Your Holiday Mom: Mom Sara

Dear Holiday Child,

Welcome! I’m so glad you’re here. I know 2017 has been a rough year for many of us, but there have also been moments of hope and strength. The holidays of Hannukah and Christmas, which my family celebrate, are a time to create light, warmth and joy in the darkness. They are a time for friendship, for love, and for generosity. And you ARE loved, I want you to know that – in my home you are welcomed and celebrated for who you are. You’re exactly who we want to spend these holidays with!

So now that you’re here, we’ll start by putting the finishing decorations on the huge tree we’ve set up in the dining room. Can you pick out your favorite ornament and hang it right there in the middle, where everyone can see it? Then we’ll add a lot of tinsel so the whole tree sparkles and shines when we turn on the colorful string of lights. We’re still a week away from Christmas which means it’s still Hannukah, so we’ll also light our menorah.

While you were finishing up those decorations, I started warming some spiced apple cider on the stove. Yum! I can also make you hot chocolate with marshmallows and peppermint sticks. I’ve got the holiday music playing, everything from classic carols sung by Bill Crosby to the soundtrack for the Muppets Family Christmas. All of these songs remind me of the importance of sharing love and kindness not just during the holidays but throughout the year. I hope you don’t mind listening to my bad singing!

We’ll roll out the sugar cookie dough I made earlier and cut it into fun shapes before decorating with colorful sprinkles. I made them vegan and gluten-free so everyone can enjoy them! Once they’re done we’ll add some festive icing. Everyone gets a chance to decorate their own cookie just the way they like it.

Our friends, your honorary aunts and uncles, are arriving for a night of board games and food, a delicious potluck everyone’s contributed to – sweet potatoes, macaroni and cheese, cornbread stuffing, and apple pie are just some of the food we’ll be enjoying. Everyone is just so glad you could join us for a night of silliness and good-natured competition.

At the end of the night when everyone’s gone home, you and I will curl up under our blankets to talk. I want you to tell me about your life, about your hopes and dreams, your goals for 2018 and your reflections on 2017. I want to know what makes you shine. I want to know who you love.

My wish for you in 2018 is that you know love, that you experience moments of beauty and that you hold on to the hope that things will always be better.

Your holiday mom, Sara


    • Holiday Mom Sara says:

      You’re so welcome! You deserve love and joy at the holidays and all year long and I’m glad you could find some of that here.

  1. HolliMama says:

    Elliot, you are in a tricky situation right now. I am sorrry you do not have all the support you should have. You have the right to be your true self, but I imagine that must be so hard.
    I know you can find the right decisions for you. Please take care of yourself. You are special and deserve happiness.

    • Your Holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Eliot,

      Sending you some extra love and light It can be difficult when you’re in a tough situation. Many of us have also struggled with our families in different ways. You are not alone and you are always welcome here just as you are. I’ll be thinking of you and hope you are doing what you need to do to be safe right now.

  2. Elliot says:

    I wish my Christmas’ were like this. I love this blog so much. I’m going through a really hard time with my family and my significant other. None of them like me being trans and my boyfriend is making me give up on it so that he wont leave me. My friends are really supportive and want to help me, but I’m so utterly in love with this boy that I just can’t help but listen. I know I am ranting but dang it this is the one place I think I can do it. I feel comfortable telling you guys this. I want to be a boy but I have to give up…..because of the person I love and my family. I don’t know. I’m letting it destroy for me. I don’t know…..sorry I shouldn’t rant this much. Just thanks for making my day.

    • Holiday Mom Sara says:

      Elliot, I’m sorry you’re going through such a difficult time right now. You deserve to be loved for who you are by your partner and your family. Sending you support during the holidays.

  3. Ysa says:

    This brought tears to my eyes, thank you for making this website a thing and for helping so many people like me who need reassurance.

    • Tyrus says:

      Hey, so I just read your post/comment. As I read, I saw myself in you. I haven’t come out as a Trans boy to my parents yet, but I want to. It’s great that you came out to them. I know how you feel with your boyfriend, I just broke up with mine for the same thing, now he won’t even look at me. But when he does, it’s a hateful look. But it makes me feel better, because, “I rather be hated for something I am, then loved for something I’m not,” -Miles McKenna.
      If he won’t support you then he may not be the best person to hang around. It may be hard, but you will find that it seems to take a weight off your shoulders. Be yourself most of all, nobody can change who you are, you can’t change who you are. It’s just how you were born.
      My parents are not supporters of the LGTB+ community. In fact, when my mom was little, she went to the Westboro Baptist Church!! So you really can’t get any worse than that. At least your parents still think of you as family. I’m asking you to be yourself!
      I have more things to say, but no words to form, so please, enjoy life AND BE YOURSELF!!

    • Holiday Mom Sara says:

      You’re welcome Ysa! You deserve love and support during the holidays and all year. I’m glad this website can provide that for you.

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