Happy Holidays: Mom Becky

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Dear Adopted Holiday Child,

Happy Holidays! I’m glad you are here reading this message from me. You are valuable because you are alive.

I am the mom of a gay daughter and have seen how very isolating and hard it can be for those who have parents and family who don’t understand. I’ve stepped up to offer to be your Holiday Mom because I care that all LGBTQ people experience joy.

I know that not all people who come out are accepted by all family members. All too often, there is a lot of judgment. I’m sorry. I’m sorry if you have experienced this and I’m sorry if your family doesn’t understand or accept you. 

I hope you will take some comfort in knowing that there are many, many of us moms out here who are thinking of you and other people in the LGBTQ community who are not being accepted by your parents or other family. I hope that you’ll have a happier holiday season knowing that you are accepted in our hearts.

I’ll be thinking of you throughout this season and hoping that you choose joy. For living a joyful amazing life is the best way to reclaim our power from those who judge us or don’t understand us. I hope you’ll choose joy in each moment. And in the moments when it might feel impossible to feel joy, I hope you’ll remember that I am thinking of you and accepting you as you are.  And in that, I hope you’ll find hope that one day you’re love for yourself will help lift you up and give you joy.

You are worthy. Your joy, hope, and self-love are the best antidote to all the negativity you may have experienced. As your “Holiday Mom,” I wish you joy and love in your heart and a deep belief that you are worthy of love.

Happy Holidays! Virtual hugs to you from me,

Your Holiday Mom, Becky

 

7 comments

  1. Annette says:

    Thank you for your words of encouragement. This website is amazing! Your daughter is a very lucky girl to have such a supportive mother! Someday I hope I can say the same. My mom HAS come a long way since I came out (4 short years ago), so I’m still proud of her. She accepts my girlfriend, so we’ll see what happens at Christmas. 🙂 Thank you again!

    • Becky Henry says:

      Annette, you are welcome! Thank you for your comments – I too hope you have a wonderful Christmas with new traditions and new memories.

      As moms we love our kids so very much and we have dreams for all of you to have a wonderful life. Anything that we perceive might get in the way of that can scare us. Sometimes I think that might be a big part of why it can take a while for moms (and dads) to accept and fully embrace that our child is GLBTQ as we know that will bring extra challenges. Life already has lots of challenges and that scares us. All that I say just to help shine a little tiny bit of light on where some of the resistance might come from. It doesn’t mean we love you any less. 🙂

      I’d love to hear about all the new or old traditions you enjoy this holiday season. When we come from love – miraculous things can happen.
      Hugs from your holiday mom Becky

  2. Becky Henry says:

    Hello Sarah, Mia, Matty and Verda and any others who have found comfort here, I’m so glad.

    You are loved and you do matter. For those who had trouble reading or listening to the end I hope you hear this part:

    I’ll be thinking of you throughout this season and hoping that you choose joy. For living a joyful amazing life is the best way to reclaim our power from those who judge us or don’t understand us. I hope you’ll choose joy in each moment. And in the moments when it might feel impossible to feel joy, I hope you’ll remember that I am thinking of you and accepting you as you are. And in that, I hope you’ll find hope that one day you’re love for yourself will help lift you up and give you joy.

    You are worthy. Your joy, hope, and self-love are the best antidote to all the negativity you may have experienced. As your “Holiday Mom,” I wish you joy and love in your heart and a deep belief that you are worthy of love.

    Happy Holidays! Virtual hugs to you from me,
    Your Holiday Mom – Becky 🙂

  3. Verda says:

    thank you from me also.

    i might not be gay or lesbian, but i’m trans, and when i came out to my family, i was disowned. i’m now a taboo not to be spoken about, of, or to.

    me and my own mom ALSO have many personal conflicts, which only escalate things.

    i broke things with her completely a while back here also. but in general she never spoke like this. in fact, i’ll be truthful: i’m unable to read the whole message. it’s too emotional for me. people like you are practically a fictional element in my life and world.

    so again… thanks to you. it’s ones like this that give the lost ones a light in the dark, and hope for the future.

  4. Matty says:

    My mama’s name is Becky and she loves to kayak (as I see you’re on a kayak in your pic!) and before I was out as trans, I was out as a lesbian, so this letter was really emotional for me. I tried to imagine my mama saying these things to me and couldn’t, so I will just pretend that she is you, for a little while.

    Thank you.

  5. Sarah says:

    AHHHHHHHH! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! When I saw this website I started tearing up. I haven’t talked to my mom in a year… not because I’m gay (though I am), but because she’s unfortunately a very toxic person for me. It’s a decision I made on my own, but it’s still painful, and I often long for the mom I wish she was. It’s especially tough during the holiday season. I appreciate you all so much! I’ll be browsing this website during the times when I’m feeling lonely.

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