It’s me, your holiday mom. I just wanted to write and let you know that I’ve been thinking about you a lot this holiday season.
I wanted to let you know I have a snug, cozy spot saved on the couch for you. You can come snuggle up and we’ll watch our favorite holiday movies. We’ll make a day long comfy marathon out of it. I’ll make hot chocolate and popcorn. And who knows, if we feel crazy we can get out the ice cream, too!
And while we watch those movies I want to give you a great big hug and tell you that you are amazing. You are inspiring (you’ve inspired me!). And you, my dear, are one of my absolute favorite people on this planet. I love you dearly.
I want to give you all of the love and support I can possibly give to you, because you deserve it. And I am so very sorry if you are not getting that from the people that are closest to you.
I can’t tell you what it feels like to be LGBTQ or how difficult that journey can be. I know you are faced with judgment and persecution. Even one instance of it is far too much in my opinion.
I can tell you what it feels like to be thrown away by the people that are supposed to care about you the most. To not be accepted for who you are, or for the pieces of you that simply cannot be changed. Once upon a time I was disowned for my beliefs. To be treated that way – it leaves your head spinning and a great big hole in your heart. But I want you to know that the hole can heal. People can be forgiven, especially for acting in harsh ways when faced with something they don’t understand and fear. They can be forgiven for how they react when we can’t, and won’t conform to the way they originally saw us or even want us to be.
This holiday season, I want to give you something that helped me (and still does) to heal that hole. To feel good about who I am, and to find my inner power again.
I recite manifestos. And today I have one to gift to you. I hope you’ll lock it up inside of you and call upon the words whenever you need it.
The “I Am Amazing” Manifesto:
I am an amazing person.
I am not defined by labels.
Nor what others think of me.
I will not be put into a box.
I, and I alone determine the terms of my defining.
I am defined by my heart.
By my goodness.
By my kind actions.
By each and every fascinating layer that makes me who I am.
Because I am an interesting person.
I am incredible.
I am unique and remarkable just the way I am.
This is me.
This is my path.
I walk it firmly.
I walk it proudly.
This is who I am.
And I’m not apologizing for any of it
Because I love myself.
And I am loved.
I am supported.
I am cherished.
My dear, I hope you like it. I hope you will hold those words in your heart. I hope when you recite them that you believe them, deep down to your core. Because you want to know something? I believe those things about you. So very much.
Here’s wishing you a big, happy holiday season. May it be filled with all good things (and lots of hot cocoa!).
Here’s wishing you a joyous new year. It’s the beginning of a grand new adventure. I hope many amazing things happen for you in the year(s) to come.
All my love,
Your Holiday Mom, Theresa