Your Holiday Mom: Brother Nick

Hello Holiday Sibling!

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my letter. Although we have never met I want you to know you I am so honored that we are spending the holiday together! My hope for you going into this holiday season is to be filled with joy, happiness, and all the wonderful food you could want. Myself and so many other people are standing beside you every single day. It is an absolute honor to be apart of your journey as you grow into the amazing, wonderful, beautiful person you are. I hope to see you for one of our holiday feasts. Complete with a roasted bird, awful dad jokes, and questionable side dishes that people eat to be polite.

Come sit around and play board games with missing pieces where we just make up the rules anyway. I want you when it is time to pick teams. Although you probably don’t want to be on my team. I have a tendency to lose a lot, especially when it comes to games that involve drawing.

I can’t begin to understand some of the hardships you’ve endured. I hope that you are safe and comfortable and don’t have to walk around with your guard up. I’m sorry if people close to you let you down or hurt you. You are not an outcast, you are loved by millions of people. Surround yourself with them. Find beautiful people, who are kind, encouraging, and compassionate like you are. Know that it is ok to cry and be sad, don’t push things deep down inside of you. I encourage you to reach out to someone and talk to them. We’re here like we’ve always been and will always be.

I want you to know that I will be thinking about you this season and always. We may not be blood related and there may be distance between us, but you will be in my thoughts. Wishing and hoping nothing but the best for you.

So please, continue to be you. Discover your self and don’t let the negative stand in the way of your dreams. Remain kind and let your light shine brighter than the sun. Share your light with others. I will always support you. You are so incredibly important to me and I can’t wait to see you achieve everything you’ve ever wanted.

I love you, and I wish you all the success in the world! You are the best sibling I could ever hope for.

Much much much love,

Your Brother Nick


  1. Adrian says:

    Wow this one literally made me cry. I just found this site today and have been skimming through a few of them but this one really got to me. It’s so sweet what you guys are doing and thank you all so much. I do hope things will get better for me and I hope things are going amazing for everyone who helps out with this website.

    I really don’t feel very cared about lately, but it’s nice to know that you guys care about LGBT people who lack support.

  2. Alec says:

    I have Been looking on your letters for the few months. I’m a 13 year old trans male and my actual family could care less about my wishes. Even is it written to all I feel like it’s written to me. Thank you Big brother Nick!

    • Brigid says:

      One day you will find more acceptance amongst your family. Until that day, know that we are here to support you. Keep on being the wonderful unique person you are. We believe in you!

    • Brother Nick says:

      Hi Alec!

      Thank you for your comment. This letter is definitely written to you. I want you to know that there are so many of us out there who are rooting for you every single day! Please continue to shine!

  3. Tania says:

    Its being a long time since I opened up to anyone let alone a stranger. I am glad I found this treasure trove.
    I am 26 year old trans person. I once had hopes and wild dreams but one by one they have all been dashed by none other than my mom through her controlling behaviour.
    Looking back to the day that I came out to my parents I can’t believe I expected her to be at least understanding.
    Now, just to hold a job that I like, be independent and to stay as far away as possible from her controlling behaviour, I have to be what you say “on guard” against my entire extended family.
    Sometimes, I wish that just this once, maybe I can interact with my family without being too careful and let it all go. But that’s just a myth.
    I don’t even know whom to trust anymore. I live in a culture where it is expected of men to be oppressive, over sexed and huge and women to be submissive, sissies and ninnies. Maybe this is what made my mom so controlling that she fears any outcome other than that which she desires.
    I want to her to be comfortable with herself and others. You know, live and let live.
    My dysphoria and anger is all that I used to feel. But reading your letter felt really good, thank you Brother Nick.
    I keep coming back here to read these letters and comments again and again and know that somewhere in the world there is still hope.

    • Brigid says:

      Hi Tania,
      Drop by here anytime for some supportive words. The site is not very active except during the winter holidays, but remember there are many millions of people who understand and care about your situation. You are always welcome here, just as you are.

    • Brother Nick says:

      Hi Tania!

      Thank you so much for sharing your story. I hope you find yourself surrounded by all the love and acceptance you could want. Please know that all of us are here to support you. Thank you for being who you are!

  4. Auntie Tracey says:

    Oh what a wonderful letter!!! Brought tears to my eyes! Thank you for your compassion and understanding..

    Your Gay Auntie Tracey

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