First, you have to know that I don’t have any children of my own, but, lately, in these last 6 months, I have been blessed by being able to play with a wonderful group of children. I only have to go down the block from me to a day care center for children they call “at risk.” Their dads might be in prison, or their moms are alone trying to raise them and going to school and working at the same time. They hunger for one on one contact – as we all do.
I have learned about 1 ½ and 2 year olds these past six months. They have minds of their own and do what they want to do even if it’s not what you want them to do. I have learned that they can be very mean to each other and they can be the sweetest things you’ve ever seen. I have learned that they’ve been put in my life me for me to love, and no matter what they do or say, each one is easy to love and love them I do, all year around.
If you were here, this holiday season, as I imagine you are, I would love you too. I know I would, and for who you are as part of the LGBTQ community. You are lovable and important exactly the way you are no matter what. I feel honored in being able to write to you and to tell you that you are a miracle on this earth, whether you are feeling mean, sweet, sad, angry, or happy. Go easy on yourselves this holiday. See yourselves as I see you: not someone defined by unhappy circumstances, but a person filled with talents and gifts that you have yet to share! The world is waiting. You bless us all by being you – no more, no less. Nothing else is called for. We need you here with us, now, just as you are.
I’m going to friends for the holidays and I plan to have fun and eat too much. I hope you have a wonderful holiday, and no matter where you are or what you are doing during these special days, remember that you’ve got a friend who will be thinking of you, and for many days after.
With love, and a big hug,
Your Holiday Friend,