Holiday Mom: Karen

DrLisaTo my Holiday Child,

Although we have never met, I wanted to share with you a few thoughts.

First, you are unique, and a beautiful soul. I know that because I believe it of all beings. You have many gifts and talents and are here for a purpose. And I suspect you are aware of that, or are gaining awareness of it.

Please consider that whatever your thoughts and feelings, they should be honored because they originate from a beautiful soul. It does not matter whether or not people make judgments or assumptions. What matters is that you are true to being who you are.

There may be times in your life when you will wish you were someone else, maybe smarter, more creative, whatever. But remember this. You are given an opportunity to shine brightly just by being yourself. Never be afraid of that. As you grow into adulthood, you will find that inner strength and courage. But right now, find people who see that in you already, and see that also in other kids. Make those bonds that honor who you are.

It is not easy to feel “different”, and I imagine you have many stories to tell around that. I am not LGBTQ, and so I cannot tell you I know how it feels. What I can tell you though, is that I have many friends who are and have shared with me what they go through on a daily basis. They are strong people and rely on their community for strength and support. I have admired their willingness to be themselves, and to walk that road of authenticity. Through their stories, I have gained an appreciation for their lives that I would not have had, were they not themselves. So be yourself and make a difference.

As you know, there are no closets anymore. So know that you do have friends you have not yet met – people who are trying to also be authentic and real in their own lives and ways. In this way, we do stand together and are never alone.

Blessings to you, bright shining light. And may this season be one of joy and great adventure.


One comment

  1. Sunny says:

    Hello. I’m Sunny, an 18 year old lesbian. I also have a host of mental illnesses. My mother does not understand either one of these things in the least.
    What you wrote in this letter is essentially what my mother has attempted to tell me, done the right way. This is how you validate feelings. This is kindness and acceptance.
    Thank you.

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