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My Dear Holiday Child, Hello again!
A year has passed since we last spoke and I am happy that it is once again time to catch up. This past year has seen Joys and sadness, Triumphs and tumbles, Hopes and fears, and Up and downs. I imagine the same can be said for you – (I imagine the same can be said for nearly everyone).
I want to begin by reminding you that I think of you and send loving and healing thoughts your way all year long – it may not seem like it since I only write a letter during the Holiday Season but I assure you that I carry you in my heart each and every day of the year.
I hope that since we last spoke that some healing has occurred in your life, that some rays of light have appeared. I pray that you have received at least a little of the acceptance and love that you were needing at this time last year (truth be told I hope your received MUCH more than a little). I do not know if you received warmth and light and acceptance from your Mom or your family or if you found the glimmers of light in other unexpected places – but I am proud of you for being open enough to see and receive the light (wherever it came from).
If this is the first year that you have visited the Holiday Mom website – Welcome!
Welcome to a community of Momma’s that are here for the sole purpose of reminding you that you are loved and treasured unconditionally; that you are Perfect just as you are; and that you never have to apologize for being truthful about who you are or who you love. Our community here wants you to soak up all of the limitless love and acceptance we offer and allow it to be a blanket of warmth for you throughout this Holiday Season.
When the moments are hardest – close your eyes and reflect back onto our words and our voices and allow the warmth of them to strengthen you through those times. You can come back here anytime you need your love tank filled.
I know that the Holiday Season can intensify feelings of loneliness – it is a chaotic and stressful time for many.
It can be hard to not currently be a part of family traditions when they once meant so much
It can be hard when you feel isolated from the people you miss the most –
It can be hard when your spirit craves a loving holiday season and it does not seem possible this year –
But if the reason you are not currently embraced by your family is because you feel loved with conditions…
if it is because you feel judged for being YOU,
if it is because you are scared and feel the need to hide your truth,
if you are being told that there is something wrong with you –
Hear me tell you that there is NOTHING WRONG with you.
When I was a child, at Christmas time; once the Tree was all decorated and the lights were about to be plugged in for the first time, we made sure that the song “The Happiest Christmas Tree” was playing. One year I remembered to bring the music to our daughter and son-in-law’s home so that our grandchildren could hear it; it meant so much to me. (I’m the happiest Christmas tree (hohoho hee hee hee) someone came and they found me and took me home with them…)
On Christmas Eve, everyone still gets one gift to open and it is ALWAYS new pajamas. It is cold and snowy where we live, so every year they are warm and cozy to snuggle up in. And you are now part of that tradition! So, snuggle up and open your gift with us.
When the stockings are hung and filled while the little ones are asleep, I have chosen to continue some of the items that my childhood stockings always had:
The toe has to be filled with a fresh Mandarin Orange
There is a new toothbrush in there
There is a roll of Rum and Butter flavored Lifesavers
And most importantly, there is always a candy cane hanging off the inside corner.
You may think after reading these few simple traditions that I had a seamless and calm childhood and was blessed with an always loving and always stable family. It may seem that this Momma cannot possibly understand what it feels like to be alone, or insecure, or disappointed, or even angry (especially when the truth of these feelings is deeply justified).
But this Momma DOES UNDERSTAND! Though I have never been judged or belittled because of who I am or who I love, I have experienced Christmas times when my heart was broken and dreams were shattered, and I could not wait for the calendar pages to turn; holiday seasons where it was painful to watch others celebrate in unity and times when I could not find the desire to put on a smile for anyone.
And yet as I remember now and reflect back on my 50+ Christmas’s I do smile because I have chosen to concentrate on the moments of goodness and light at each stage of my life – my Grandma always taught me that “in hard times; do what you would always be doing” (i.e.: don’t let the chaos control you but show it who is boss).
Feel me encourage you to try to heed my Grandma’s advice – if this Holiday Season is particularly “hard” try to muster the strength to show the world and yourself who is in charge of how you feel and how you choose to define the Holidays this year. (You show the chaos that you are in control).
If you feel overwhelmed at times with sadness because you are feeling alone this season,
remember that there is always a ray of light around the corner if you remain open to it.
(We Holiday Momma’s are one huge source of that light).
If you are angry or feeling rejected, let our love be the light.
If you are confused or craving approval, let us be your light.
As you look out the windows this Holidays Season; each time you see a string of lights twinkling remind yourself of the love from all of your Holiday Moms.
We are your Light and we embrace you with open arms and love you exactly as you are.
Merry Christmas my Special Holiday Child. I love you unconditionally,