Happy Holidays From Mama Jenn

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Dear Holiday Child,

I am so glad to meet you here and welcome you into my heart and home this New Year’s Eve.  I don’t know if I’ll be able to stay awake until Midnight, but will certainly try!  I may not know you, but I’m sharing with you all the love I have for my own little daughter.  She turns four in just a few weeks and I am so proud of her emerging brilliant, shining being. I hope you, my adopted holiday child, can feel that pride and acceptance extended to you.

I am very lucky to live just a block from the beach and so have access to the wonderful ocean year round, no matter the weather.  On the last day of the year, I love to bundle up and walk down at low tide.  I hope you can see yourself with me and my daughter, outside in the powerful wind and breathing deep the salt air.  We can walk and talk while she jumps in puddles and picks up little hermit crabs.  The presence of the water in winter is just amazing.  My adopted child, my loved one, I hope you can see yourself as a part of this ritual.  I know it’s all the better for you having been here. Continue reading

Happy Holidays: Mom Sandra

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Hello My Adopted Holiday Child! Please imagine joining my family here at our hearth and in our home.

My wish is that you feel it is possible to believe in your dreams so completely that they come to your life full-force. I do know how challenging it can be to want to be who you truly are and not be able to be, and also how others can be less accepting than we hope. I’m a mom of three nearly grown young adults. I’m also a daughter and a woman that is come out to my true sexual identity in midlife. I waited because I allowed fear, lack of acceptance and many moments of shame to keep me from being who I truly am, right now.

Right now. That’s the gift that is most precious…this PRESENT moment where you are you and no matter what, you are loved while living your truth. The LGBTQ community shares many of the same challenges as humanity, but the road to acceptance is often paved with boulders, hurdles and pits that are made of intolerance – the “Ubuntu” is missing. What is “Ubuntu?” It is an African term that describes the essence of being human. It speaks about humanness, gentleness, being vulnerable. It embraces compassion and toughness of spirit that recognizes that my humanity is bound up in yours. We can only be human together.  Continue reading

Happy Holidays: Mom Lucy

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Dear Adopted Holiday Child,

It can be hard to know what to say to someone who doesn’t have support from their family over the holidays. My own daughter has been pretty lucky for the most part. She always knew, because I told her repeatedly, that I didn’t care who she loved, as long as they loved her back. I used to tell her, “Boy, girl, purple alien, whoever,” and though it came to be a sort of family in-joke, she knew deep inside that I meant it. Others of her peer group weren’t so lucky, and I saw the negative results of family or friend rejection firsthand more than once.

Maybe you’ve experienced some of that yourself. I can’t erase that memory from your brain, though I wish I could. Maybe you’re feeling some of that rejection from your family, or coworkers, or people you thought were your friends right now. So let me tell you this: You really do have people out here who love you. You matter, especially to me. I know what it means to be lonely in a room full of laughing people, and right now, at this very moment, while you’re reading this, I am thinking about you and wishing I could make hugs into something tangible I could send through the Internet.  Continue reading

Happy Holidays: Mom Sherri

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Happy Holidays!

I’m Sherri, Your Holiday Mom. This is my favorite time of year.  It’s a time of reflection and appreciation for all that I’ve been blessed with.  One of those blessings is my 20-year-old son, Andrew. He came out when he was 15. I held him as he cried that night, and I remember thinking how incredibly brave I thought he was, and how proud I was of him for being who he was meant to be. I want you to know that I think you too are brave, and I’m proud of you for being who you were meant to be. For standing up to those who choose not to accept you. This is truly their loss.

I realize that it’s not easy for you to be who you are because of the ignorance that plagues the world we live in. But I say to you, never lose hope. Never lose faith. Know that while you may feel alone sometimes, you are never alone. There are people that love and support you. There are people that know and understand your daily struggles and want you to know that you are strong enough to overcome these struggles. You may not know them personally, but they exist. I’m proof of that.  Continue reading

Happy Holidays: Mom Jackie

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Dearest Adopted Loved One,

I’m so glad to be standing in as your holiday mom this year! Although I can’t imagine what your life is or how it can be that any child would live in fear or reality of being rejected because of who you are, what I can fully imagine is our hearts coming together in the spirit of love. Thank you for letting me be a part of your holiday.

I’d like to tell you a little bit about my connection to the LGBTQ community. My daughter Lauren is 19 and lives openly as a lesbian. She knew she was different along the way, mostly because she always preferred to buy her clothes from the boys’ department rather than shop for girl clothes. As her mom, I noticed little things over the years that indicated she was outside the perceived ‘norm.’ When Lauren was 16, while our entire family was gathered (grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, her dad and me), she nervously came and said she wanted to tell us something and went on to share that she’s a lesbian. There wasn’t a moment of hesitation before her family began offering their love and support. I won’t say she doesn’t still have struggles, because she does. Our society hasn’t yet decided to fully integrate those who appear to be so ‘different.’ But I have full confidence things are changing and we’ll see dramatic shifts in our lifetime.  Continue reading

Happy Holidays: Mom Grace

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Warm Greetings to My Adopted Holiday Child,

The cookies have been baked and the fudge is cooling in the pans. The tins are lining the counter awaiting packing with colored tissue and my signature (store bought) sticky bows. Christmas tunes are blasting!

I’ll need your help this year to complete the scene. I know you can’t really be here, but I’d love it if we could IMAGINE that you are…  Continue reading

Happy Holidays: Momma E

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To My Adopted Holiday Child:

First of all, Hugs. I’m that kind of person – so when you’re rolling with me that’s what you get; and lots of them.

This time of year can really suck, to be blunt. The inflated expectations for the “perfect” holiday (Just what is that anyway? I still haven’t figured it out, and I have a half century of holidays behind me already!), and the “perfect” family to spend those days with. My family certainly isn’t perfect; we live a noisy, crazy, chaotic life. But I’d love to share it virtually with you, even just for this brief time.  Continue reading

Happy Holidays: Mom Tamilyn

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Dearest Beautiful Child,

Ohhhh, there you are!! We found each other . . . yay!

My name is Tamilyn, or as the others call me, “The Momma.”  Today, I am your Holiday Mom.

I would love to be able to give you a big, squishy hug . . . hugs warm my heart. I am an open, loving mom who is so excited to be here with you to be your loudest cheerleader!

I am a mother of two fabulous boys. My oldest is 23, and he is straight, while my youngest bundle of light is gay. He is 20 now and has been out for eight years. I tried very hard to show and allow my children to express themselves from the time they were born. Davi came out to me in a letter when he was 12. I still have and cherish that letter. How hard it must have been for him to have such courage in sharing so much of himself at such a young age . . . soooo very courageous! I, as his mother, and knowing my child, thought maybe he was special and had always made a point of stressing that sexuality was a personal thing and it did not make any difference whatsoever in a soul’s life or potential, nor was it more important than anything else!  Continue reading

Happy Holidays: Dad James

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To My Holiday Child,

Hi there. I’m excited to be your virtual Holiday Dad this year.

I know that this time of year is stressful, to say the least, what with dinners, guests, presents, parties, and all of that other stuff that make the holidays fantastic and terrible at the same time, but I wanted to just take a minute and talk with you. I wanted to let you know something fantastically important. That thing is this: I love you, and I am so very, very proud of you. What you’ve done, what you’re doing right now, is the most difficult and terrifying thing anyone can do, and you’re doing it so much better than I ever could dream of.  Continue reading

Happy Holidays: Mom Rosie

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Ho, Ho, Ho Oh Beautiful One!

How fortunate am I?  To be your Holiday Mom for such a loving soul who just wants to be loved and accepted for you.

I am Mom Rosie, also known as Debbie, and the holidays are a time of year for some to celebrate with family and friends.  For others, it may be a time to shy away from because it’s a reminder of what may not be. Having a warm loving, accepting family. A family who loves you for who you are.

For me, this time of year is very difficult. Four years ago, five days before Christmas, my son passed away.  I was devastated.  My world was turned upside down. That day when there was a moment of quiet, I picked up my gratitude journal and started writing how grateful I was for the 30 years I was gifted and blessed to be Ken’s mom.  Continue reading