Holiday Mom: Sarah


Shalom My Holiday Child!

I am so excited to virtually welcome you into our home for these next 8 lovely nights! Now, would you mind if I put you to work peeling potatoes? The latkes will be so delicious! I warn you, though, I usually set off the fire alarm at least once frying these babies up! Do you prefer sour cream or applesauce? I’m team sour cream myself, but the applesauce is homemade and very tasty. Be sure to let me know what food you are looking forward to, I’ll make sure to make it for dinner one of these nights!

The holidays can be rough for many people and being two minorities, LGBTQ and Jewish, might feel very isolating for you, but you must know you are not alone. You are loved. So very loved. I think about you often, and after these 8 nights have passed (and hopefully filled you with love and light!) you are always welcome here, virtually in our home. When I light the Shabbat candles, I think of you and hope you’re well. Friday nights there will always be a spot open for you at our table!

Now, for the gifts! Please make a list of things you have been wanting. There is a movie themed night, so make sure to put down a couple to choose from. I also love to give books, so if you have any you are thinking of, put them down too. We like to have a game night. Do you have a favorite game to play? I’m partial to Monopoly myself. We have a charity night too, so we will be headed to the store to buy some toys for giving.

You are welcome to take the lead with lighting the menorah and we can say the blessings together. Let’s just stand here for a bit and admire the beautiful glowing light. So calming, warm, and welcoming. I find so much peace looking into the light of the menorah. I think that is one of my favorite parts of Hanukkah, basking in the loving glow of the candles, knowing that there are other Jews doing the same thing with me, all over the world. We are all one at that moment. I’m so glad your here to share that moment with me.

Are you up for playing some dreidel? You can pick one out, I have some wooden ones and a variety of those colored plastic ones. We also have an endless supply of chocolate gelt too!

I hope you have had your fill of potato pancakes, and there are some jelly donuts too if you are interested. I’m really going to miss your company, you are such a great person to be around, and I value our time together so much. I would be so proud to call you my child, the world is blessed to have you in it. Always know you have a safe space here with me. You are loved.

Wishing you love, light, and shalom,

You holiday Ima (mom) – Sarah



  1. Cas says:

    Shalom Mum,
    My name is Cas. I’m Jewish as well… but my parents refuse to practice it anymore. Especially since I came out as a gender fluid lesbian. They won’t let me attend any meetings and especially won’t let me.spend any time.with them.on holidays. Its lonely now… and I hate it. I just want tl be loved and accepted.. but even my ex is shunning me… am.I truly that bad? Technically I’ll be lighting the candles alone but it’s nice to pretend if even for a little while that I’m doing it as part of your family then it makes me happier than ever before.

    • Sarah says:

      Shalom Cas!

      I’m am so sorry To hear how rough things are for you right now. I’m proud of you for holding on to your Jewish traditions, even when your family refuses to right now. Know that whenever you are praying, or lighting Shabbat candles, I am there with you in spirit. Along with many other Jews all over the world. And no, you are not bad at all! Not one bit! Sometimes it’s hard for others to be accepting, sometimes they are scared of things that are different to them. I hope your family comes around soon, but know you are loved! Best wishes in the new year!

      Ima Sarah

  2. Julian says:

    This was exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve spent weeks panicking about what I’m going to do when I go home to my family. I wish I had a family that won’t hate me for my gender, that will call me by the right name and pronouns. That loves me unconditionally like they claim they do.
    So, thank you mom, for being the mom I need. Your letter made me tear up with gratitude. Thank you for being so loving. <3

    • Sarah says:

      Dear Julian,
      I am so sorry to hear your family isn’t respectful and accepting. I pray they will come around in time. But even if they don’t, please know how amazing you are!! How brave you are! How special and how loved you are!! My love for you is unconditional!
      – Ima Sarah

  3. Annabelle says:

    I am not Jewish but I felt so welcomed into you home and family. I started crying while reading your letter because you have showed me more love than my family and you haven’t even met me. I am so happy I found this site and I am sharing it with others who I know are in need of a more caring mother. I would love to call you my mom and can’t wait to read another letter from you even if it is next year.

    Your new virtual daughter.

    • Sarah says:

      Hello sweet Annabelle! I’m so happy you felt so welcomed into my home! I’m so happy to share it with you!! Know I think of you often and am wishing you well! I’m giving you a big, warm, virtual hug!! Bless you daughter! You are loved!

      – Ima Sarah

  4. Skyler says:

    Hi Sarah, thank you so much for inviting me into your home for this celebration. My prayer for you and your family is that you will be blessed as you share your family with all of us. Have a wonderful holiday season!!


  5. Aleja says:

    I just learned how to play dreidel, so I’m not very good at it. But it certinally is a fun game. Even though I’m not Jewish, I have family friends who are, and I love learning more about the traditions! What’s some of the prayers said while lighting candles?
    Love and Grace

    • Sarah says:

      Hello Aleja! I’m happy to hear your celebrating Hanukkah with your friends! It’s very important to learn from other cultures and religions!

      Happy Holidays!!
      Ima Sarah

  6. Leah Tzipporah says:

    I am a queer/trans convert-in-progress, so I have literally NO family to celebrate Jewish holidays with, and this means so much to me. Chanukah is a minor holiday in the scheme of things, but it’s nice knowing there’s someone out there thinking of me, in even the most vague senses. Thank you, Ima, for this wonderful letter, and your wonderful welcome into your family!

    Your holiday child, Leah Tzipporah bat Sarah Imenu

    • Sarah says:

      Shalom Leah! After Hanukkah passes, know I will be thinking of you during all the holidays! And on Friday nights, when you are lighting those Shabbat candles, know that I am staring into those flames with you!

      Chag Sameach!
      Ima Sarah

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