Holiday Mom: Kathy

kathyHappy Holidays my Holiday Child,

I feel so very blessed to connect with you and share in the spirit of the holidays. I hope that wherever you are, you are taking care of yourself and that you are safe, warm and finding some sense of peace. I want you to know that I am so very proud of your courage and strength. It can be a very difficult decision to open up about being LGBTQ – and even more difficult when we don’t feel accepted and loved by those closest to us. I want you to know that I accept you and I love you.

I would gladly wrap my arms around you and give you a giant bear hug. I would tell you that you are a unique and wonderful soul and that you are free to rejoice in all of the glorious gifts that make you – you. I know that it must be difficult at times to believe in these things, and that you face adversity and lack of acceptance on your journey. Well, I am here to tell you that you are beautiful, wonderful and completely welcome in my life. With me you are free to be your true and authentic self. You will suffer no judgment, no negativity and no hurt. You are magnificent and you will do wonderful things in this life.

Never be afraid to be your true self. I know it might not feel like it now, but in time you will find more people that will lift you up and celebrate the person that you are. They will look at you as I am now and see your loving heart and your tender smile. They will nurture and embrace you and want to share in your shining light. You are exactly who you are meant to be – never doubt that.

And so, during this holiday season, I raise my glass to you and I toast to your spirit and your strength. And I ask that if you feel scared or alone that you think of me and feel the warmth and glow of the love that I am sending your way. Happy holidays my sweet child. I love you.

Love Your Holiday Mom




  1. Lara says:

    Awww. You made me cry holiday Mom.

    Thank you.

    Honestly, this is very special. I have not felt this from my own parents. The fact that you accept me unequivocally and without hesitation, is something magnificent in itself.

    I am a Lesbian. And for how people describe me, I am Trans. (Hooray!! 🙂 )

    I would totally give you a big hug back, the biggest hug in all of hug history!! (Which is probably quite the hug)

    You have made me feel so special and loved. I hope I can return this to you, as we write.

    Here is something for you:
    Min elska fyrir þú es ódauð

    This is the language of my heritage, specifically Old Norse. It means: My love for you is undying.

    I left a decoration for you to put onto the tree at home. It can be any one you want, as long as its your choice of decoration. Then I baked some cookies to try!

    Happy holidays Mom,
    All my hugs,
    your holiday Daughter, Lara

    • Kathy says:

      Thank you so much for the lovely message. And I feel your love and hugs through the airwaves.

      I am thrilled that my letter resonates with you and I am very proud of your courage. Your kind words have made my heart sing today.

      Wishing you much love and joy!


  2. Angel says:

    Thank you for this beautiful letter. I needed this so much today. Well, I need one everyday, but thank goodness that I get one everyday. This was very uplifting and it brought a smile to my face.

    • Holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Angel,

      What a lovely and seasonally appropriate name!

      I am glad you are here, and glad that there are people who appreciate reading the letters.

      Sending more love from your holiday auntie.

  3. Robin says:

    oh wow, thank you Kathy 🙂
    This is just what I needed to read this morning, I love what you say, and somehow I believe you, it feels true when you say it. It’s difficult for me right now, as I’m telling people about my desire to transition FtM, and the reactions of those closest to me is pretty fearful and resistant. No one likes change it seems! and I understand that… But your words remind me to hope (and know) that being true to ourselves is the best way to live. It’s the hiding for the past 35 years that have made my life so challenging.

    I think I’ll be re- and- re-reading your words over the holidays 🙂
    with thanks and a warm holiday hug <3

    • Kathy says:

      I am so glad that you are finding some comfort in my words. They are spoken from the heart. I admire your strength and courage as you embrace your authentic self. Happy holidays to you.

      Sending my love. <3

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