Holiday Mom: Lisa J

round actual final hs aboutTo my darling Holiday Child,

Well, it is New Years Eve now, and I always get a little emotional.  And now that you are joining us for the occasion, I’ll get teary eyed about your coming year and hugging you tight wishing you all the wonders for 2016 that you deserve!

Every year we do our Family Vision Board on our kitchen table, I’m so happy that you’ll be adding to our mosaic!  Have a seat right beside me, here’s your stack of magazines, now start ripping!  We put on fun music, usually our sixteen year old daughter makes a great playlist for us to listen to, and we all sit around the table tearing out images and words of how we want to feel and the things we would like to accomplish in the next year.  What will your words be?  Some of mine will be JOYFUL, and INSPIRED, and I’ll find pictures of smiling family and maybe some peaceful yoga type things!  It’s really fun.  I can’t wait to see what you add to it.  After we all place our images on our kitchen table, we put a clear plastic table cloth down and admire our work.

Next it’s fondue time!  I hope you like CHEESE!  LOL!  Our eight year old daughter will want you to sit right next to her, as she just loves to fondue stuff!  We do bread and cheese and chicken and steak. There is an oil pot going and a cheese pot, and afterwards we melt Toblerone and dip bananas, marshmallows, and pieces of pound cake into melted chocolate.  YUM!

Now it is PYJAMA time!  I bought this pair just for you, they are fluffy and warm and we will all go downstairs to play video games in front of the fire.  We might watch a movie too.  Even though we are all super full from the fonduing, a couple of hours later I will be bringing hot snacks like mozzerella sticks, and mini quiches, and wings, and we always have ripple chips and onion dip, and plenty of pop or soda as some folks in the US call it.

After ALL that, we usually catch a bit of Kathy Griffin and Anderson Cooper on CNN New Years, and we switch around to also watch our local count down.  It’s almost time for the count down!  When we finally hit HAPPY NEW YEAR, we all get up and hug and kiss, and I usually cry.  I can’t help it, I love you guys so much.  We run upstairs and our tradition is we open the back door to say goodbye to 2015, and then open the front door to welcome the new year.

I usually take a moment to really let that sink in.  I know that this last year may have been hard, and that you may have not felt like people loved and accepted you for who you are and who you love, but I do.  And as we stand arm-in-arm in front of the door, looking out at the beautiful white snow, and the stars in the sky, I want to say one thing to you, my child….

HAPPY BEAUTIFUL NEW YEAR, may your heart be filled with love, may you have courage in your soul, and may you always know you walk in beauty, and love, and acceptance.

I love you to the moon and back,

Your Holiday Mom




  1. jasper says:

    just found this site, and this was the first letter i read. wow. it means a lot to me and other lgbt kids to have some sort of parent figure that loves them unconditionally.

    i know my mom looks at me differently, like im not her child anymore. even after my suicide attempt she refuses to acknowledge me as her son.

    i wanted you to know that i really appreciate you setting aside time to write this for all of us. i hope 2016 is good for you and your family. thanks for the letter, mum :]

    • Lisa says:

      Hi Jasper!
      I am so happy you found us! And I am so sorry that your mom has reacted badly to your coming out. Know that with time, some moms DO come around and things do get better…. until then, surround yourself with people who love and accept you for who you are, and come back here anytime you need your love tank filled.

      I love you to pieces!!!


      Mom Lisa

    • Lisa says:

      Hi Calil!

      You know what? I am so amazed, I think you have commented on every single mom’s letter this year, you are so wonderful and giving of your heart. PROUD of you!

      I truly wish you many blessings this coming year, and know that I love you to the moon and back!

      Mom Lisa

  2. Ethan says:

    Thanks for this, and happy new year! Holidays are rough on me. I often just hunker down and wait for them to be over. Some Mom-love makes it easier. <3

    Sending love n' hugs back at ya from Finland.


    • Lisa says:

      Hi Ethan all the way in Finland! How do you say Happy New Year in Finnish?

      I know that you are not alone in practicing some good self care over the holidays, I am proud of you for giving yourself exactly what you need without forcing yourself into holiday shinanegans that might feel unhappy.

      I wish you all the love, happiness, and joy for 2016, and know that I love you to pieces and am sending you a HUGE HUG right now, can you feel that? I really am!


      Mom Lisa

  3. Eugenia says:

    Hey Mama Lisa,

    Happy New Year!! Over here where I live, it’s already 12.50am, Jan 1. I recently left a comment on the letter you wrote last year. I think you didn’t see it, but it’s okay.

    Thank you so much for this lovely letter! It’s really endearing to hear about and share your New Year traditions. Your fondues sound really delicious, and pyjama time sounds really fun. I love cheese. and chocolate! This New Year’s Eve was a quiet one for me. I can’t wait to start my own traditions with my family one day.

    Thank you so much for spreading your love, light and joy to us. Hugs x

    Lots of love,

    • Lisa says:

      Hi Eugenia!
      I just replied to your beautiful comment over on my other letter from last year. I am so happy you love fondue AND CHEESE!!! Oh and Chocolate. You know what? Someday you will have a beautiful family to start traditions with, and I am so happy that you found us to celebrate with you!

      Know that I love you to pieces, and that you can always come back anytime of year to read our letters.

      Mom Lisa

  4. Shamama says:

    Thank you thank you thank you Mama Lisa for being the engine behind ALL of these posts, for sharing your love, and for everything you are to our world. You make it a beautiful place and I cannot thank you enough! Shamama Robin

    • Lisa says:

      Oh Robin,
      This has been one of my greatest honours and joys to work on this project with you. I adore you and hope to be a part of it next year in any way that I can. :0)

      You are truly one of the most inspiring and amazing humans I know, and thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating Your Holiday Mom!


  5. Riley says:

    I can’t believe you took out time and effort to write this lovely letter, it made me feel warm and loved. Something I haven’t felt in so long. Christmas is difficult and new year’s won’t be any easier. Thank you so much for all you do, thank you for making us feel loved and wanted. Happy new year

    • Lisa says:

      Hi Riley,

      I am so glad that my letter made you feel the warmth and love that I was sending out to you! I want you to know something, tonight, when I ring in the new year, YOU will be on my mind and I will be sending you a HAPPY NEW YEAR hug, so make sure you tune in to the universe so you can feel it okay? Here, I’ll send one right now! Did you feel that? I kissed the top of your head for good measure! <3 Remember that I love you, and you can come back here anytime and read the letters whenever you need your love tank filled!

      Happy new year to you to, my holiday child Riley,

      Love you!
      Mom Lisa

    • Lisa says:

      Hi Mic,
      Oh honey, you know what? My teenager might say… meh, she still yells sometimes! LOL! I want you to know something. Even though this is a letter on a website, I genuinely do feel love and acceptance for you. And even though your family does not know who you truly are inside, someday they might and they might surprise you! Surround yourself with people who do love and accept you for exactly as you are, and know that it does get better.

      Tonight when I ring in the new year, I will think of you and send you a HUGE HUG. So be ready to feel it.

      I love you, my holiday child, you can come back here anytime to read the letters here and fill your love tank, okay?

      Have a wonderful new year, and know that all of us here at Holiday Moms adore and love.

      I love you, Mom Lisa

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