Happy Holidays: Mom Carolyn

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERADear Adopted Child of Mine,

I want you to know that whoever you are – you are loved! There is nothing wrong with you- you are wonderful and great and kind and special – it’s just that society has not caught up to you yet! I am with you in spirit and want you to be part of our wonderful, crazy, inclusive and weird family.

Here is who we are and what we do for Christmas! We want you to virtually join us! I am a 57 year old mom married for almost 40 years and my husband and I have 2 grown sons. On Christmas Eve we will gather with our kids and their families. Out oldest son is hearing impaired but he kept pushing forward and got his doctorate.  He is now a doctor at the VA hospital. He thought he would never find anyone to love. He felt better about himself after gaining his doctorate and finally got brave enough to date. He married his beautiful wife and they are expecting a baby boy.

Our other son is an engineer and is married to a lovely teacher and our first two granddaughters are gorgeous 3-year -old girls who they adopted from Ethiopia. They are young, gay and really successful men with their PhD’s.

However, our best buddy was raised Mormon in Utah, is deeply religious and even went on his mission to Brazil. He met his wonderful and fabulous partner in college and they have been together for over 7 years. Somehow he came to the realization that there is absolutely nothing wrong with him and that he was a happy gay man! I wish the same for you! He didn’t have the courage to tell his family until just this summer and he is already a well-known and famous professor!

Guess what? His family accepted him entirely and just came to our town for a visit! Our friend is so happy that both parts of his life have now become one! He told us that most of the reason that he had enough courage to come out to his family is because our family loved him so and that was enough for him. He and his partner come to all of our family gatherings and our parents love them too!

And we love you, too! That’s including a Grandma who is 86 and a Grandpa who is 86. Also, a grandma who is 77. Older people can have big ideas and not be prejudiced either!

One Grandma will be turning 87 on Christmas Eve and I have cooked for her birthday for 40 years. My husband is Italian and we have homemade manicotti, eggplant parmesan, salad, bread, Italian sausage, Italian cookies, spumoni ice cream and Italian creme cake. It has been the same menu and we wish you were there with us. You are in spirit and we love and care for you and are hugging you now.

You are wonderful just the way you are!



  1. Skyler says:

    Dear Mom Carolyn…thank you so much for your welcoming message. May you and your family have a wonderful Christmas. I have been with my guy for two years and wish we could be a part of your celebration. Happy 87th birthday to Grandma!!

  2. Trans Mom says:

    Mom Carolyn, thank you for your message of acceptance and love, very necessary gifts this time of the year.

  3. Acacia says:

    Crying tears of happiness. You have given me hope that people are out there who care. My only wish is to hear my family accept me in this way.

  4. Lisa says:

    Beautiful how the holidays brings the love of family, chosen and birthed, together. This letter extends its heart to anyone wanting a chosen family, so lovely!

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