Your Holiday Mom: Mama Gigi

Hello, my love!

My family and I love you so much. Even though we don’t know each other, we love you, unconditionally. My hopes, wishes and prayers for your this holiday season are that your needs (all of them, mental, physical, spiritual and emotional) are met beyond measure. May your blessings over flow. Life can really be “interesting” and my wishes for you, is that the “interesting” means excellent!

I have been with my husband, Jim for six years. We aren’t technically married, we are in a domestic partnership. We have had our ups and downs, but still together. We have a cat, Trixie that he has had since she was 6 weeks old. She is going on 13 and a royal pain in the butt, but we wouldn’t trade her for the world. I have a 27 year old daughter, Mandy and a 19 month old grandson Max, who is the light of my life. Mandy was on a wild journey and came through the fire like a champ. Max definitely breathed new life into our family and saved him mommy’s life!

Our holiday traditions used to involve my grandmother, Mary Lou, but she passed away at 98 in January of 2016. It hit our family hard not having her there last season. We didn’t really celebrate Christmas as we were all broke and just kind of lost without the matriarch.

We have family members all over the country. I have family in California (my uncle and his partner and one cousin) Seattle (a cousin) Michigan (Where I am originally from, one cousin still lives there) Ohio (more cousins and an aunt. Her husband passed away recently and they are scattering his ashes in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan soon). Connecticut and New York (uncle, his wife and another cousin). My husband has a sister and brother in law in Spokane Washington and a mother in Connecticut . He doesn’t have any contact with them and it pains him, but life is life. You don’t have to like it, but you have to accept it.

We are a diverse group. Some are Christian, some are Jewish, some are atheist some Buddhist, some of us are straight, bi, gay, undecided. We are accepting of all. My daughter is active in the trans community. Her best friend was trans and he passed away about 5 years ago. We all miss him dearly.

We embrace you, we love you and we want your holiday season and the rest of your life to be one blessing after another.

Everyone in my family has been battling depression for most of our lives, but we have survived. You can too. It isn’t easy, but giving up isn’t an option.

There have been many times in my life when good friends were much more like family than my blood family. If you don’t feel accepted or loved by your family of origin, know that you can create a new family of your choice. I am with you in spirit and accept you, no matter what.

Please know that a total stranger loves you, prays for you and is sending you light, love and good vibes and wants nothing but the best for you.

Mama Gigi

12 comments

  1. Maureen H says:

    Wow Mama Gigi, it was really like you were writing to me. I am gender neutral, and therefore part of the trans community. I date women, although not for a long time now. I haven’t got family close by to celebrate with. I’m also not much of a priority for them. No one called or sent me a text.
    I battle depression and most days I win. The Thursday before Xmas I have in and stayed home from work. I am feel better emotionally, but got sick on the Saturday before Xmas. I went to the doctor yesterday and have asthmatic bronchitis.

    I loved your letter. I could feel the love. Thank you.

    • Your Holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Maureen,
      I hope you are feeling better soon. Merry belated Christmas and early happy New Year! I hope 2018 is a wonderful year for you!

    • Mama Gigi says:

      Maureen, I love you!! You are a priority to me. May 2018 bring you many blessings. xoxo

      Gigi

  2. Robert S says:

    Purr and thank you. This warms my heart. Trixie sounds so adorable. Cats do that, being a royal pain is what cats do, she sounds fun. She’d probably be all over my lap, I have “Sucker for Cats” written all over me by all the cats, indoor and outdoor. I also carry Temptations, since cats are easily bribable. She’s beautiful.

    Your home sounds gentle and happy. Sometimes disability whether it’s depression, complex PTSD or fibromyalgia can lead to different customs, ways of living with each other that are gentler and saner than the outside world.

    I get shocked sometimes at what I used to take for granted as normal behavior – the name calling, shaming, back biting and vicious competition that went on in so many work places and shared apartments. When I got fibromyalgia on top of everything else, I had to manage stress in order to function at all. If I so much as got into a debate I’d get sick and inarticulate.

    Thank you for doing this! Maybe I’m that weird old cousin from far away sending happy greetings and cat hairs of inspiration. I’m an old man post transition and to all the young folks, yes if you survive it does get better in some undeniable ways. I would never have understood what life was like after transition if I’d died like so many other trans people, but I decided to live because I wasn’t published. I’ve since published a novel too, but now have many other reasons to live from grandkids to what I’ll do tomorrow to the fluff girl that just slept on my chest sharing my nap. Being a grandpa is a good thing. You can never have too many of those. Hugs to you and all those you love.

    • Your Holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Robert,
      I agree that there are things we think of as normal that we shouldn’t. Though I’m grateful for new things that are not “normal” but good, like sending love and holiday cheer to awesome strangers on the internet like we did here.

      Happy Holidays, I’m glad you’re here with us!

    • Mama Gigi says:

      Robert,

      You’re an inspiration to me and many others. Keep on shining! Trixie says, Meow New Year!

      Much love and blessings in 2018 from Gigi

  3. Terrie says:

    What a wonderful and welcome letter. My family thinks I’m going to hell for being gay. My parents are deceased but my grandmother loved me unconditionally. She died a few years ago, she accepted me but she was the last of my family. I agree that we create family, I’m lucky to have some good friends in my life.

    • Your Holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Terrie,

      I’m glad you are part of our family here. Sending love and light.

    • Mama Gigi says:

      Terrie, I am happy that you are here and part of my spiritual/virtual family. I love you and want the best for you.

      Lots of love and blessings in 2018!

      xoxo

      Gigi

  4. Tracey K says:

    What a wonderful letter! Your family sounds just like mine. I am a 54 year old gay woman and my parents treated myself, my partner, my kids’ dad’s who were both gay, and all of our friends just as you sound in your letter! Welcoming to all. When they passed 4 years ago everything came to an end, but we are going on and trying to keep thee wonderfulness they brought to our lives back.
    Thank you!

    • Your Holiday Ciocia says:

      Hi Tracey K,
      That sounds like a wonderful new tradition. I’m glad you’re part of our family here, too!

    • Mama Gigi says:

      Tracey, I am so glad that your family was so wonderful to you. They are with you in spirit and alive in your heart and memories.I am with you in spirit and love you very much.
      May 2018 bring you joy and blessings.

      xoxo Gigi

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