Holiday Mom: Laurie

LaurieMy dearest child,

You are joyfully invited to my house for a holiday meal and sharing of love and family. I am one of those people who believes that some of our favorite family members are the ones we choose, those individuals that we meet and feel like we have known for ages and “get us”. My family is small as I have no children of my own except for two dogs who are absolutely family members and more than happy to cuddle or relieve you of leftovers. My brother and niece will join us for dinner and we will be entertained by the wonderful imagination of a seven year old. I will warn you ahead of time that you may be asked to look for fairies in the back yard. My mom and aunt will help prepare the meal and of course, you are welcome to help! The kitchen is where stories get told, laughter bubbles and the food is infused with love.

At mealtime, the television is turned off and we all sit together with more stories and discussion. No topics are taboo at my table but my favorite part comes as we share dessert. Towards the end of the meal as pie or cake (or both!) are being consumed, something will trigger my mom to tell a family story. It usually starts with “You know, I remember…” or “your (insert family member) used to…”  I love listening to family histories, sometimes it helps to know where we come from or how our loved ones lived. I think it helps with perspective and can teach us as well.  We usually have friends or significant others around the table as well. It is amazing how similar themes are weaved in the fabric of humanity regardless of culture or environment.

We usually eat early in the afternoon so after the kitchen is cleaned we either go to a movie or play my mother’s favorite, Pictionary. Oh the memories that have been made over that game! It is quite entertaining especially since very few of the people playing are native English speakers. My family is from Puerto Rico and it is not uncommon to have other countries represented as well. The drawings and translations create everything from giggles to outrageous laughter.

The door is always open. So please come inside, take off your coat and stay a while.

Love your holiday mom,



  1. Cassidy says:

    Mom –
    Thanks so much for your letter! I loved imagining everything we did together and I wish it I could experience everything with you in person, but this is the best we have.
    I’m planning to come out (as genderfluid) to one of my friends later this week in some creative way, so I’ll be needing a little luck and a lot of mom support, especially if it doesn’t go as well as I want it to.

    • Holiday Ciocia says:

      HI Cassidy,

      I am so proud of you for planning to come out to your friend. We will be here no matter what happens. Sending lots of love and light and extra hugs. Take care!

    • Laurie says:


      I honor your strength and courage as you share a part of your true self with your friend.
      Supportive hugs for this and all of your endeavors. You are worth it!


  2. Sebastien says:

    Wow thank you so much for welcoming me into your home and of course, I used d to love finding fairies when I was a little girl. I’m glad that you are willing for me to help in the kitchen, cooking is great fun and usually where all the fun happens. Happy holidays.
    Your holiday son

    • Laurie says:


      I’m glad you have the energy to play with her and help in the kitchen is always appreciated! I hope you know how loved and worthy you are!


  3. Yaeli says:

    Hello, Holiday mom!

    Thank you for this wonderful letter. As always, every single holiday mom letters make me smile.

    I love to draw, and am kind of a perfectionist, so it may take me a while to get tis pictionary down!

    I also speak spanish, so I won’t have much of a language barrier with your family!

    I told my brother my sexuality a few months ago, and he said that if I wasn’t joking he’d beat me up. So I got scared, and told him I was joking.

    My mother thinks I’m joking, because she thinks it wrong. She says I’m to young (almost thirteen, looking forward to that!) to know what my sexuality is.

    I’m very glad that my friends are supportive, but it makes me dissapointed that my family isn’t.

    Thank you for this wonderful letter mom, and I will be thinking of it all day!

    • Laurie says:


      I am glad you have supportive friends and an outlet with your drawing. Art is a very healing form of expression. I hope things get better with your family.

      Un abrazo para ti!


  4. Christina says:

    Well, I’m just going to stop by a little early… I hope that’s OK. I look forward to meeting everyone and sharing a multi-cultural celebration.

  5. Marshall says:

    Hi holiday mom Laurie!
    Thank you so much for welcoming me into your warm home that is full of love. I will gladly search for fairies in the garden! I love pictionary, as well! I will be helping in the kitchen, telling you about this years adventures and my most recent 5k PR and the county championship that I got a ribbon at. I will also probably be cuddling endlessly with your dogs, I love dogs.
    Thank you for welcoming me into your home.
    Your holiday son,

    • Laurie says:

      Congratulations on the PR! I know a lot of runners and hear their tales of training adventures. Keep up the love of what makes you happy!

  6. Kimberly says:

    Thank you for making me feel welcomed in a family for once even if its just for the holidays…

    • Laurie says:

      Dearest Kimberly,
      You are welcomed regardless of the time of year. There is always room at the table. <3

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