Holiday Mom: Matti

yhm mattiTo my sweet Holiday Child

Happy Holidays! I’m so blessed to have you in my home this year! Have you been well? Have you been eating enough? Keeping warm? I worry, you know. I bet you thought with this letter you’d be getting only a Holiday Family, but no! You’re family all year long and I’m blessed to welcome you into the Residence Hall where I currently live (until December 16th). We’re all excited to welcome you into our hall and so happy to make you a part of our adopted family!

Enough about me- how have you been? I hope this year has been a good one and I want you to know that you are so very loved this holiday season. I can’t wait to share it with you! Your Holiday Family will be so happy that we’ll be sharing our Christmas orange rolls with another child this year. We’ll watch A Christmas Story in our pajamas and curl up on the couch, as tradition dictates.

Our family is one that loves to give every piece of themselves, so here I am, giving a piece of myself -my love during this Holiday season- to you! I want you to know that you are loved with every piece of my heart and that no matter what, you will always be welcomed as my Holiday Child. I hope your holidays are everything you deserve for them to be. Because you deserve the very best, sweetheart. I promise you that. Now, I have something very important to tell you which, I will admit, I read online and absolutely loved.

Even if you don’t look like someone you find attractive, that doesn’t mean you aren’t attractive. Flowers and Christmas lights are two completely different things, but both are very beautiful. And so are you. Promise me you won’t forget this? You are a beautiful and amazing person and I love you because of the person you have always been. You are all I could ever wish for in my child and I’m so lucky to be able to call you my own Holiday Child.

I have so much more that I would like to say, but I think I’ll save that for other letters, somewhere down the way. Just remember I love you, okay? I am so proud of you for being who you are. Never be scared to show the people who look down on you how wonderful you really are.

I love you so much,

You Holiday Mom, Matti

33 comments

  1. Maddi says:

    Holiday Moms-

    This is my first year and I always feel a little closer to who I’d like to be after I read these. I feel like maybe, even through all my faults I could become better. I may not be good with how to express the gratitude I feel towards this site and all the Holiday Parents, but I still want you to know what you do helps and has probably saved lives.

    – Maddi <3

    • Matalin says:

      Maddi,

      Your name is almost the same as mine! That’s so cool! I’m glad you like the letters and I hope you enjoy the ones to come! I understand the gratitude you feel because the letters make me feel the same way. Thank you for your kind letter, it means a lot.

      Love Always, Mom Matti

  2. Angel says:

    Dear Holiday Mom,
    I am so grateful for the letter that was typed out by you. This is actually my first year with this, and it has given me some light in my dark times. I just wanted to say to you and all the other holiday moms and dads out there, thank you for being the joy I don’t often get this time of year around.

    With Love & Thanks,
    – Angel

    • Matalin says:

      Angel,

      I love your name! It’s really no problem to type out the letters, we all love giving people someone to feel close to during the holidays! It’s no problem, dear. I hope you have a wonderful holiday!

      Love Always, Mom Matti

    • Kimber says:

      Angel,

      Your goodness and graciousness comes through in your thanks. I know that there must be others around you who give thanks for your spirit and your presence in their lives, though they may not express it. There are many of us out here sending you love and warmth for the holidays. Believe that you are loved, because you are.

      Love,
      Mom Kim

  3. Jocelyn says:

    Dear Mom,
    I am a closeted bisexual. I feel like I can’t be myself. My parents are so incredibly transphobic and homophobic. Its unsafe for me to come out. My mother makes me feel so self conscious. She tells me I look fat and makes harsh comments. She doesn’t allow me to wear makeup, even though it makes me feel 1,000,000 times better about myself. She yells at me for wearing the slightest amount, like just some mascara. I’ve only discovered this website this year (because I accepted my own self as bi last spring) and I can already feel the love and warmth through everyone’s posts. Those orange rolls sound delicious and I will make some for myself tomorrow and cozy up by the fire and read posts <3
    Love,
    Jocelyn

    • Matalin says:

      Dear Jocelyn,

      I have had the same problem to an extent. It’s not that my parents are transphobic or homophobic, it’s that my grandparents are very set in their ways. I assure you that you are not any of those things she tells you that you are.

      I’m glad that you’ve found this website and I hope it helps! The orange rolls are delicious and I hope you enjoy them! Make sure to eat extra icing on them for me!

      Love Always, Mom Matti

    • Kimber says:

      Dear Jocelyn,

      I am so sorry, honey, that you are not getting support and kind words from your mom. I wish I could give you a big hug and tell you you are beautiful, because I know you are.

      I am glad that you have accepted yourself. That is a huge, brave step! I hope you recognize how strong you are. We more than accept you, we welcome and celebrate you. You have so much to offer the world.

      I wish you lots of love and warmth this holiday season.

      Love,
      Mom Kim

  4. Cassidy says:

    Mom –
    I can’t thank you enough for your letter. I really need to hear that I’m loved for who I am, especially because these days the people who like me don’t KNOW who I am. I am so glad to hear from you, and I hope you have a great week!
    Love,
    Cassidy

    • Matalin says:

      Dear Cassidy,

      It’s really no problem, honey! You are so very loved every day that I’m alive! You can come talk to me anytime and I’ll always be here to listen. I am so happy to hear from you and I hope your week and weekend go wonderfully!

      Love Always, Mom Matti

    • Kimber says:

      Dear Cassidy,

      I’d like to be another mom to tell you that you are loved. Just as you are, and for who you are. There are lots of us out here supporting you, and sending you strength and love.

      I tell my children that life would be very boring if everyone were the same and liked the same things/people, and that being different is what makes people special. You are special for being you, and I want you to feel strong and confident in that. You are a shining star adding sparkle and joy to the holiday.

      I hope you have been having a great week yourself. Thinking of you with love.
      Mom Kim

  5. Gabby says:

    Dear mom,
    Lately, I’ve been having serious trouble finding reasons to go on but let me tell you that this site it so helpful. It feels so great to hear supporting words like this. I’d love so much to get out of the scary situation I’m in now and curl up on the couch, watching Christmas move is Witt a family who cares.
    Love, Gabby

      • Matalin says:

        Dear Gabby,

        First off, I love your name! It was my name in my German class! Secondly, listen here sweetheart. You are worth so much, you are such an amazing person, and I am so happy that this site makes you feel supported and loved. Would you like to talk about the situation? I’m always around to lend an ear! I would love to have you over for Christmas, our family loves sharing their love. I care about you, remember that when you feel like you can’t go on. Alright?

        Love Always, Mom Matti

        • Gabby says:

          Thanks, I picked it out myself Cx And I’d honestly prefer not to talk about it but I really appreciate the love and support. Thank you so much <3
          Love, Gabby

          • Matalin says:

            No problem darling! If you ever need to talk, I’m here! No problem!

            Love Always, Mom Matti

    • Kimber says:

      Dear Gabby,

      Sweetie, I hope you are safe. Even if you don’t want to talk about the situation, we are here to help however we can. Happy to find whatever resources I can for you. Moms worry, you know. We want our kids to be safe.

      I also want you to know that there are more people out there loving you and who you are. We would be honored to have you with us for the holidays and share our love with you. We would watch some movies (a bit limited due to the little ones, unfortunately), and you could help decorate the tree and sing carols.

      You are beautiful and strong, and what you are going though will get better. You have a glorious life ahead of you, with so much for you to give the world. Remember that we are lucky to have you here. You are a shining star spreading light.

      Love,
      Mom Kim

  6. Christina says:

    mom, oh my goodness, this is so wonderful!!! your holiday traditions all sound very fun (i hope you dont mind if i get a little political while we’re watching a christmas story ) and id be happy to share a home with you, wherever that home may be. as a 15 yr old closeted polyromantic/polyamorous lesbian in a very strictly religious household, having any sort of support from a family would be great! ive been going it alone for so long. i just wish i had more than a handful of friends who i was comfortable talking to about my identity and pastimes. i would love to talk to you about just, like, regular teenage stuff!! cute girls, the college search, tv shows, whatever! but you seem like such a trustworthy individual, from a mom standard and otherwise, that i would definitely be open with you about as much as i possibly could…! if i may return the words ive been receiving from the other moms this season (my first one following these letters! :0 ), i just want to say please take care of yourself. youre benefitting so many people right now, and im sure that can be exhausting. take a personal day from work! schedule a spa appointment! marathon your favorite movie series! whatever relaxes you, do that. youve earned it from your kindness!!
    with love & christmas cheer,
    ❤️christina
    (ps. did you get that flowers vs christmas lights thing from tumblr? )

    • Christina says:

      this comment posted without any of my winky face emojis!! >:[ so from the bottom of my heart i just wanted to say: ;^)

    • Matalin says:

      Christina,

      I know! I’m so excited! I may or may not be on here instead of studying for the final I have in what…half an hour? Totally worth it. Since I’ve come to college, I rarely sleep so I’m up almost all of the time these days. No cute girls right now, sadly. The college search was difficult, but worth it! Doctor who is absolutely breaking my heart right now, but I’m addicted! I love talking, so you’re welcome to come around anytime!

      Thank you so much for the well wishes, take care of yourself as well. I will take a personal day as soon as finals are over, but until then I can handle the workload! Thank you for your kind words, darling!

      Love Always, Mom Matti

      (P.S. Yeah, I got it from Tumblr. It’s stuck on my closet wall and whenever one of the girls in my hall is sad, I hold both of their hand and quote it. They cry sometimes because I always make sure to tell them when they really need to hear it.)

    • Elana says:

      Christina,
      I’m sorry you’ve been feeling like you’ve been going it alone. So many of us love you, and are waiting with open arms and ears to listen. Hugs!!!

    • Matalin says:

      I know! I’m so excited! I may or may not be on here instead of studying for the final I have in what…half an hour? Totally worth it. You need support from a family? Well, here I am! I’m your mom now! You’re going to find friend that will see things similarly to how you do soon and actually, I’d like to share with you a chat site that I know good people frequent. You mentioned you are polyamorous (I hope I spelled that right) and there’s a whole tag that’s really awesome on tumblr! There’s a chatzy group for polyamorous people and everything!

      I’m up for talking about anything anytime. Since I’ve come to college, I rarely sleep so I’m up almost all of the time these days. No cute girls right now, sadly. The college search was difficult, but worth it! Doctor who is absolutely breaking my heart right now, but I’m addicted! I love talking, so you’re welcome to come around anytime!

      Thank you so much for the well wishes, take care of yourself as well. I will take a personal day as soon as finals are over, but until then I can handle the workload! Thank you for your kind words, darling!

      Love Always, Mom Matti

      (P.S. Yeah, I got it from Tumblr. It’s stuck on my closet wall and whenever one of the girls in my hall is sad, I hold both of their hand and quote it. They cry sometimes because I always make sure to tell them when they really need to hear it.)

      (P.S.x2 I posted this twice so if you get it twice, that’s why)

  7. Mirjam says:

    Dear Holiday Mom,
    Thank you for the letter. Your kind words warmed me, made me feel special.
    As I gracefully accept your piece of love for myself, I want to give you a piece in return. A piece of my love for you.
    To be honest, I am scared of myself at times. But then I read this and hope that I will sincerely believe one day that I am neither ugly, weird nor useless. I am working on it, but it is a very hard and long road.
    Your letter really hits it where it hurts most…… in a good way..? I am not sure, then again, I believe that one has to be brought to tears once in a while. Thus I shall label it as good.
    Have a nice day and/or night.

    • Christy says:

      You are so worthwhile. Never forget that! The world is a darker place without your bright light.

    • Matalin says:

      Dear Mirijam,

      I’m glad that my words have made you feel special because that is exactly what you are! Thank you so much for returning your love in exchange for mine, I am glad to be given such an amazing gift. Goodness, you made me tear up.

      I’m the same way, dear. I have trouble believing that I’m beautiful or worth anything sometimes and I hate to see that others feel the same. It is a long, hard road, but it’s worth the trouble in the end. I’m so proud of you for seeing that.

      Believe me, I know what you mean. Your letter back has me blubbering like a baby- I’ve always wanted to be called mom. I love taking care of people and I’m so happy that my letter has hit so close to home. I love you, sweet Mirijam. Don’t forget that when you’re feeling down.

      Love Always, Mom Matti

      • Matalin says:

        Revision: I’m sorry, dear! I wrote your name as Mirijam because I wasn’t wearing my glasses! It’s Mirjam! I see that now! So sorry darling!

        Love Always, Mom Matti

  8. Calil says:

    Thank you for including that bit about appearances. I know it was most likely meant to help people who struggle with eating disorders, but I am thankfully not one of those people. Though I do struggle with body image in a different way because I am transgender FtM so I constantly dislike my body because it is female while I am male. This helped me feel better about it.

    • Christy says:

      Though your body is not what you want it to be at this moment, it is beautiful and unique. As one of your holiday mom’s I would tell you how proud I am of you and your strength. Hold you head high and recognize your body is a shell of who you are inside and both are amazing and beautiful.

    • Matalin says:

      Dear Calil,

      I meant it for anyone who needs to know that they are amazing in any way that they feel right. I understand your discomfort in your body, but I want you to know that you’re beautiful, handsome, and most importantly, valid no matter what. I’m glad my letter helped you feel better, darling!

      Love Always, Mom Matti

  9. April says:

    Hi mom,
    I’ve been trying my best to eat healthy and regularly yet it is always a struggle because I am always sick. There are many days that I wish it was just a fever and a cough, but when I get sick I end up sleeping with the trash can and I have to take care of myself. Aside from that though I am doing well and am going to a health clinic soon because I think it’s time I see someone who is concerned about my health and can help me. Thank you for reminding me that I am beautiful just as everyone else is, when I hear it I have a hard time believing it but I’m getting better about it and have stopped putting myself down when people compliment me. I hope this holiday season goes as well for me as it is going for you, it sounds like a lot of fun and those orange rolls sound delicious. Thank you for your warm welcome and I’ll keep you in my heart too.
    Love, April

    • Matalin says:

      Dear April,

      I’m glad you’ve been trying to stay healthy. I worry, you know? Oh goodness gracious, are you alright? Do you know if it’s some kind of allergic reaction or something? Make sure you attend that trip to the health clinic and tell me how that goes.

      Of course you’re beautiful! I have trouble believing that I am too sometimes, but today the girls in my hall did my makeup and gave me clothes to wear so I could feel extra pretty. That’s something that helps when I’m a little down.

      I’ll tell you a secret. The orange rolls are delicious. Actually, they’re my favorite thing about the holidays besides being with family. You’re welcome here anytime and you’re always in my heart.

      Love Always, Mom Matti

  10. Haze/John says:

    Thanks mom. I have been trying to eat but not to much (because parents and ‘inches around the waist need to be lost for them to get me new wardrobe’). Thank you for reminding me that I”m attractive cause sometimes I forget especially when one parent nags you about wanting you to have long hair again cause they think short hair looks bad on you. I was born with female traits and am now genderqueer. What makes some things worse is that my parents a queer too and totally accepting but they still find things to nit pick like my hair or body size what Im eating why Im eating to much or to little and the rest of my family now thats also a story for another time. So thank you holiday mom you’re in my heart year round too.

    • Matalin says:

      Dear Haze/John,

      No problem sweetheart. I have the same problem, actually (that really hasn’t stopped me from eating though). Just make sure that you eat enough, darling. I don’t want you getting sick.

      You’re attractive, of course you are! It’s a shame that anyone has ever made you forget it. I’m sure short hair looks great on you! My mom’s a nit picker sometimes too, but you just have to take it with a “grain of salt.” That means listen to what they say, but don’t necessarily take it all to heart. I’m sure they don’t mean to hurt your feelings. They’re just parents and sometimes parents worry about weight and things like that. I know my mom does.

      I’m so very proud of you, my dear, and so happy that you’ve found this website. You’re welcome to come around anytime and visit. I’d love to hear from you again! You’re in my heart year round!

      Love Always, Mom Matti

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