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Warm Greetings to My Adopted Holiday Child,
The cookies have been baked and the fudge is cooling in the pans. The tins are lining the counter awaiting packing with colored tissue and my signature (store bought) sticky bows. Christmas tunes are blasting!
I’ll need your help this year to complete the scene. I know you can’t really be here, but I’d love it if we could IMAGINE that you are…
I’d like your gentle hands to hang the ornaments on our tree. I want you to set our tables for 22 plus your place on my right, the most important seat near the host (and your partner, if you have one, next to you to make us an even two dozen). I want everyone at dinner to know the warmth of your smiles when we read the silly sayings from the holiday poppers while wearing the tacky paper hats. I want both of you to look around the room at the family and know that in our house all are welcome. This season, as your Holiday Mom, I will champion you, and your preferences will be a natural part of our celebration. We will respect you and your life, and we will honor you by treating you like family.
There is one hitch. Your partner is going to have crazy Uncle Louie sitting on his right. He repeats himself a bit, and there is that little scent of moth balls on his clothes, but he is harmless. You can both share your experiences with him. He gets you. He asked to sit near to you!
I am so happy to be your Holiday Mom. I have a huge regret that I was not all that my own gay son needed in his early years of knowing who he was. If I could turn back time, I would pay better attention and lighten his struggle. Luckily, all has turned out well and he is happy. Being your Holiday Mom is allowing me to have a second chance to get it right. Thank you.
I will imagine you getting here and sharing everything that has happened in the past months. Just know I WILL ask a lot of questions because in knowing how you handle your life inside and outside the LGBTQ community helps me feel closer to you and grow as a mom. I will also ask a lot of questions about other facets of your life because your talents are limitless.
So, let’s imagine together we are ready to get going. These tins won’t pack themselves! I virtually welcome you with open arms and a big hug.
Your Holiday Mom, Grace