I’m so glad you are here with us, to join in a celebration I once thought I’d never have. When I first came out, a dear cousin who had lived with us and shared every Christmas with us told me that it was too bad because I was “giving up too much.” I was shocked to hear this from someone I thought of as a brother. He told me he’d always thought I’d be a wonderful mom.
Well, this year, you and I will be celebrating Christmas with my wife and 3-year-old daughter.
We go all out for Christmas, starting as soon as possible. This year I’ve tricked my wife into hanging up Christmas lights in October! (My previous best was two weeks before Thanksgiving.) They were part of the decorations for our Stranger Things themed Halloween party.
I hope you like to eat, because my wife is a baker. And nobody buys cakes in December, which leaves her a LOT of time to bake. We have ten different types of cookies (at least) and petit fours, pies and Christmas cupcakes. Don’t you love the marshmallow snowmen on the vanilla cupcake? Try the eggnog one too, it’s incredible. Sometimes I think I like her gingerbread cupcake more than the actual cookie!
Just to warn you, it’s going to be a little chaotic on Christmas morning. I know some families just give gifts to the kids. Well, we give gifts to everybody. We all sit in a big circle in our most comfortable pajamas (get downstairs early and you can snag a spot of one of the two couches). Whenever someone is about to open a special present, everyone stops to watch. I know you’re thinking it must be something handmade, right? Well…last year everyone stopped to watch me open a huge tube in which my wife had wrapped about twenty pairs of socks…all attached to each other with safety pins. The circle of socks went all the way around the room twice! I really wanted those particular socks…I just didn’t envision removing safety pins every morning to pick a new pair of socks!
So when you wrap your presents, keep in mind that the presentation will be appreciated as much, or maybe more, than the actual item. Hiding a tiny item inside a huge series of boxes is considered high comedy in this house.
We are so glad you are with us. We want you here with us, feeling loved and accepted, laughing and playing on Christmas Day, with no doubts as to whether you fit in. Please, close your eyes for a moment, and see our family. There’s no side looks, no snide comments and no cold shoulders here. And there are many, many families like ours. Someday, this will be something you will experience with your eyes open. Until then, I’m your holiday mom.