Happy Holidays: Mom Sherri

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Happy Holidays!

I’m Sherri, Your Holiday Mom. This is my favorite time of year.  It’s a time of reflection and appreciation for all that I’ve been blessed with.  One of those blessings is my 20-year-old son, Andrew. He came out when he was 15. I held him as he cried that night, and I remember thinking how incredibly brave I thought he was, and how proud I was of him for being who he was meant to be. I want you to know that I think you too are brave, and I’m proud of you for being who you were meant to be. For standing up to those who choose not to accept you. This is truly their loss.

I realize that it’s not easy for you to be who you are because of the ignorance that plagues the world we live in. But I say to you, never lose hope. Never lose faith. Know that while you may feel alone sometimes, you are never alone. There are people that love and support you. There are people that know and understand your daily struggles and want you to know that you are strong enough to overcome these struggles. You may not know them personally, but they exist. I’m proof of that. 

As I’ve told my son and I’m telling you now, nothing will ever change how wonderful I think you are. You will always be truly special to me. I will always support and love you. If you’re struggling, know that everyone goes through struggles, but you will emerge victorious if you choose to do so. Your life will be full of love and happiness if you will it to be. Don’t ever let anyone steal your joy. It’s important that you always stand confidently and know one thing is for sure, that you are loved, understood, admired, and accepted, always!

I pray you find the strength and love I am sending you in this message because that is what I wish for you your whole life long.

Enjoy your Holiday!

Love, Mom Sherri

4 comments

  1. Bryan says:

    Hi Sherri,

    I don’t know if you will see this comment, but I felt compelled to at least attempt to write you after I read your letter. Like your son Andrew, I am gay, 20 years old, and also came out at 15. However, unlike you, my parents were rejecting. When I graduated high school, I decided to go to university in another country in large part to get away from the stifling environment I grew up in. I haven’t been back home in about 2 1/2 years and my parents tell me they love me, but on the other hand, are still strongly opposed to my orientation and refuse to accept it. Unfortunately, they do not understand how problematic or hurtful their attitude is. I have a bunch of accepting friends now, but it’s still challenging to have a family that thinks that way. I dread the thought of going back to my home country and being in that house again with my family after all I went through growing up. When I heard about the way you responded to your son coming out, it moved me. In contrast, my mom yelled and tried to cast a demon out of me. While I have come to appreciate how my life has made me a strong person, I still long for my parents’ complete acceptance, yet I know, given the way they think, that may never happen. I just wanted to say thank you for the loving response you gave to your son Andrew and thank you for being part of this project. Moms like you give me hope that things will change someday.
    Blessings on you and your family this holiday season,
    Bryan

    • Sherri Drechsler says:

      Hi Bryan :)

      I was so happy to receive your comment. I too wish all parents could accept that sexual orientation means nothing more than the color of their child’s eyes. It’s just how they are made. No right or wrong. Just is. I’m so sorry you have to endure the pain of not having the acceptance you so deserve. Many times I have had people ask me how I responded to my son’s coming out. As if they expected me to say that I threw him away. It angers me beyond belief and I make sure they know it. I love all my chilren the same (I have two other younger sons.) They are each special in their own way. I will pray that your parents wake up one day soon and see that they are missing out by not accepting you as you are. Truly I wish I could change the prejudice that plagues this world. But all I can do is show my support where I can. I’ll keep you in my prayers and hope you continue to grow and love and strive regardless of what those around you choose to do. Stay strong! xoxo

  2. Sherri says:

    Jared, you are right. No one should be alone during the holidays. What you did for your boyfriend was very sweet and loving. It breaks my heart knowing that families turn away from their own for any reason. I don’t understand it. Just keep your kind and loving heart open. There are people that love and support you (and your boyfriend) no matter what. I wish you both all the best. xo

  3. Jared says:

    I would like to thank all of these beautiful people here for the love and support. It truly brings tears to my eyes to see such love being shared. My boyfriend of 2 years was unable to be with his family (or lack there of) and too timid to meet mine (theyre crazy). I ditched my childhood home yesterday to drive two states to surprise him only to come home this morning. He didnt understand why I would go through all the trouble … NO person deserves to be alone during the holidays, especially the love of your life. Again, THANK YOU to all the beautiful great-hearted holiday moms (and dads) out there!
    All the love,
    Jared

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