First, a letter from Mom Sandy…
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Welcome home. It’s so good to have you here, even if only on a web page. I can’t wait to talk to spend time with you. If you’ve had a tough time, know you will not have that in your new adopted holiday home. We have both an adopted daughter and a gay son. So we welcome you with open arms, love, joy and acceptance.
We want you to feel the love you deserve, just because you’re you. We love you just the way you are. (Continued, including an additional message from Dad Bob)
I’m in the kitchen frying latkes for us all. I’d love for you to imagine being with us. Do you like your potato pancakes thin and crisp or thick and chewy? It’s so wonderful having you with us to help light the candles. When our son was young he loved having cinnamon rolls and bacon for breakfast. So If you like I’ll cook that for you. Older? How about a bagel with lox, onion and tomato? More sophisticated? I’ll make you crepes. After breakfast we can sit on the floor in front of the fire and play card games together, with the fire roaring in the fireplace and beautiful music on. We can just share in the joy and love of each other. See the lights flickering and surrounding us with their warmth? It makes our holiday so much more fun and loving having you with us.
I’d love you to feel the warmth and acceptance and fun you deserve. You are loved.
And now a word from Dad Bob…
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Dear Holiday Child,
Our son is gay. So what? It is quite easy for me to feel that way because I love him so much … always have and always will.
We found out he was gay when he was in his early teens. My wife and I weren’t completely taken by surprise because there had been signs early in his life. My immediate reaction was, “so what else is new?” But, in the light of his reality, I became concerned: Not about my feelings of love and admiration for him, but for how the world would treat him. Humanity is somewhat of an oxymoron — it is capable of great sympathy, heroism and sacrifice and also has the ability to embrace great prejudice, cruelty and violence. Sadly, even understanding that cannot completely protect you from the unjust pain you may experience solely because of who you are … or are not. Our son has frequently told us that he had the easiest coming out of anyone he knows! Even so, he’s had some rough patches but has always rebounded. He has always had our support and love and will continue to have them as long as we live.
I wish for you the same support and love we give our son, especially at the holiday season. We also wish we had the physical capacity to welcome everyone of you into our lives and to share the solace of a loving and understanding family. I wish you well. Have courage. Do not despair. Stand tall, and let the world know that you are loved. That you are valuable. And that you possess dignity.
My warmest wishes to all of you during these Holidays.