’ve grown to hate the holiday season but seeing this site has warmed my cold, hardened heart. It sounds like a cliché but I feel a little less lonely now.

    • Shamama says:

      Hello Jen! Thank you so much for commenting, so we can say WELCOME more personally! I am so glad you feel a little less lonely now! LOVE, Shamama

      • Momma E says:

        Hi, Jen! A virtual basket of love and hugs sent your way. May the warmth in your heart be with you always! Love, Momma E

  2. Rose Bliss says:

    Please let me know what I can do. I’m a disabled grandmother of three, mother of two. My oldest is 36, my youngest died 16 years ago at the age of 16. I have a soft spot in my heart for teenagers and would like to help in anyway I can.

  3. Linda says:

    I’m not a tech savvy mama, but for this cause, I will learn! Tumblr is downloaded and I have a teenager on deck to show me what to do. What an easy way for moms to support and love these wonderful children!

    • Auntie Marni says:

      Dear Linda,
      Thank you for your willingness to help out! Things aren’t as interactive over on the Tumblr side–you can definitely re-share over there, but the most interactive way to be involved is to respond to comments here on the main blog. You will definitely reach more of the youth right here by reading through the comments on the individual letters and offering them words of love and encouragement. Happy Holidays to you and yours!!!
      My best,
      Marni

  4. Melissa says:

    I’m so glad this exists, I just read the letter from today and if im being honest I might be crying from it. My own parents were not so happy about my coming out (specifically my dad) and while they have not flat out disowned me, it makes being around them very distant and awkward. I’m definitely going to be subscribing to this, thank you so much to every single person who contributes to this.

    • Shamama says:

      We are so delighted to have you here Melissa – you are more than welcome to cry! LOVE is worth it. I’m sorry about your parents, so very sorry. They don’t know what they are missing by delighting in you just as you are, but I hope one day they can. LOVE, Shamama

    • Valerie says:

      I went through that too, many years ago. Parents take a long time sometimes, but it gets easier when you find that in addition to blood family, you can have chosen family too. Just know that you are okay. You are normal. You are perfect just how you are, and that you will find people out there who see just how great you are.

      • Lizzy says:

        Giant hug Melissa, When my wife and I came out to our parents there was about the same awkwardness, distance and disapproval from our parents. It was horrible, for me my dad was so harsh and I was his kid, not my moms. I really felt alone. What both Barb and I experienced though was that our parents somehow grew up. Grew up and learned that love is the most important thing. Parent’s reactions are not about us, in fact, we can do nothing about anybody’s feelings and reactions than our own. Choose your response to them, breathe into the flexibility of loving when it’s not apparently returned.
        I’ll be your out-there-out-auntie and Barb will be solid-sending-you-strength-out-auntie. We will hold you in our hearts and see you in the light everywhere.

    • Momma E says:

      Hi, Melissa! I hope the love for you here wraps you up in a perpetual hug and draws your parents closer to you. You are worth every ounce of their love. Love, Momma E

  5. Just a mom somewhere in the world says:

    Bless you all and the work that you do here. I’m sharing the link to this site on my social media page in hopes that it helps someone. 2016 has been a helluva year, and I think the stuff you do here is important. <3 Thank you. Faith in humanity rose a few points today. 🙂

  6. Blake lewis says:

    So I got a pop up on my Facebook from a year ago I shared this page as to help other LGBTQ members such as myself, but never realized how much I could use a letter.. I was very close to my family until… I came out as a lesbian about 10 years ago and my family was not accepting of it all.. I never felt ok claiming to be lesbian or even a female for that matter I did some research and found out what transgender ment.. It was me it was perfect I KNEW that I was a transmale. I came out a lil over a year and a half ago and I started hormones almost a year ago and since then I haven’t seen my parents, my grandparents, my cousins (needless to say we have a very large LDS family…) If I want to see my family I have to put their needs first and shave my face and try my hardest to raise my voice ( and for anyone who has been on hormones knows its hard to go back once you have started) just so I can see any of them… This was the second year in a row that I haven’t been able to see my family for thanksgiving and probably not going to be my last…

    (Sorry for the long rant, its just hitting the depression really hard this year that I can’t spend time with the ones who “love me for me”…)

    Thank you for taking the time to read

    Blake

    • Shamama says:

      Reading, loving, SEEING you my dear Blake! As the mom of a trans man, I do know all about those hormones. Just imagine me beaming – BEAMING – at you as you transition, because it is a beautiful thing! Big hugs to you, Shamama

    • Tee J. says:

      You are so courageous and I am so proud of you that you chose to be who you are. It must have been such a difficult decision. You are so brave and inspiring. ❤️

      What I have learned is that family isn’t just blood relations, it’s who is there for you and loves you for you. If your biological family can’t see you for who you are, then that is their loss, not yours.

      I wish you so much love and happiness and I hope you thrive in your new perfect body. I hope your holidays bring you much cheer! Bright blessings always.

    • Rachel says:

      You’re braver than you know and you’re not alone!! I’m a mom, and I’m cheering you on as you claim your truth and show your authentic self to the world. I believe in you. You can get through this and the world will be a more genuine, hopeful place because you stood up and showed up. We’re with you!

    • Mormonmom says:

      Blake,
      As an LDS mom i want you to know that you would be so loved in my home, without conditions or requirements. I wish other religious families could be that and I’m happy that this site exists to help those of heavens children get the love they deserve.
      Big momma hugs to you from me, i promise that here and in my heart, you are definitely loved for who you are.
      I’m going to make an ornament for you and hang it on my tree, i do this with all of my (almost 7) children, you have a place on our tree too!
      With lots of love!
      Mormonmom

    • Big sis Chelsea says:

      Oh Blake! I’m so glad you’ve found where your drumbeat is in your heart! I’m so proud of you for being brave enough to follow it and become who you feel you’re meant to be. So many warm hugs to you, sweetie. You deserve so much love and happiness! Thinking of you and how your transition is going truly makes me smile the biggest! So so much love to you!

    • Mama T says:

      Hugs, Blake.

      I can’t begin to imagine how you feel. Please know that you are loved, as you are, no stipulations. You seem like an incredible person, and it is my dearest wish that you find happiness and peace.

      More hugs. ❤

    • Mamma Stacey says:

      Proud to say I have a 15 year old that may or may not be a transman in the future. Right now we are trying to figure out what she understands as she has Autism, and really does not grasp certain concepts. With counseling and support she is finding her balance. She is currently identifying female, and is comfortable with “liking girls.”

      I hope you can find a balance, and know that your story touched me. Blake, keep your head up, and feel confident to be yourself. You are worth it.

      • Lizzy says:

        Rock ON! MammaStacy. Know I’m out here celebrating your parenting and the choices your very amazing child is given.

    • Valerie says:

      Blake, you are full of courage for being who you are. I know you will do great things. You probably already are. Your strength inspires me.

    • April says:

      Blake, I grew up in the LDS church, I am sorry about your family, but know this, you are loved, you are brave, strong and wonderful. They preach alot about being yourself, and I am so proud of you for making the choice to be the best you that you deserve to be. I hope that you will find a lot of love, support, acceptance and friendship here, but also out there.

    • L’Aura says:

      Dear Blake,
      I am a grandmother and the sister of a gay man whom I love very much. Just know there are people out there that love you just the way you are, trans, gay, bi, it doesn’t matter. NI am sending you love and joy and peace. Be well and be proud of who you are.

  7. Laura Bethany says:

    I. Love. This!! I will be sharing the site and posts on my blog over the next few weeks. Thank you for being a positive light for a often challenged community!

  8. Jamie says:

    This just made my holiday….

    I’m a transgender guy from the United Kingdom and listening to a holiday letter just made me feel that I had a purpose and it just keeps be going…. thank you so much for all the support holiday moms!!!

  9. Elias says:

    I am a transgender guy and fully dependent on my parents. I started talking more openly with my psychiatrist and therapist about my relationship with my dad. They told me it’s not a matter of me being invalidated, but that my dad is actually being emotionally abusive, sometimes even trying to deny my access to adequate healthcare. I am terrified for this holiday season. It is clear that my dad becomes more abusive towards me every time I veer away from the “normal” (i.e. not disabled) daughter he thought he had when I was born. I need some compassion, even though I barely know what that looks like.

    • Reggie says:

      Hi, Elias
      I am really glad you found us.
      In here you will not only find compassion, you will find warmth, empathy, understanding and love.
      Come, sit down anywhere you want, find a friendly hand to hold or arms to embrace you, chat around or be silent – feel free to do as you please, knowing you are welcome here.
      You are, and you will always be, loved.

      Warm hugs
      from Aunty Reg

    • Mama T says:

      Hey, Hon.

      My dad is emotionally abusive, too. I remember all too clearly that feeling of being stuck, and the feeling of having to pretend to be exactly what be wants/expects. The best I can offer you is this: it won’t last forever. Someday, you will be away from him, in a place where you are surrounded in love.

      In the meantime, I offer you warm hugs, a quick hair tousel, and a gentle listening ear. I offer you love and hope.

      One more hug. ❤

    • Valerie says:

      You are welcome here, just how you are.
      You ARE normal, just how you are. You are you, and that’s wonderful. Sometimes, the people that can’t find the good in others are actually the abnormal ones. Elias, you are welcome, heard, and accepted here.
      Wishing you love and peace this Season.

  10. Madi says:

    This website is amazing. I found it when I thought I was still straight, and you have no -idea- how much searching it’s taken me to find it again. I’ve finally admitted to myself that I’m bisexual, and such a load has been lifted off of myself that I just want to tell everybody about it; but my family is very Christian and very conservative, and I’m afraid my future would be destroyed if I came out to them. So I’m looking forward to this. To a forum with a family that will listen and will care. I’m very excited and very hopeful. Thank you for starting this project and giving us a safe haven.

    • Mom Matti says:

      I found it when I thought I was straight too! It’s helped me quite a bit and now my girlfriend and I are very happy together. I hope you find something and someone that wonderful as well. My family is the same way, so that makes things tough. Just so you know, we’re always here for you.

      Love Always,

      Mom Matti

      • Mom Hillary says:

        You are all welcome here and loved. I am glad that you were able to find your true selves and I hope that some day you do not have to be afraid to show them to everyone you know.

    • Mama T says:

      Hugs, Madi.

      You are welcome and loved here. You are perfect and amazing, as you are, no strings attached.

      You are wonderful.

  11. Katie says:

    Dear Holiday mom,

    I was on here earlier and loved all the help I got. However everything has gotten a little worse. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I was also told I may have bipolar depression but I had to get in and out pretty quickly so they couldn’t make a full diagnosis. Having all of this and being bisexual has been very hard. I’m trying to get through this all on my own as I haven’t come out to my parents and my best friend has stopped talking to me all together.

    My family is very Christian and it’ll be a mess if I come out. My brother would be the least accepting because he already hates my enough.. I try to fit in but I already stick out like a zebra in the Arctic in my own home. I really just need a friend that I can at least somewhat relate to.

    Thank you so much for spending the time to read this <3

    • Chloe says:

      Hello Katie,

      I am very glad that you found help on this blog earlier, but I am saddened to learn that things have gotten worse. I am sorry to hear that. I know it’s that old cliche that people are tired of hearing, but things will get better with time. I, myself, have been diagnosed with bipolar depression. It can be a struggle, but every day things get a little bit easier. Take things one day at a time, Katie, and you will find the acceptance and happiness that you deserve. Just know that everyone here loves you and that you are a wonderful human being.

      Bless you,
      Chloe

  12. Ale says:

    Hey!
    I’m new to this blog and I absolutely ADORE it. It’s so good to find something so accepting when my own family is so homophobic.
    I recently became a teenager, but my bisexual feelings date from the year before when I developed a small crush on one of my friends. I passed it off as nothing, but my sexuality kept nagging at me until this year I found the courage to admit that I’m bi.
    I don’t want to come out. A couple of my good friends know, but I don’t want everyone in my life to.
    I find courage in music, (gay) fanfiction, band members, and my beloved friends, because ever since I realized that I was different I enjoy being alone more than I like being with people, as antisocial as that might sound. My slightly depressed and anxious condition is not particularly helpful either.
    I love this blog. It makes me so happy to see these letters bringing some light into my otherwise difficult life.
    Thank you so much.
    XO,
    A

    • Spoilers says:

      Hi Ale!
      First, let me tell you how glad I am that you found this blog and remind you how much I and all the holiday families here love you. If you need or want a warm hug, there’s plenty to go around.
      I’m so sorry that things are difficult with your family right now, just remember that no matter what they think or say, you are an incredible shining light with so much to offer to the world. I’m so glad you have supportive friends around you to remind you how special you are.
      My partner and I both have depression and anxiety too, and I was a bisexual teen who didn’t know that they were trans; maybe we understand a little of what you’re going through, maybe we don’t. But you never have to explain yourself to us. If you just need to sit quietly and think, that’s fine. If you want to rage and scream about how unfair it all is, that’s fine too. If you need us to remind you that it gets better, we will – because it does. You won’t always have to live with your family or do what they think is right. You will find your own space in the world, where you are loved and accepted and can live in the way that suits you. Until then, you will be welcome at all the family homes I visit over the holiday, or at home with my partner if you want a quieter time.
      Big love,
      Holiday Parent Spoilers (I know it’s a silly name, but I haven’t chosen a permanent name yet)

    • Lotus says:

      Holy relatable, Batman! I figured out I was bi around your age, too! (A lifetime ago, it feels like!) I’ve also been diagnosed with anxiety and depression. They can be so awful, I know. 🙁
      But I’m going to tell you something I’ve learned within the last three and a half years that has helped me cope with a LOT. “Family don’t end with blood.” That single phrase has brought me so much comfort, and I hope it does the same for you.
      And it is perfectly okay for you to decide to “stay in” for as long as you need to. That’s the beauty of life. It’s yours, so YOU dictate who knows what about you when. You’re the only one who gets to control that. And I’m going to guess that finding things you can control is a very good thing. A lot of us feel better when we realize that we DO control certain things. It makes us feel a little less helpless.
      Darling, I hope that those you trust can help make this holiday season-and the whole year-that much brighter and warmer for you. Please be safe, and always keep fighting. Much love and strength. <3

  13. Ale says:

    Hey!
    I’m new to this blog and I absolutely ADORE it. It’s so good to find something so accepting when my own family is so homophobic.
    I recently became a teenager, but my bisexual feelings date from the year before when I developed a small crush on one of my friends. I passed it off as nothing, but my sexuality kept nagging at me until this year I found the courage to admit that I’m bi.
    I don’t want to come out. A couple of my good friends know, but

    • Lisbeth says:

      Hi Ale,

      I’m glad you found us here! I’m bisexual too, If you’re not ready to come out yet, you don’t have too. Coming out is a big step, and it’s ok if you’re not ready for that yet. I knew for years before I came out, and I think I chose a good time to do it.

      I’m sorry to hear that your family isn’t accepting, and hopefully they will come around. Whether or not they do, it’s not your fault that they can’t see you for what you are, which is a wonderful, genuine human being.

      Best wishes,
      L

  14. Reggie says:

    My dearest Jackie,
    It brings my heart sadness when I see or hear about people who think of themselves as Christians but then forget Jesus’ words on love and compassion.
    On the other hand, I am happy for you – that you have found warmth and support from your Dad’s side of the family is wonderful news.

    I believe your Mom would have loved to see you have the courage to come out to her; but you know she loves you from above and that is something that people with unpleasant attitudes can never take away from you.

    Keep that love alight, not only in the holiday season, but also to guide you as you navigate through life. Honor your beliefs and stand tall, knowing you are blessed.

    Warm hugs from
    Aunty Reg

  15. Jackie says:

    Hello, all!

    I am an openly bisexual, devout Roman Catholic. (Don’t worry….you can be both!) I also live with my Dad and my dog, Sasha in the Northeastern United States. I lost my mom to cancer when I was fourteen, in July of 2008. I did not have the opportunity to come out to her (she was going to be the first one to know) as she passed away before I could tell her. I’m glad she knows now, as Jesus beat her to it when she got to heaven.

    I only came out to my surviving family last year, almost two years ago now, at the beginning of 2014. While my Dad’s family has offered me nothing but unconditional support and love, (it took my Dad a while, but he’s finally come around!) my mom’s family is a different story. I haven’t talked to or seen them in the seven years that my mom has been with the Lord, and when I came out to that side of the family, I was met with nothing but hate, disguised as acceptance. Most of my mom’s family turned their back on me, and have distanced themselves even further from my Dad and I since coming out.

    Other than my Dad’s family, I am completely alone this holiday season. I have four aunts on my mom’s side, and one of them I had to cut out of my life completely after coming out of the closet. I’m so proud to have adopted you all as my Holiday Aunts. For once, I have both sides of my family again, if only for a while.

    I’m so glad that Jesus led me to this site…..He knew I needed it. Thank you so much, and may the love of the Divine Christ Child be with you this holiday season. <3

    Your Holiday Niece,
    Jackie

    • Ale says:

      You don’t know how much I needed to hear that it’s fine to be a Roman Catholic and a bisexual person. Thank you.

    • Jenna McGeoghegan says:

      I am so glad you have found family here. Everyone needs to know they are loved, and not just at the holidays. We have one little girl, Mary she wishes everyone a Merry Christmas. Also in our beautiful family is my husband Rob, Son Brandon, Daughter Aaryanna, Chosen Son ( we picked him when he was 16) his partner, and Marissa, our chosen daughter. We love adding family to our home and our hearts. Joe and Marissa aren’t our legal kids, but they have been with us for years. Because they needed a home with love too. There are so many of us holiday, and everyday, moms out there that believe in you.

    • Valerie says:

      You are wonderful. I wish I had known that Jesus loved all of us as I struggled through Catholic school as a kid. I’m much older now, and though acceptance of myself took a while, it looks like you’re well on your way. I hope you never forget that God (in all 3 persons) loves you exactly as you are. We are glad you’re here, and wish nothing but the best for you all through the year.

  16. Andrea says:

    Dear Rayah and others who may feel neglected by family….please know there are many of us who want to be your surrogate family – we Love you just the way you are and truly want your struggles to find solutions even if from the hearts around the world who want to send you hugs and our love in capitals letters: HUGs and LOVE! My trans-son, who is 40+, has found others who accept him, LOVE him and would never be cruel to him….hold on, you can find the same….paying it is soon for you, too. Love, love, love from your all-year long Mama.

    • Carla says:

      I have just found this website while sitting and talking with my 15 years old gay daughter . She is the light of my life and I’m so very very proud off her and her courage and brilliance . I see you have enough mom’s this season but would love to help another time in possible :). I also just wanted to send love and light to all the people that read this and need it . You are brilliant and shine and I hope you have the merriest holiday season from me and my beautiful daughter all the way over in England as love can cross the world x

  17. Rayah says:

    I don’t have much to say but as soon as I saw this website–As soon as I read the first post. Not even a few lines and I’m already crying–even now I still am tearing up and I need to wipe it before I’ll be seen by my family ; u ;

    It feels nice to actually have someone/people welcome you with open arms haha. I’m still in the closet and I don’t know if I’ll ever get out of it considering my parents and family are homophones but this made me feel warm and happy.

    Thank you so much for this website, for everyone! It makes me happy that not all will shun us away!

    • Peg says:

      Rayah,
      Hopefully we can be the light in your closet and help you see how much you are loved!
      Mom Peg

    • GaGa Barbara says:

      Dear Rayah,

      Some love being sent your direction from Utah. My husband and I look like your typical older couple. Some might not guess that we would support and love you with open arms! Please always remember that there are those unknown supporters out there…even right there where you are. <3
      Whoever you are, where ever you are and whoever you love, you are fine just the way you are!
      I wish for you much love and acceptance this month and all the rest of the months as well. Be well and know that there are those of us that would be happy to have you in their family.

    • Katrina says:

      Much love from Morgan Hill, CA. No one should ever ask you to change. Everyone is perfect just the way they are. Wishing you all the support and love you need. Always here to listen if you ever need an ear. Keep being you!! Xoxox

  18. Nancy says:

    What a lovely tradition this is! My husband is a trans person who has only in recent years been able to shake off the bullying and negative self-image inflicted on him by others because he wasn’t boy enough or man enough or whatever enough that society thought he should be. He’s recently told his parents who he really is and they have offered him love, support, and encouragement, so perhaps his story will give some hope to the younger LGBTQ people who have family struggles.

  19. Bea says:

    I see you have a ton of moms on here but I can’t help but want to send some love out there for someone in the only way I know how. I am Cuban American and for anyone out there who is in need of some love from a Mami. Know that I send a bunch of love out to you in the form of a huge Nochebuena meal. There is always more food than necessary at my table and que sepan aqui se acepta cualquiera. Un beso. 🙂

  20. Judith says:

    You’ve got enough moms for now, I know, but I want to make myself available for a special purpose. As an observant Jewish woman (godmother to one tiny human, mother to two cats) I know that in our community there are a lot of young people, and not so young people, who feel especially alienated from not just their own parents, but the entire religious community and the religion itself, and also often from G*D. I have a bisexual niece, a trans niece (MTF/genderqueer/genderfluid, uses she or they as applicable pronouns), one best friend who’s bisexual and another who’s bigender, and my wife and I are also gay — and ALL of us are observant Jews, so I’ve both experienced and seen up-close how we can be treated and how we can feel in response to the ways we are treated within our own families and communities.

    So I’d very much like to offer to serve as a Jewish mama within this context, not just for “the” holiday season (December), which isn’t even our big holiday season, but also for the Jewish holiday seasons of autumn and spring. Rosh Hashanah to Simchat Torah, and Passover to Shavuot, are the big ones for us. It’s easy to feel lonely at those times. Please let me help.

  21. Ruth Chichester says:

    Thank you for this beautiful blog! While I am not LGBT, I understand feeling left out and meeting disapproval of family. I was a single mom, living on welfare. My father and brother shunned me and left me out of many holiday gatherings because of their judgemental spouses. It’s hard, when all we see during the holidays is happy families coming together, to be alone or disenfranchised. Your purpose here is a beautiful one and I hope to contribute at some point. Keep up the loving and caring work! May you and yours be blessed this season and beyond. Much love.

  22. Aimee says:

    I’ve just heard about this site and wanted to help, but it seems you have all the moms you need right now. And how incredibly wonderful that you don’t have a deficit of caring people to support the youth this season.

    I would definitely love to help though. Hopefully I can do something for next season. But the outreach is wonderful.

  23. Kate Haley says:

    Hats-off. I see that we already have enough moms but I am cheering you all on. This is the best expression of holiday love I’ve seen. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  24. Laura Silver says:

    I never thought of myself as a mother. It wasn’t a popular option when I came out. Years later, I engaged a Native American group that was loving and accepting, and suddenly, a lot of the “kids” started calling me “mom.” I adopted a young man in this community, and now have a beautiful granddaughter. Now I would like to help. Please let me know what I can do.

  25. Louise says:

    Would love to be one of the moms. I was emancipated young and mentored by LGBTQ community, shepherded through college, so wish to “pay it forward.” And this is the kind of service that would keep me sane through the heartbreak of holidays. The way out of suffering is through service.

    • Shamama says:

      You are so right Louise! We can really use your help in commenting… see our guidelines and jump in! We’d love to have your heart here…

      • Lori Giannuzzi says:

        I guess I missed the deadline, I was so looking forward to writing a letter as a holiday Mom.

  26. Liberty says:

    I ran across this website I believe for a reason. I have a gay teenage son who is suicidal because society dos not accept him.I love him more than words can ever describe. I have always accepted him and would never change him for anything! If there is any way I could help anyone else I would very much like to. This is very near and dear to my heart.
    <3

    • Debra says:

      I hope you and your son find yourselves surrounded with people who have hearts as beautiful as yours.

    • Shamama says:

      Commenting is really needed – our first day we had more than 120 comments, so anything you can do is great!

    • Louise says:

      Hi Liberty, I’m also a mom to a teen son so appreciate your message. Youth today have more resources at school for counselors to send referrals for therapy (reduced fee or free). And then there are 10% clubs which may be ‘underground’ on campus. Perhaps school counselor or psychology teachers could point your son to such a group. They were most helpful to my friends in the 80s when developing, and so much progress has come along since. A friend of my son’s recently came out to him, when 12, and my son said he was relieved to hear his friend get that off his chest because it’s a lot of pressure to go about concealing without one friend to be 100% honest with at school. Why not encourage your son to find that one friend? For many of my friends in high school, I was also that one friend, and I was found in the drama department, along with all my then teen gay friends… we had a small club called Theatre Workshop, and from that group the smaller 10% Club formed, but come to think of it, most members were in Drama Club. LOL. And come to think of it, it’s where my son’s friend found him, too…. Yes, send your kid on to the Drama Department at middle or high school. If he’s not an actor, he could take a technician function with set design or lights — just get him to the theatre and those peeps will keep him cool.

  27. Jonah says:

    You guys saved my life tonight. I honestly thought this world was to dark and judgmental. But y’all were my ray of light. Thank you so much for just starting this! Y’all are true heros

    • Shamama says:

      We are so delighted to be your ray of hope Jonah! We love you and want YOU in our world. Please stay and be the ray of light you are for us, too! Hugs, Shamama

    • Liberty says:

      Jonah,
      My son is 14 and gay. I knew before he did ;). He is suicidal because society does not accept him. We live in a small town in the middle of the bible belt.It is not easy for him here.I want to let you know that it isnt always going to be this way. There are A LOT of people out there that are going to love you for exactly who you are. You just have to find your people.I dont even know you and I love and accept you. There are MILLIONS of us out there that do.As you go through life you will find us. Dont give up <3

      • Louise says:

        Hi Liberty, me again. Our sons are close in age. My son has a unique spirit and is genuinely different than most of his peers. He has though amply armed himself with reading, travel, charity, and that’s given him confidence to tackle on the bully types or at least know his rights to request support. We gotta lock in that support group on campus. I say to lock that in, tap into an interest your son naturally loves. I got lucky with Drama for my kid as that is also where the free spirited and most accepting dwell– they can be the most accepting because they are the most ostracized.

        Now, about being suicidal…… I have a long pause here…. I know over a dozen friends who have ended their lives, and then there are some who tried but were saved, and those friends say they did not want to die but wanted the pain to end. The pain comes from feeling alienated, misunderstood, unlovable. Activity helps lighten the load from focusing on grief.

        I find that my heart’s suffering is lightened when I can turn away from my own stuff to focus on someone else’s grief. So I’m wondering if there perhaps is a charity group your son might take an interest in helping out a bit, like an animal shelter or retirement home. But of course the ideal solution is for your son to be happy, joyous and free before others. Only well, if you are surrounded by the rigid, that puts a damper on things.

        Gotta find counseling somehow, whether over phone or online… having an outlet is also important. Not just for your kid but yourself as well as his grief is yours.

        I would say for Christmas or Hanukkah, you can give your son a nice diary with lock and good pen. Encourage him to write out his experiences and feelings. Venture out to a big city with LGBTQ Center drop-in for free counseling. Also maybe look into Bronycon or the My Little Pony community. I know it sounds funny but I have taken my teen to several Brony conventions across America, and let me tell you it is marvelously HEALTHY.

        If you don’t know the Brony people, they’re young-spirited whimsical souls who have embraced My Little Pony lore as an interactive device for sharing enchanted acceptance with others. It’s the most inclusive batch of people I’ve ever encountered. And you’ve got soldiers in full military gear with guns drawn running with plush ponies and pink chiffon princesses — quite the scene… and for those Transgender, a serious homecoming.

        The world is changing quickly, more and more each day, for the better. Have a good Thanksgiving weekend. We’re off to amusement park now!

    • Melissa says:

      Jonah, Thank you for sharing some of your pain! I am so sorry that some people in this world are un-accepting. Please know that there are others who are here for you, and accept your uniqueness with love and light!

    • Tonja S says:

      I am the proud mother of 4 children, my daughter is 15 and is openly gay and I have a son that is openly bi. I have always taught them to be who they are, true happiness and acceptance comes from within. Be a light in the darkness…..you are perfect because you are you.

  28. April says:

    As a mom, it breaks my heart to think that anyone can feel unloved and unwanted at any time of year, especially by their own family. What you are doing here is wonderful.

  29. Cecil says:

    I just found this website through Tumblr! What you guys do is absolutely amazing! I’m a pansexual trans boy, and I’m not getting much support other than my friends, who are all part of the LGBT+ community. Being deadnamed and misgendered constantly by my family – especially my parents – has taken a very large toll on me. I can’t wait for the day I can finally be the man I am! I just have to wait, since I’m only 14 and I’ve been told many times that this is ‘just a phase’. You guys are awesome! :*

    • Margaret says:

      Hi Cecil,
      Hang in there, kiddo, the next few years will go by fast! Keep yourself surrounded by those who love you and appreciate the person you are. I wish so much I could take away the hurt and sadness you must feel, but I know deep inside you have the strength to get through this. When you really think about it, Cecil, really we must feel sorry for those who are so unenlightened that they cannot think beyond what they have been taught and will probably always be like that. In a way, you are the stronger one here, the one who is mentally, morally and yes, physically superior. Hold onto that thought. God bless!
      Margaret

  30. Tonya S says:

    I just found this site via Facebook. I am so happy to see the support, my son (19) “came out” to us this year as bisexual. He said it was easy because his dad and I have always told he and his brother that we will love them no matter what…and we do and will, always. I cannot even imagine not supporting my kids just because of who they may love or want to be with.

  31. Julie says:

    I just found this link on Facebook. I absolutely love what you ladies are doing. I would love to be a part of this. I am a mom of three with another on the way. If there is anything I can do, please let me know.
    Much love,
    Julie

  32. Linda Kepner says:

    I’m a little older than the moms whose pictures I see here, but I’m a late bloomer – late to have a child, late to discover I’m an Aspergirl, late to discover I have TWO brothers who have dealt with issues all their lives – but where we grew up, it seemed like everyone was always attacking everyone else for SOMETHING! You just hunkered down and took it. I’m thrilled to see so many good people standing up for themselves (as I have learned to do about the Asperger, and my daughter’s and husband’s ADD), and I say: Hang in there. You may never know you’re being a wonderful role model for someone else.

  33. jeffery craft says:

    i dont know how to get in contact with the owners of this site. its a great idea that they have something like this to help people.

    have you all ever thought about doing a site like this for those who are mentally ill? while some of us are taken care of by others like parents friends or at hospitals there are a bunch of us who live on there own and can do with some acceptance love and reassuring, suffering from a very serious mental illness i know id love to have someone write letters to me, i know this is not the appropriate place to post this and im sorry i couldent find the contact info. keep up the good work and may you be blessed through the holidays

    • Marianne says:

      Let’s see if we can set up something like that jeffery. Will take this offline if the moderators can get us connected.

      • Hosannah says:

        Anything formulating with a potential mentally ill support site? I’d love to help out if I can! It’s a topic near and dear to my heart!

        This website is amazing! It’s such a wonderful idea. I passed it along on my facebook page to spread the word!

        • Melimom says:

          I think this site is amazing! What a great idea to give the gift of love and acceptance! Would love to help out here and if the site for the mental illness too!
          I’m a Mom of 2 boys trying hard to teach acceptance and empathy are the paths to your own peace.
          Keep up the love!

    • Melanie says:

      I think that would be a great idea. I’m
      One that could really use it. Some terrible things happened earlier this week that have led to final alienation from my family. I don’t know what to do.

    • rothko says:

      hey jeffrey. just wanted to say i’m interested in your project too. i have bipolar disorder and live a pretty great life right now but i full well know that others don’t have it that great at all. i’d be interested in helping.

    • jill says:

      I too would like to communicate with the originators of this site. What a brilliant gift to all of us and could be expanded as you suggest. I have a male to female trangendered niece who changed her first and last name and wants NOTHING to do with our family. I don’t blame her since they are rabid religious Right and judgemental squared. I was hoping this site could be a way to convey to her that I most certainly DO celebrate her as her authentic self. II would also like to support her monetarily from time to time. I will be active and supportive on this site if I can figure out all of the nuances. To ALL LGBT… you are accepted and loved by me! Happy Holidays!!!!!
      If you live in Kansas City, Center for Spiritual Living is a GREAT accepting community. CSLKC.ORG

  34. Jensen says:

    Thank you for this project. I’ll try to remember to check back each day this season. It’s a sad time for me because I don’t have anyone to talk to and can’t do most of the festive stuff because of no money. I haven’t been able to get a steady job. I’m queer and don’t interview very well because I have ASD. I’m currently trying to get anything I can, and one of the few places that will consider me is very conservative because they work with kids, so I’m probably going to be fired if I act like myself in anyway. It’s hard to believe that in 2015 there are places like that. I wish that parents would think about that, but I’m sure they’re the same as my family and would rather not see people like me exist. Anyway, thank you for caring. I sometimes feel tired of everything and want to give up. I hope that being able to read the comforting messages helps this year.

    • Julie says:

      Jensen, my heart goes out to you, especially since both I and my daughter are Aspies. It can feel so hard to keep going with so many struggles at once. But I know that you will find ways to express the special things you have to offer that make your life and other people’s better!

      All the love.

    • Janice says:

      Jensen,
      I’m having a hard time finding work, myself! Just know that a) you are not alone; b) you are in a protected class as far as discrimination goes (check the EEOC website); c) people (like me) care about you! We care what happens to you. You have a useful purpose on the Earth. You may not have found it yet, but you will! Learn to love yourself, and you will grow. Keep us posted.

      Mommy loves you! (((((hugs)))))

    • Peg says:

      Jensen,
      Your letter breaks my heart.
      check the Living section of the local paper ~ they may list free things to do.
      I am so sorry that you are struggling to find work.
      See if there are some local LGBT support type groups in your area ~ maybe practice interview techniques with someone.
      I hope things turn around for you soon.
      I Love You and will be thinking about you this holiday season.
      Mom Peg

  35. Blake says:

    Hi everyone! I hope that i’m not too late. Christmas is knocking our doors already and i have decided that this year i won’t hide over my feelings, i want to show the world who i’m for real (” Gay” ) and see if they accepted me or not. this is what i had up my mind untill i was humiliated, beaten up and kicked out of the door on a snowy night, i got to pass 3 nights with my grandmother but then when she and the rest of our family got the news she tried to ‘ lecture ‘ me about life choices so i packed up and left right away. i am now staying in a motel room. i am using my past 5 years savings to try and live until further solution. as much as i need financial support on this holiday i am really in need of emotional support and so i’ve been told that this is the right place.
    Yours sincerely – Blake

    • Tiffany says:

      You are very brave to let everyone know who you are. Things are hard now, but they will get better. You are obviously someone who plans for their future. Be assured that there so many people out in the world who will accept you for you, and give you the love, and acceptance you deserve.

    • Holiday Mom Lee says:

      Hi Blake,

      Yes, you have come to the right place. We are so glad you are here! I hear how much pain you are in and I am so, so sorry your family has not reacted as you had hoped. Know that you have a virtual family right here that loves and accepts you for the brave, wonderful soul that you are. I am reaching out to you right now and sending you all the love in my heart. Can you feel it? Hugs, hugs and more hugs.

      Please come back every day to read our letters and get the emotional support that you need during the holidays. We are here for you.

      From my heart to yours.
      Love,
      Your Holiday Mom Lee

    • christina says:

      Hi Blake,
      Im so sorry you had to go through that. Please know there are millions of people out here who do care. You will be in my thoughts and prayers tonight that others will come in your life and show you the way. There is absolutely nothing wrong with who you are. For those who.cant see your awesomeness it is about their blindness and never about how wonderful you are. Happy Holidays Blake!!

    • Hez says:

      Hi Blake,

      You are a shining light to everyone in the world who wishes to freely be themselves. What you are doing takes courage, and I see perseverance and strength in your convictions. This is the beginning of a new chapter in your life, one in which you will experience love and acceptance from yourself and from many, many others who will come into your life. There are many, many people who love you right now, just the way you are. As a mom, my greatest hope for my kids is for them to have courage like you, strength like you, and the self respect that you exemplify in your actions. You’re a role-model, and this is the beginning of the rest of your life. I wish you a very peaceful holiday season, and a beautiful new year.

      With Kindness and Unconditional Love,

      Hez

    • Daniela says:

      Blake, Your post breaks my heart. Your family is missing out on life with you. In time I hope they realize their horrible mistake. As a mom to a gay 19 year old son, I’m so sorry your parents don’t understand. I’m sorry they don’t support you and realize it’s not a choice but it’s who you are. Today is a new day. Hold your head up high and be yourself, whether they accept you or not. You can only be happy if you are who you are. Live for you, not for others. I’ll keep checking back here to see how you’re doing. ♤

    • Mommy Janice says:

      Blake, I’m very sorry that you went through that. It literally breaks my heart that ‘love comes with conditions’ in some families. Fortunately, I’m not one of those moms! Thank God, you have a place to stay (for now)! I’ve done the ‘staying in the motel’ thing. It gets old QUICK! I’m glad you reached out to us. I’m glad I became a member of this blog. You’re not ‘unloveable’. You are worthy of love. Stay true to yourself, and you’ll be okay.

      Mommy loves you!

    • Eileen Scherzinger says:

      Blake,
      As difficult as it may have been for you to come out to your family, it must be freeing to be able to be YOU! It takes courage to do this. Sometimes families need time to come to terms with a child coming out, but even if they never do, there will always be those of us who love you for who you are. Thanks for reaching out and I am sending lots of hugs to you!!!

      Love Mom-Eileen

    • Debra says:

      You are a wonderful person just as you are. I’m sorry that your family will miss out on wonderful times with you. But know that you are loved.

    • Louise says:

      Blake, you’re like a superhero in training but haven’t been informed of this blessing (and a curse). But that’s the way it is for all superheroes if you look at their histories and how whatever they loved was taken away, leaving them stripped bare of securities until falling into a vat or acid or being consumed by a bunch of penguins or whatever unfortunate end. For you today, it could be the temporary motel stasis of living day by day, getting to get by… but that is heroic. It’s on your own terms, by your own hands, authored by your own dreams. Your Grandma is of another generation. I lived in mine when water faucets were with signs that read “colored” and blacks were forced to sit in the back… I remember that… and I remember when gay people were called all kinds of terrible things and beaten on the streets, but we have a US President today which makes same sex marriages legal, so America’s gotta grow the F up.

      You matter, Blake, and it’s hard today but by golly the indicator of a miracle around the corner is unbearable stupid pain…. it’s like labor pains but by sticking through the hard times, there is a positive pay out, so you hold on and bite through, like mebbe Deadpool would, or KickAss Girl. Just take notes, write everything down…. and maybe break out a jar to toss in a couple items you’re grateful for, like having the sense and practice to save five years for a ‘rainy day’ like todays? That’s a miracle. And you set that up….

      It’s all in you, Blake (this said with voice of Yoda to Luke).

    • Peg says:

      Blake,
      It looks like you are getting quite a bit of support here!
      Please check the internet to see if you have a homeless shelter in your area that has transitional housing. They may be able to help yu get set up in an apartment/room so you won’t be spending all of your savings.
      Mom Peg

    • Blake says:

      Thank you all for your support 🙂 You got me all in tears for all of your kindness , I have never expected such support from you , I feel much better now … and just to let you know , things are getting way better, i got a job at a nearby restaurant and i’m now staying with my bestfriend in his apartment, i hope that one day my family will find out their mistake and treat me with much kindness like you guys did , I love you all , and have a great Holiday
      … 🙂 Thank you all again

    • Sunshine Mum says:

      Blake,
      I am soo proud of you for being strong & standing up to yourself!! I am terribly sorry to hear that your bio family I not supporting you with open arms & open hearts…but I am! Unconditional Love is the most important thing in the world & my heart is overflowing with it for you. I did not go through sexual identity issues growing up, but I was shunned for so many things! I was raised to be open minded & truly couldn’t understand how things I had no control over could be used by other kids to shun & ostracize me! So I truly understand how much it hurts to have people judge you by the way you are born, the parents you have or don’t, the color of your hair or skin…..its just so bloody wrong! I love you so much for being exactly who you are! You are a beautiful unique person & a wonderful addition to this crazy, fun beautiful world we live in!
      Big hugs to you,
      Sunshine Mum

  36. Beth says:

    Saw you linked on FB, and already sent in my contact info to you so I can help next year!!
    SO EXCITED to share the love!

  37. Julie says:

    Oh gosh, Shamama. As a mom of a transgender daughter my heart is broken a little every time I’m reminded that carrying on being a loving mom isn’t what everyone thinks is the normal response. Seeing this project for the first time made me cry. I would like to help in every way humanly possible – and of course, while I’m talking, I would also like to say to all the “kids” that you are loved and lovable, and please give yourselves your favorite warm drink from me, okay?

    Love, Julie

    • Andrea says:

      just wanted to add, Julie and Shamama, that I would like to say “hello” and extend much love and warm,warm hugs to our LBGTQ adults as well as today’s youth …their battles may have been long, but they are showing this All-Year Round Mom and many, many others what amazing human beings they are in bringing their gifts to us. I pray every Mom and Dad realizes how beautiful it is to be able to be yourself and loved unconditionally.

  38. Alfredo hernandez says:

    I love this website I saw it on an LGBT acc on instagram I have come out to my sister and my cousins and I kissed my bf and my sister said tht I’m disgusting and I just IDK wht I feel IDK thx for the support all u moms love u all

    • Reggie says:

      My dear Alfredo,
      You had the courage to show your love in front of other people, and that is a wonderful thing.
      You are not disgusting, you are brave. Being open about who you love is an act of bravery and I am very very proud of you.
      No matter what, please remember you have my love and support.

      Warm hugs from
      “Aunty” Reg

  39. hunter rogers says:

    I saw this website on instagram. My mom kicked me out, and i am DFCS custody so holidays are very hard. Yall give me hope that there is still love in this world.
    Thank you.

    • Reggie says:

      Dear Hunter,
      I am very sorry to hear about your situation. I wish things could be different and that you could enjoy the holidays the way you wanted.
      Yes, there is still love in this world, and I want you to know that in this wonderful community you will find plenty of it. All of these Moms, Aunts, Cousins are not blood related to you but they will love you and support you the best way they can- and so do I.

      You, my dear, have a place in this world, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
      Warm hugs from
      “Aunty” Reg

    • Jamie says:

      Hunter there is a lot of love in the world. You showed you loved and respected yourself enough to live in truth. I admire you and please stay strong. I will send many hugs and love your way!

    • christina says:

      Family is not all blood, family are those who love you. Im appauled that a mother could kick her child out for being gay. Never forget you are awesome!! Happy Holidays!!

    • Louise says:

      Hunter, My Cousin! Dude, I know the foster care route and it blows chunks! Get emancipated! I did at 14 and that was with the help of the police. You want to freak the Courts and social workers out, get a job and do well in school, and act as if they’re not there because really they aren’t, and really, the tragic deal is that you are on your own and will be for the rest of life. But the good news is that if you don’t get emancipated before your 18th, you will be 18 one day, and you will then have your freedom. Only, it is super rough having freedom when there are no resources so you have to grow up earlier than your peers. You have to get a job, get a bank account, enroll in Driver’s Education. It’s easier if you can do this while in high school, and act as if you’re college bound because the only way out of poverty and objectification is through EDUCATION. You have GOT to go to college. And you can do it. Don’t wait for anyone to give you permission, just do it. There are scholarships for people like us, and buddy, I did take it….. I got emancipated at 14 when I joined Police Explorers, got a job, showed Judge my good grades, stayed in school…… and that got me free tuition through UCLA…….. but you gotta do more than have a dream. I’m saying you do. Are you in?

  40. Mako says:

    Thank you so much for your message and I needed it. I’m not gonna lie, I did tear up by the end of that video. Even though my different sexuality isn’t necessarily the reason, my mom doesn’t want to be of any actual support for me anymore. She doesn’t accept my mental illness and thinks I’m stupid because I didn’t immediately get into the workforce and live on my own like she did. She just talks to me to feel like she’s still a ‘good mom’. I wish my mom could have a fourth as much of a golden heart as you all do.
    I really needed to hear that. Just… Thank you.

    • Reggie says:

      My dear Mako,
      You are not less than anyone else because of your ilness. Many of us struggle with things that aren’t visible to the eyes of others. We are just humans, and as humans no one is perfect. All we can aim to be is a balanced sum of imperfections, and we work to reach that goal.
      My heart is not golden. It has so many scars I can pretend it’s a roadmap to some fantasy land. But you know what? I am proud of my scars. They show I did not fear to live, and I still don’t. The thing with hearts and souls that were broken is that they can become stronger in the very place they were mended. They can expand to welcome people we believe deserve to be there.

      You, my dear, have a place in my heart. Be welcome! Grab a cushion and sit next to the fireplace if you want to.

      Warm hugs from
      “Aunty” Reg

  41. Alex says:

    I just found this website today and I’m in tears of happiness. I live in a strict, Christian household and although I’ve come out to everyone, I am not accepted. I’m a transgender guy and I’m panromantic demisexual. (panromantic meaning I fall in love with anyone despite their gender and demisexual meaning I don’t experience sexual attraction until I build a strong bond with someone) I’m constantly misgendered and called by my dead name. My mom never fails to remind me what gender I was assigned at birth and it destroys me a little bit each time she tells me. Knowing that there is a safe place like this where I can feel loved and accepted makes me feel incredible. I’ve never had something like this before and I’m so thankful I’ve found this website.

    • Reggie says:

      Dear Alex,
      It doesn’t matter what you were when you were born. It matters what you are now. And, to me, you are a person with the capability of loving others the way you wish to be loved.
      You are brave and deserving. Don’t let anyone put a shade on your light. Be yourself and receive our love.

      Warm hugs from
      “Aunty” Reg

  42. Lori Giannuzzi says:

    Hi,I heard about your website from my daughter and her friend.I would very much like to write a letter and applaud you for this wonderful website and love that it brings.

  43. Jenna says:

    Thank you so much for this beautiful and touching display of love. Growing up in a rather conservative Christian household, sexuality has always been a hot topic issue for me. I have only come out to my mom, and we have never again discussed it. Somedays I can feel her judgment and while I know she loves me, I don’t know if she accepts me. So I thank you for your moving acceptance. This has really helped me. Bless you beautiful woman. <3

    • Shamama says:

      Bless you dear Jenna! We love and accept you here…. I am so glad we have helped you! HUGS across the miles! Shamama

  44. Ellen says:

    Waiting for the day when my mom will think this:) thank you! I never thought I’d meet a mom who is cep ting. I thought the generational gap was just too big but you’re awesome

    • Shamama says:

      I am so glad we met then! I hope your mom does understand someday. You deserve it! Love, Shamama

  45. Olivia says:

    Thank you so much, it has been a tough year and this has really helped over the holiday season. As soon as possible my mum wants me out of the house since I came out as a lesbian a few months ago. I spent Christmas alone as I wasnt alowed to travel with my family who were going away to visit other family members in London. This has really helped me and I am so appreciative of the the work you all do. Thank you all.-Olivia

    • Shamama says:

      Bless you dear Olivia, that is terrible to alone and not allowed. I send big hugs across the miles… you are just who we created this for! LOVE to you, Shamama

  46. Candice says:

    You are a VERY important mom! You have made me feel like it is perfectly ok to be myself and I thank you for that. I have never truly been able to be myself (I am pansexual/genderfluid) and I come from an extremely religious family so acceptance as a part of the lgbtq+ community is not something that can be expected I would like you to know that you have assured me that the entire world is not like my parents. You and this site have made the holidays bearable. i have never met you and yet I love you so much it’s difficult to explain but thank you again for accepting me for who I am.

    • Shamama says:

      Dear Candice, thank you for that! And thank you for being you. I am so glad we made the holidays more bearable for you. All of us moms here love you back, so you have TONS of love coming your way. Keep being you, please! The world needs the real you, pansuexual/genderfluid and all! Love, Shamama

  47. Emily says:

    I am so grateful for everything you do! I am lesbian and have directed several more of my LGBT friends to this blog, because having a loving, caring mother is something everybody needs, even if they aren’t your real mother. I am fortunate enough to have a mother who loves and supports me as much as all of the moms on this blog, which is a remarkable thing. But sadly not everybody can say the same. You do great work and I am so glad that you are here for everybody who needs a mother, especially during the holiday season!

    • Shamama says:

      I am so glad for you Emily, and thank you for sharing. We are saving lives here this Holiday season… suicides stopped with real love, because our love IS real, even if we don’t know you personally. HUGS to you! Shamama

  48. Violet says:

    I’m crying right now! I’ve always felt like I don’t have a mom even though I technically do! I’m lesbian and my mom thinks it’s a phase or something! She doesn’t care about me at all and yells at me. Thanks for making this blog! It’s amazing how you take your time to come and be a mom for all these people! Thank you!

  49. Mahad says:

    I am in tears because I don’t know you but I always wanted a mom as accepting as you. My mom always told me that a man and another man having a relationship was a big sin. She barely lets me do anything. I’m not allowed to be friends with people I want to be friends with, and I’m not allowed to speak my mind or be who I want to be. You’re super caring, open minded and accepting and I’ll always be glad that you would be my mom instead.

  50. Perry says:

    I can’t stop crying, this video meant so much to me. You are a beautiful person and thank you, thank you so much, Mom.

  51. Sarah Martin says:

    I just want to say thank you. Thank you so much for all the love you have shared. My family is strongly opposed to my lifestyle verbally outspoken among other small jabs and gestures, because of this I have never told them who I am or what I stand for. I feel like a stranger in my own body around them. The holidays are very stressful and hard. I needed the emotional support that I got from the letters and the video. Thank you. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.

    Happy holidays to you and yours,
    -Sarah

    • Shamama says:

      I am sorry to hear that Sarah, but oh so glad you found us! We send love in buckets… and a new letter each day through the season… enjoy!

  52. Bianca says:

    I’m so happy that I’m crying right now.
    Thank you for resotring my color.
    Thank you for making me feel like I am a person again.
    Thank you.

    • Shamama says:

      Dear Bianca, I am so happy you are happy! Thanks for watching my video… I truly do send love in buckets! xoxox – Shamama

    • Aegina says:

      You are a person, Bianca, and a beautiful one. You dream, you love, you are. You exist and so the world is more special. Don’t forget that. We are here, and we love you.

    • Aegina says:

      You are a person, Bianca, and a beautiful one. You dream, you love, you are. You exist and therefore the world is more special. Don’t forget that. We are here and we love you.

      Aegina

  53. Benjamin says:

    This was exactly what I needed to hear, especially so close to the holidays. While my family isn’t “outright discriminatory,” they have chosen to ignore who I am and who I’ve grown to be. Thank you so, so much for sharing your love!

    Have a wonderful holiday season!
    Benjamin

    • Shamama says:

      I am so glad to have been here for you Benjamin! You are too amazing to be ignored… your holiday moms are here to say so! Love, Shamama

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