Happy Holidays 2017 from Your Holiday Mom Shamama!

From Me To You – in Ireland, the land of a thousand shades of green!

Dear Holiday Child,

Here we are in another holiday season. With all that is going on in the world (so hard!), you might be tempted to forget how much good there is! In specific, how many moms have been writing, polishing and getting ready to send on their very best holiday wishes and love to you here at YourHolidayMom.com. Yes, a whole new season is lined up from Thanksgiving (US) to New Years Day. We even hear the Chicago Tribune is going to share us this year!

Some of you are new, and some of you have been with us for five years now – we welcome you no matter your age – there is a child needing a mom’s love in all of us!

I want you to imagine this with me – so many moms lined up to write you a letter here on this blog. They are ready to give you a virtual hug, warm your cold winter hands, and welcome you into all the sights, smells and sounds of a loving holiday family.

At my house, things are a little different this year. You see, I’ve moved half-time to a tiny, postage stamp sized apartment in the Silicon Valley, so Brian is coming to me for Thanksgiving! We’ll celebrate with friends – but I will make SURE there is a virtual place for you at the table!

Then I’ll be coming home for Christmas to hopefully see the snows of Maryland – that will be such a treat! I love-love-love a winter wonderland of snow!

Your holiday-siblings Taylor (now in his third year of graduate school) and Richard (he just bought his first home this year, at age 29!) will come over, and hopefully Becca, Tristan and the grandkids will stop by as well. My mom- and dad-in-love will be there – both are in their 90’s as of this year! We’ll have a tree, but other than that, we don’t get too fancy. I’ll be sure to take a walk down my half-mile driveway one crisp morning and think of you and your life as if we were talking, just you and me.

What will we talk about? Everything! Your life, your loves (or wish for someone), your troubles and your joys. I’ll probably comment on how much you’ve grown (inside, even if you’re no longer getting taller), and how proud of you I am. I’ll be sure to focus on what is GOOD in your life, and I’ll tell you all the good stuff that’s happened to me, too.

You might say this website is just a fantasy – but you’d be wrong, there, holiday child. The love is real. The care is palpable. The moms FEEL for you, with you, and about you! We have Mom Marni holding down the fort at Tumblr again this year, and Mom Yvonne has been busy at work making sure everything runs smoothly, from the letters to the website. We’re all here because YOU matter to us. Really.

So off we go – come back for letters each day and you’re sure to find something to laugh about, cry (in a good way) about, and generally feel good about. We welcome you with open arms!

Love, Shamama (aka Robin Rice, founder)


  1. A. D. says:

    Hi mama, I have been never alone, alone for 10 years now. Sometimes, very seldom the search is not enough, the angels in my ears love but we can’t touch. All these lovely hearts share and it softens the hard lines of the flow, I miss touch sometimes but seldom want it. Thank you for all the love, happy holidays <3

  2. Anthony S says:

    Wow I don’t know to feel I know that you guys aren’t really my mom but it still feels like you are I’ve been in foster care since I was born never really having a true family I wasn’t one of the lucky kids my chances of finding a forever home got even worse when I told my caseworker I was gay those words really brought tears to my eyes

    • Auntie Hay says:

      Know this Anthony-
      There are so many people in this world who would be so excited to know you and have you be a part of our lives… litterally thousands just right here on this website.
      You are a blessing to the world and are always welcome and wanted here, just as you are.
      All my love,
      Auntie Hay

    • Tobi D says:

      I’m very new to this site, and how it works, but readinf this made me feel all nice and gushy. And that doesn’t happen often..
      It’s just nice to see that this is an option out there, and even though I don’t really know what to think of it. I’m gonna give it a go.

      • Auntie Hay says:

        Hey Tobi!
        There’s something about this place that feels almost magical. I found it a few days ago. I’m not a mama, or a youth, but I felt the need to give it a go like you did.
        The love here is so real I can feel it- I hope you do too.
        Proud of you for jumping in!
        With love,
        Auntie Hay

  3. Rachel says:

    Thank you for all the time and love that you have for us!!
    I hope your holidays are just as bright and filled with love!

  4. Johnny says:

    Shamama, thanks so much for being here for all of us this holiday season. While my caretaker and other family are here with me tonight I am lacking a mother’s love/acceptance. No matter how hard I try I couldn’t avoid the empty space that’s there for my mum. But I found this website, and it makes that hole in my heart so much smaller. Can’t wait to read the future letters! Much love from a virtual child!

    • Shamama says:

      Hi Johnny! Thank you for writing so I can let you know how wonderful you are!!! I can’t fully fill that hole, but with so many moms here over the holidays, hopefully we will make it better. As you say, the hole so much smaller. BIG hugs to you, Shamama

    • Tina Y says:

      Johnny, I, too, lack a mother’s love. I am not trans, I have a trans son that I love with all of my heart. I want to share a little something with you. I grew up with a mother who didn’t love me and that has made me a mother with so much love to give. I believe that whoever is out there watching over all of us knew that my son was going to need a mother that would love unconditionally and with complete acceptance and joy at the wonderful son that I have been given. Those of us that know what it is like to not be loved have a greater capacity for love and empathy to share with the world. So, believe this: you are a gift to the world and your mother has given you the blessing of being someone that will love the unloved and that is the greatest gift of all.

  5. Toby says:

    I just found this website and it isn’t incredible. Having a happy family’s to spend the holidays with us all I’ve ever wanted. My family isn’t exactly excepting of me (a transgender and pansexual boy) and this website makes me cry with happy tears, thank you holiday moms

    • Shamama says:

      Hi Toby! I am so glad you found us! We would not be the same without you. Every day here we will show up with another family that wants and loves you! Happy tears back to you! Shamama

  6. Martha says:

    Hello Holiday Moms!
    I am so glad that I remembered that you all write these because my ADHD had forgotten…
    Anyway! I have some good news and some not good news I wish to tell you all! I wish I could tell my family but… well anyway. Good news first! My girlfriend is now home! I haven’t seen her since August 6th and long distance relationships are hard. She’s only here til Saturday though. Her parents are really welcoming of me into their family, which is great. My dad does support me, in his quiet way. My sister…while she says she supports LGBTQ people…her actions sometimes speak the opposite. This is the bad part of the news. Since my mother passed in 2014 I have no certain idea how she would take the successful, healthy relationship I am now as positive, since I’m dating a girl. (I’m bi by the way, pun intended.) From her actions in life…she wouldn’t be very accepting I don’t think. Her friends that still interact with my family don’t accept it at all. Had to burn a bridge recently with a slightly toxic person over this issue.
    Sorry that this is so rambly. (ADHD…)
    Sending hugs to all of you because you all are amazing.
    Also, I LOVE walks in the snow! Count me in!

    • Your Holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Martha,

      I’m glad you found us! I have ADD too, and am lucky I remembered to sign up for the email notifications..:)

      Welcome back,, it’s good to have you here.

    • Shamama says:

      Wow, that is wonderful news about your girlfriend, Martha! Rambly is just fine, we love you how you are. Have a great day today my love, Shamama

  7. Noctis says:

    A buddy of mine posted about this and I am beyond thankful they did.
    Recently, I was outted and forced to come out. My birth mother is highly unsportive (she has called being gay “disgusting”), and told me “you are not male, you are female”. This was followed by her commenting on having “known about the ‘liking girls’ thing” (she used quotations…) This was all via text, while I was attending school. Never have I fought so hard to remain calm…
    Despite an hour long conversation, she refuses to support me, and it hurts. She hated that I cut my hair… she gives me dirty looks for it.
    Knowing there is a group of people out there who care this much makes me so happy… In my town, its not easy to come by adults who care this much. Me being me puts a target on my back… Thank you all for caring. Happy Holidays, you guys.

    • Momma E says:

      Noctis, you are NOT disgusting! You are extraordinarily brave for keeping it together in class when you were hurting! I’m so sorry you had to go through that . Btw, your hair looks great! You really look like “you” now. Stand tall and be as proud of your wonderful self as I am. Love, Momma E

    • Shamama says:

      Oh sweetie Noctis, I am so sorry for your pain. Your beauty is evident in every word you wrote. We are with you, our holiday child! Love, Shamama

    • Johanna says:


      Though I am not a mother, I’m sending you all of my love and support. I’m sure your hair looks great! I wish you the best and hope you can find solace soon. Happy Holidays, love!

    • Shamama says:

      Hi Nathan! I am so glad we could be here for you. Here’s to making other people’s days… LOVE, Shamama

  8. Mar says:

    Thank you Mom! It’s been so wonderful being able to be a part of every family here and knowing that I have the love of a mom in my life. ❤️

    • Shamama says:

      Hello Mar! So glad to have you with us. I’m smelling cookies in the oven and that must mean it is snack time! Thinking of you with each bite! Love, Shamama

  9. Freddi F says:

    Dear Holiday Moms.
    Thank you for this. This site has helped me a lot the past couple of years, and I’m looking forward to the letters this year.
    As I read each letter, I take time to really put all my senses into it. I try to make sure I can imagine smelling the smells of things and hearing all the sounds. I paint a pretty picture in my head and all of it together helps.
    Thank you for all that you do.
    Your Holiday Child,

    • Shamama says:

      Hi Freddi! You are reading this PERFECTLY because we want to you feel and smell and hear all our love. We put a lot into making sure you can, so it feels great to know you are reading it just this way. Thanks for coming back this year, it would not be the same without you! Love, Shamama

  10. Sean l says:

    Thank you mom! I cant wait to spend the holidays with you guys and all the other holiday moms.

    • Shamama says:

      Ohh hi Sean! I can’t wait, too! It starts right now. LOVE to you from me and all the moms! Shamama

  11. Promise says:

    Thank you so much for this website, it’s helped me so much over the last few years. My mother is superficially supportive but she’s abusive in other ways, so it’s nice having some type of maternal love during the holidays. Definitely going to check in every day this year, because I need support more than ever.

    Happy holidays.

    • Shamama says:

      Hello again Promise! I am so sad your mom is abusive. I cannot imagine being abusive to you or any other child… we are here with letters of love! Yes, do check in every day to get that support. xo, Shamama

  12. Léo says:

    Thank you so much! I’ve been checking this website for days now. The letters were a lot of help last year, in what turned out to be the last Christmas I spent with my abusive mother. Merely 2 months ago, I cut all contact with her and effectively removed her from my life, moving to a new place, having new adventures, starting on testosterone and finding out how deep my PTSD, unfortunately, still runs. I’m both looking forward to, and dreading, a holiday season without her. The concept of “mother” is unfortunately a bit tainted for me, and I have to confess that lines of mothers wanting to shower me with affection just makes me very nervous, but “family” definitely means a lot to me, still, and I’ll be glad to feel virtually welcome into so many other families and homes. And here’s to a good season for us all! <3

    • Shamama says:

      Hello Leo, I’m sorry I don’t know how to make that ‘ over your name! I fully understand your not being 100% comfortable with a mom’s love, but we are here for you, so take it however it works for you. You are welcome into our hearts and these letters are for you. YES, a good season to us all! Love, Shamama

      • Léo says:

        Thanks! At least, the letters will find me in a much, MUCH better place this year than last year. It’s almost unbelievable how much happier I am and how many new and incredible things are happening in my life.

        • Shamama says:

          Leo, that makes my heart sing!!!! Let’s tell everyone… what a difference a year can make!

  13. Seantel says:

    It slipped my mind that I was a part of this. I’ve been going through some rough patches lately and seeing this in my emails just made my day. It feels amazing knowing someone out there is thinking about us. Thank you for letting me be a part of this.

    • Shamama says:

      Hi Seantel, I can understand how that happens. Then, just like magic, the holidays arrive WITH a ton of moms to love you! How fun is that? We are so glad to have you with us. Love, Shamama

  14. Sam says:

    Thank you so much, Shamama. Reading your words left tears in my eyes (the happy and sad kind). Thank you for letting me imagine for one moment that I have a real family who cares about my feelings, my interests, my dreams and who love me for who I am, no matter a lot of the world think. I may not always read these letters but on tough days (like today) I’m extremely grateful for you and everyone who puts this blog together and writes letters to people like me. It’s helping me so much and eases my pain for the moment. I feel your emotions in this letter. Thank you for loving your holiday child and for even thinking of me one time.

    Your Holiday Child (Sam)

    • Dylan says:

      Dear Holiday Mom,
      I can’t wait to see everyone and enjoy all the games and joys that your family has together! Thank you for encluding me!
      Love your Holiday Child, Dylan

    • Shamama says:

      Hello dear Sam, I surely do understand about the happy and sad tears. I am sorry there are any sad ones! You come on by whenever you need it. That is what we are here for. I’m so glad you can feel my love through the letter, and lots of moms letters to come! HUGS, Shamama

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