Holiday Mom: Sophie

HMpictureMy dearest holiday child,

If you were here last year, welcome back darling! I want to hear all about your past year!  If, however, this is your first year here, let me give you a warm welcome to the family!

I know the holiday season can be a hard time for a lot of reasons, everyone is happy, the festive atmosphere is all around you, everyone gets together and has a nice time. Even surrounded by festivities and happy people, it is so easy to feel alone or unhappy. Please know that I, and the other holiday mums here, acknowledge you and your struggles and will do our best to help where we can.

This Christmas, or whichever holiday you celebrate, imagine you’re coming to me, to my family. If you have a special person in your life, a significant other, an important friend, whoever you want to bring, they will be welcome too. I will be thrilled to meet you for the first time, or see you return! If it’s okay with you, I will give you a big happy hug when I see you and tell you how proud I am for how far you’ve come and how strong you are. I would like to take you and anyone you might bring to my mother’s house this year. I haven’t seen most of my family in over a year and I miss them a lot. They’re a festive bunch and they, too, will be happy to see you, so expect more hugs and kisses and fussing over you. You’ll have to update me and the rest of the family on how and where you have been, how you have come to this point in your life.

Hopefully, we’ll get to meet my uncle’s new boyfriend as well, I have heard nothing but good things about him and am very curious! If there’s someone in the family that will understand your struggles, it will be my uncle, he was married to a woman for a few years before he found the strength to come out as gay and live life like he wanted to. We’ve all had our share of struggles in life, so to a degree we will all understand what you have been and are going through. One thing we will all do is accept you for who you really are and who you want to be, where possible we will try to help you become that person. You haven’t quite figured out yet who you want to be? That’s fine, we’ve all been there and it is truly alright. It will come to you and I will be there when it does. Maybe not in person, but I’ll think of you all the same.

I’ll sit you down for a proper talk, to see if there’s anything you need or anything I can do. It is so good to see you, my beautiful child both inside and out. You’re my holiday child and I am so proud of you, you never give up and you always keep fighting, you’re brave day in and day out and I am so happy to have you in my life. You have a special place in my heart, now and forever. I will think of you every day during this holiday season and wish you all the best, happiness, love and whatever you wish for. You are not alone, there are so many others out there that feel the way you do and you have me and the other holiday mums for support and we care about you. We love you exactly the way you are and you are enough, don’t let anyone tell you different!

I love you and think of you,

Mum Sophie

13 comments

  1. Angel says:

    Dear Holiday Mom,

    Thank you for the warm embrace! It’s so nice to belong in a place where I can actually be myself and be free. I don’t have to hide behind a dress or a skirt. I can be myself. My family hasn’t been to kind to me since I came out as a Panromantic Asexual and they wonder how I have a boyfriend and if they’ll ever have grandchildren. It just makes me feel like something is wrong with me. I wasn’t even going to bring up the fact I think (and I now know) that I’m Agender. I’ve been constantly depressed for several years and I’ve just been ready to end it all… But it’s these letters and the support of the people in my life that accept me for me. Thank you so much for welcoming into your life and allowing me to be your Holiday Child.

    – Angel.

    • Sophie says:

      Oh my sweet Angel,
      You are most certainly welcome for the embrace and the acceptance into my family! You can be and wear and do whatever you like, we will love you all the same! I’m sorry to hear your family doesn’t feel the same way I do, and please know that you are allowed to be who you and and who you want to be, there is nothing wrong with you, dear.
      You’re welcome in my and the other mum’s families and we will welcome you with open arms, hearts and minds.

      Know that I love you, sweetheart, and Please do always keep fighting.
      Big hugs,
      Mum Sophie

  2. Gabriela says:

    Thanks for the letter! I am new here, and I’ve been struggling with this for two years already. My family doesn’t know what I am, they are very religious and I fear they will reject me. Some members of my family suspects and ask me a lot of questions about it. I got rejected by my best friend’s mother because I was lesbian. And separated my bff and I, so I fear that my family will do that again. Your letter warmed my heart and made me feel loved. Thanks :)

    • Sophie says:

      My dear Gabriela,
      Welcome! I am so glad to have you in our family! I’m sorry to hear about your difficult family situation and the situation with your friend, that can’t be easy on you.

      I hope you find whatever makes you happy and remember that family doesn’t end in blood.

      I send you lots of love and hugs, my sweet Gabriela!

      Mum Sophie

      • Gabriela says:

        Dear Mum Sophie,
        Thanks for your letter! Thanks for your words, they made my day today. Thanks for the love and hugs.
        Sincerely,
        Gabriela.

    • Sophie says:

      My dear Josh,
      I’m glad our letters help you so much and bring you so much comfort. You are most welcome for the letters and you’re welcome in our hearts and homes.

      Big hugs, loads of love and always keep fighting <3,
      Mum Sophie

    • Sophie says:

      You’re most welcome, Calil! I’m glad you think it sounds good.

      Loads of love and big hugs, take care, darling,
      Mum Sophie

  3. Robert says:

    Oh wow, this is so beautiful! I’m still single but bringing my fluffy color point cat, Ari. Your letter warmed my heart today. I feel so loved and I don’t get shy about hugs.

    I’ll bring my sketchbook and while I can’t stay on my feet very long, settle in a high traffic spot to cheer everyone on. Purr and thank you!

    • Sophie says:

      Dear Robert (and Ari),
      I love cats, so by all means bring Ari along! I’m glad my letter gave you comfort and love!

      There’s plenty of space to sit down, a massive comfy sofa, or a big plush arm chair if that’s what you prefer. I look forward to seeing your sketch book and expect the entire family to want to see your drawings!

      Lots of love and big hugs, take care sweetheart,
      Mum Sophie

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