Happy Holidays: Trans Mom

Holiday Trans Mom

Listen to the audio recording of this message.

My Dear Sweet One,

Hello, I am your holiday trans-mom.  I am the parent of two sons, one adopted trans-son, and two grandsons.  As the cold North wind blows across the front porch, l welcome you into our warm holiday celebration.  We’ve been waiting for you to arrive.  I’ve been so excited for you to join us.  We couldn’t start without you.

Dinner is cooking and the smells from the kitchen are wafting into the living room.  I hope you are hungry.  While our meal finishes cooking, let’s cozy up to the fire and just take the time to get to know each other.  I know that you may be feeling lost this time of the year.  Well, it doesn’t have to be that way.  There are many of us out here who love and cherish who you are.  It makes no difference to me who you are, who you love or what you look like. I am not here to judge you.  You are perfect just the way you are.  I only want what is best for you, according to you.  I am here to love, honor and respect you.   I don’t know what path you have been on, but I bless your journey.  It doesn’t matter what others may think of you.  What truly matters is what you think of you.  I wish for you to become comfortable with who you are and to love you for whom you are.  I, too, have been on a journey of self-discovery.  And, it has taken me a long time to be able to love me for me.  My hope for you is that you will discover that inner peace much sooner than I.

Oh, I think dinner is ready.  If you could lend a hand with the serving dishes, that would be a big help.  There we’re ready.  So let’s all gather around the table and be grateful that we have one another.  But, before we begin, I would like for each of us to silently thank God, the universe or whatever higher being we choose, for the blessings of being together tonight and for the abundance this meal brings us.  Let us toast, with sparkling apple juice, the laughter and good company.  As the smells and taste of our holiday dinner swirl around the table, I look to see the contentment in your eyes.  You fit right in with this celebration.  Your big smile and full tummy tell me all I need to know.  You feel at home.  You are at peace.  Bless you my Dear.

I know it is getting kind of late and you need to be on your way.  Don’t forget to take some leftovers with you.  We have plenty.  So, as you pull on your mittens and scarf, over you warm winter coat ready to leave, I would like you to remember that you are loved.  Not just by me, but by thousands of us out in the world that believe that you are perfect and lovable and cherished beyond imaging, just the way you are.

Safe journeys My Sweet One.

Your Holiday Trans Mom


  1. Alexander says:

    Thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I’d hug you if I could. You are a beautiful woman, and your son is very lucky to have you. I only wish my own mom would be as loving and accepting as you. I’m sitting here crying as I write this, to be honest. This was everything and more that I needed to hear. Thank you. As a transguy who’s been threatened with getting kicked out, has been told he’s unwanted, who has to hide who he is every day, who is never able to even say his real name aloud, this made my night. These are happy tears, even if the other seeps in a bit. Thank you. I hope your family has a wonderful holiday.

    • Trans Mom says:

      Oh my handsome young Alexander, you are perfect just the way you are. I am returning your hug and wiping away your tears. You have given me the best gift of all, your love. Thank you! I will be thinking of you during these holidays and beyond into the new year. Be true to who you are and love yourself. There is a whole community out here the loves you and needs you.

  2. Hayden says:

    This wonderful letter hit me hard. Reading this letter has left me in tears as well as feeling loved. You have definitely made a difference in my night, and whole week. I don’t think I could thank you enough. I have not had such kind words towards me in a very long while. Ever since I started being who I wanted to be and not what others wanted me to be all I ever got was either questions on why or opinions I didn’t want to hear. Thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    • Trans Mom says:

      Oh Hayden, thank you for you kind words. I meant every word and more. I feel your tears. Let me wipe them away and wrap you in my arms and give you a big hug. You are you and I will be celebrating that for the rest of this year and all of next year, too. As I have said previously, hold your head up and be proud of who you are. May I leave you with one last thought- You have made my day and my week with the love that you have shared with me.
      Bless You My Dear,
      Your Trans Mom

    • Trans Mom says:

      Thank you, Chris. We are all here to do our part. I wish you and your family (including your SYMRC kids) a very happy, safe and wonder-filled holiday season!

  3. Marilyn says:

    I didn’t realize how much I needed this until I started reading, and I now sit here, tears in my eyes, because I’ve never felt this kind of warm feeling in my chest before. Because of my own family’s values, I have never been fully accepted for who I am, and reading this letter truly made it all less of a worry for me.

    • Trans Mom says:

      Marilyn, you are so loved by me and a whole bunch of people out here. You ARE special and beautiful. Let me wrap my arms around you and hug you tight. You are so very special and perfect. For those around you who find you different, you are. And, so are they. I say, “Soar with who you are!” You are the only you that you have. Embrace, honor and love yourself, as you are because you deserve it.
      You warm my heart just reading your words. The gift of your words to me is immeasurable. Thank You Sweet One!

  4. Kyle says:

    Reading this was exactly what i needed tonight. Ha… the holidays are really awful times for me, and usually when my depression is at it’s worst. I haven’t seen my mom in 7 years, but it’s good to know that i have a loving parent right here. My parents hate me for who i am, and it’s been really hard to get up in the morning lately.
    This message will help me smile whenever I think about it. I’ll save it forever. Thank you, trans mom!

    • Trans Mom says:

      Dear Sweet Kyle, You make me proud. You are good and worthy person and please don’t forget that. I am overjoyed to be your TransMom. If I can pass along something that I have learned in my journey, those people who have difficulty with you, have difficulty with themselves. They do not understand. They don’t walk in our shoes. Be strong, hold your head up and look everyone in the eye . Be proud of who you are. Because, YOU are perfect just the way you are. Feel my arms wrap around you and squeeze you tight with a kiss to your cheek. Good night and sleep well, my Darling Son.

    • Trans Mom says:

      I feel blessed that I have touched you. You are a treasure. Thank you for giving me your gift. I hope you have a wonderful Holiday!

  5. Mama J says:

    Holiday time at your house sounds wonderful! Such a beautiful sounding family and traditions you have there!

    Mama J

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