Your Holiday Mom: Mom Cheree

My dearest Holiday Child,

Oh, I am so grateful for your heart in the world and, more directly, that you are here with us this holiday season.

It has been a dark and challenging year for so many, and I know it can be hard to feel hopeful as this year draws to a close. It does my heart so well to take these moments of respite and joy with you, and I hoard them up in my heart to revisit when I am missing you.

Tonight, we are touring the holiday lights and decorations with our chosen family. Your aunts M, H, C, S, K, and J will be there, along with your uncles K and Z. Your siblings J, D, and A will be joining us, and even your cousins, K and D. Everyone is so excited you’re joining us this year and can’t wait to see you.

We’ll share my extra special peppermint hot chocolate, your auntie M’s favorite holiday hot tea, auntie H’s treats and pappy’s cookies. I will show you my favorite house and we can stand in front of it and daydream about living there and having enough space to host all of our chosen family together. When we get too cold, we’ll stop in at a diner for supper. I know a place that serves your favorites.

In the morning, you and I will go to brunch at my favorite English pub. It reminds me of special visits with my grammy and always feels warm and cozy. They have so many amazing things for breakfast, it’s hard to choose! Afterwards, we’ll visit your sister, A, at work (she works in a Christmas store!) so you can choose your 2017 ornament. In a few years, you will have quite a collection of holiday ornaments to remind you of holidays past and, I hope, good memories of time spent with us.

Before you head out on your way, we’ll stop in to visit your grandma and grandpa. They have a big tray of Christmas cookies waiting for you – persimmon and peanut butter and chocolate chip and oatmeal and – my favorite – birds’ nests. They’ve put together a care package for you, pantry staples and treats and some necessities that can be hard to budget for.

I am so grateful you are here with us. I hope we fill up your heart and spirit with love and joy. I hope that 2018 is a joyful adventure for you and that it is filled with love, laughter, and opportunity. I hope you remember that you are always in my heart, surrounded by love.

I am so excited for the amazing things waiting for you in 2018 and I can’t wait to hear all about them. I am also here to listen to your sorrows, frustrations, and tears. You are a gloriously whole human and I love & support your whole self… Even (especially!) the parts that feel dark and heavy. Trust that I am strong enough to give you a hand carrying the heavy stuff.

After you’ve had a chance to rest from your journey, join us in the living room and we’ll get ready to leave for tonight’s adventure. I can’t wait to share it with you.

All my love,

Mom Cheree

9 comments

  1. Brian says:

    Hello! I recently came out as transgender. I lost all of my family because of coming out and only have my wife for this Christmas. My siblings, cousins, and parents refuse to talk to me. What you’re doing is awesome, its important to feel accepted and loved especially during holidays. Thank you for what you’re doing.

    • Auntie Hay says:

      Dear Brian-
      I’m so sorry your family isn’t accepting of you…. no one deserves that. I hope that one day they can see that you are the same beautiful and amazing being that they’ve known all along.
      What you are doing is awesome- you are being your authentic self, in spite of the repercussions; and that is a truly brave and inspiring thing. So thank you, for being here, and for sharing.
      I am wishing both you and your wife a wonderful holiday season filled with peace and joy.
      All my love,
      Auntie Hay

  2. Mama Hutch says:

    Hi Adam
    Thinking if you over the Christmas period. Keep up.bring brave and being you. Mama Hutch

  3. Adam says:

    I am an asexual homoromantic polyamorous trans-male (what a mouth-full) and my parents are barely accepting of me being asexual let alone trans/ poly
    I just love this website because I can be myself on here and y’all wont judge me or hate me
    y’all will just let me be myself
    thank you <3

    • Your holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Adam,

      It’s wonderful to have you here just as you are! Make yourself comfortable and stay as long as you’d like.

    • Brigid says:

      Hi Adam,
      You are 100% welcome here, no matter how you identify. We are very glad you found this website!
      There’s no hate here, only love, support and acceptance. Please drop by anytime you need a boost. Sending real love and virtual hugs!

  4. Anonymous says:

    Thank you I am actually closeted and one day I will come out and i will remember you the parents that will always be there even if I am rejected so thank you

    • Brigid says:

      Hi Holiday Child (Anonymous)

      If you feel you might not be safe coming out now, then it’s totally okay, and smart, to stay in the closet.

      Remember, when you are older and more independent you will be able to surround yourself with supportive friends who understand and accept you. The world is full of people who will accept and cherish you, no matter how you identify. It will get better.

      Until then, please visit us here as often as you like. We are always pleased to hear from you! Sending hugs!

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