Happy Holidays: Momma Sarah

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Dear Holiday Child,

The holidays have a way of stirring up all kinds of really big feelings. Whether you have a warm, inviting family to spend quality time with or not, holiday challenges are a reality. As a mother myself, and PROUD sister of a member of the LGTBQ community, I extend my heart and soul to you as the snow starts to fall, and the moon blesses us with extended viewing.

I often hear that you feel alone, misunderstood, or unsupported. I am here to remind you that I stand beside you.

As I stand with you, I beam because knowing you is a joy. Your very presence in this world makes it a better place. Your sexuality and gender orientation is merely no more, or less important to me, than the color of your hair.

I honor your courage and bravery for standing in your truth. I celebrate who you are, exactly as you are. I not only cheer you on, but I am eager to see what you put out into the world. You embody courage and true beauty by allowing your truest self to shine through. That Dear One, is an enviable approach to life. Thank you for allowing me to witness and support you in your unfolding.

This holiday season, as I serve a delicious meal to my own family, I will set a plate for YOU. It will represent a warm, safe, nurturing space where you are not only allowed but encouraged to be who you are – where there is NO need to put on a face, or alter some aspect of yourself.

As I light the evergreen candles adorning my dining room, I will honor you. I will express my gratitude and support for you because you are never alone. As I eat the meal with my family, I will envision you there, experiencing joy, laughter, and ease. As I clean up from the meal, I will thank you and send you on your merry way because there is a BIG world out there for you to experience.

You need not actually know me to feel my love for you because I have more than enough love to go around. I hope that you can envision a warm envelope of support and love surrounding you now, and each day in the future.

Love,

Momma Sarah

8 comments

  1. Paula says:

    Dear mom, I don’t know how to thank you for your words. I didn’t come out to my parents, yet. The only one in my family who knows about my sexual orientation is my brother, who is gay too. He accepts me, and my family know about him and accept he too. But I’ 15 and I’m afraid to tell the rest of my family about who I really am, because my parents always dream about me in the future with my husband and all that…and it hurts. It hurts to not be who I really am in front of my family.
    So thanks to be there, is means a lot to know that someone out there accept me and will love me for who I am. So thanks, mom. Thanks.
    Love, Paula

  2. Kate says:

    Thank you so much. Only my own mother knows exactly who I am, and while she supports me, I fear I may not be so lucky with the rest of my family. I can’t approach the topic with my father, so he thinks that I am his bisexual daughter, not his genderless asexual child. My sister would think I just want attention if I told her, and I’m not sure my brother would understand all it means to be who I am. This was exactly what I needed to hear at this time in my life. I am going through a tough relapse of depression, and I think that if I did not read your letter, I may have begun hurting myself again.
    I know I probably don’t need you as much as other people on here might, as I haven’t experienced as much discrimination because of who I am as they have, but thank you for being there anyway.

    • Sarah says:

      Kate,
      I am so glad that you found this letter, sounds like it filled a space in your heart. Perhaps you can come back to this note in the future when filled with sorrow and doubt, to remind you of the LOVE here for you.

      (hugs)
      Sarah

  3. wanda stuntz says:

    I’m so happy to see a website like this! I am a Mom to a 25 year old lesbian who I’ve always been extremely proud of. We live in a very small town, so you would think that she would’ve gotten a lot of flack for being gay. She didn’t. Actually as she was growing up, teachers would tell us how much they loved having her in the school system because she broke down so many barriers. As a young girl, she wouldn’t let kids seperate how they played because of their sex. she made them include all kids, no matter what the sport was. She grew up to be an incredible athlete that was pursued by all of the coaches of the different sports, and ultimately got a scholarship to play hockey in college. She always does wonder if she wouldn’t have been a great athlete, if she would’ve been as accepted. She broke down the walls and paved the way for others to come to school without fear, even after she graduated. but because she had it so easy, she was horrified to hear all of the stories from friends in college and since, of what they went through, with not only the community, but their own families. Her girlfriend has told us stories of her growing up and being very afraid to come out. It saddened us to think how much further we all have to go. She has always had it easy. But the norm isn’t that way at all. people always ask about “When did she come out?” We always said, “She was never in! We knew from the time she was a toddler. So she never had to go through all of the hurt, fear, or stress of that. I hope one day that everyone will have had it as easy as my daughter and I would love to have many adopted people as part of our family. If I could help others, or if our family could, I would think of this as my way of helping bring happiness and acceptance to others in this cold, cruel world. What you are doing is so wonderful and selfless. I hope there are millions of others and you just haven’t gotten to them yet! Happy Holidays and please let me know how I can help!!

    • tamilyn says:

      that is amazing !!! Such a great sharing .. It makes me feel better because my son as well was raised (till i got us out of there) in a small town who were narrowminded and cruel.And criticized for being different …Its is a relief to know that kind of mentality does not exsist in all small towns xo Happy holidays !!!!!

  4. Alexandrea says:

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a mother to me when I read this. I need to hear those words so badly. Thank you for taking the time to write them and for caring.

    • wanda stuntz says:

      There are so many more people that care than you realize! I think that this website has just started to scratch the surface. My daughter is gay and has never had to go through all of the hurt and fear that a lot of you have. We’ve always known. Since she was a toddler. we let her grow up to be exactly what and who she wanted to be. More importantly, who she was MEANT to be. You should never have any shame for being who God intended you to be. Because you were created to be this way. No matter what any of the uneducated, unfeeling haters in this world say. You were meant to be a loving, caring, special person. Don’t ever let anyone take that away from you or try to make you feel like a freak! All of the people who say bad things and use the Bible to do it, are going against everything it says and what it means. They are the same people who have hate in their hearts and don’t really know what love and compassion means. I hope that this website brings you some sort of peace and that the world will really start turning around for everyone. I hope the holidays this year will be the best you’ve ever had and that you can feel the love that you were always meant to have. Merry Christmas and here’s to a great New Year of acceptance, understanding, and most importantly, love.

    • Sarah says:

      You are most welcome. THANK YOU for allowing me to deliver this to you. Quite magical, really.

      Sending you (hugs)
      Momma Sarah

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