Happy Holidays: Mom Beth

Dearest Soul,

I am so honored to have an opportunity to be your Holiday Mom . . .

When my son called me from college to tell me that he was coming out, I felt like the luckiest mom in the world. I always knew that he was special, but I had no idea how courageous he was. I didn’t understand what he had been through during his childhood years, and I felt like a horrible mother for making him feel like he might need to hide his true nature. Within minutes however, we were both laughing at the irony of his situation – he was literally calling me from the closet of his dorm room! I laughed until I cried. We both realized that we just needed to let the past go and make sure that we move forward with love every day. Our journey since then has been one of love and support. I want to share that love and support with you too. Let’s all let the past go and move forward with love.

Whatever your religion, origin, political affiliation, orientation, or body, I believe we are all the same inside. You are a unique expression of YOU and the world is lucky to have you! Your journey may have been difficult so far, but I am here to celebrate you for who you really are – a wondrous ray of light expressing your own uniqueness and love. Have you felt loved by the world? Whether you answered yes or no, I am here today to tell you that you are a wonderful, fabulous creation and I can’t wait to see what you do in this world! And I love you whether you love yourself or not, never expecting you to be perfect.

Just in case you don’t have a family to celebrate with this year, I would like to pass on the same advice I hope my own children receive and consider. It just doesn’t seem like a family gathering unless someone is there to give you advice!

  • Honor your body and take care of it. If you aren’t healthy, the world can’t receive your benefit!
  • Find the positive in all situations and declare it loudly.
  • Spread your joy and love wherever you can whether people want to hear it or not. They will eventually listen.
  • Learn to love yourself in the way you need to be loved – in this way you don’t have to depend on others’ opinions and judgment. You can love others who need it.
  • Turn your journey into a message to help others – find your purpose.

We don’t celebrate holidays in a religious way, however we do have family feasting and holiday cookies. Please make some of your favorite holiday foods and enjoy this time. I will be thinking about you every day and hoping that your holiday season is warm and full of love. Enjoy any holiday rituals you choose, and spread your uniqueness to everyone you see. I will be there watching in spirit!


Beth, Your Holiday Mom


  1. Jim Stone says:

    Hi Beth..
    What a great letter!! Unfortunately I didn’t come out until I was 30..but that was a different time. I am now in my fifties and my partner and I have been together for 21 years.
    Your son has a great life ahead of him. I have special friends in CA who are a couple. Jay is a police officer and his husband Bryan is a stay at home Dad. They adopted two AWESOME kids from a drug addicted mother. They are the BEST Dads! There is so much love in their family. They have a YouTube channel called “Depfox” and they recently made a documentary about them called “The Right to Love An American Family.” Please Google it.
    I recently got a phone call from an old neighbor who told me her son who is a freshman in college..came out to her. During our conversation..she started crying. She said..”I am not crying because Jimmy is gay..I am crying because I am worried about society hurting him.” Let’s just hope that this doesn’t happen…
    Thanks for your beautiful letter…. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from Jim and Dave here in NE Ohio!

    • Jackie says:

      Jim….love your story and that of your friends in CA. THIS is our future, and it’s inspiring to see people in this community able to live out loud. My Christmas wish is MORE of this in our country and around our planet. Xo

    • Jackie says:

      Travis….we’re ‘standing in’ and holding you in our hearts. Know that while we may not be part of your everyday life, there are 40 moms out here who love and care about you. Xo

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  3. Janine says:

    Beth, thank you for those words, you are an amazing example of what parents need to be I cried while reading this, I am so thankful there are people like you that really do love your children unconditionally ,your message helps me feel good about when I finally get the courage to tell my parents I’m Bi sexual even if they won’t except me I know now that I will still be loved even if I don’t know you I, know your there and will love me in spirit.

    Have a wonderful Xmas!

    • Beth says:

      Hi Janine,
      Keep thinking positive thoughts, there are lots of us who will always be there for you no matter what happens. Love, Beth

      • Anita says:

        Ditto! I’m another one of those loving, supportive moms. <3 My holiday mom message won't be up until much later, but until then, please know there are MANY MANY of us who accept you for who you are. My transgender son and his long list of friends who have adopted me to be their loving "bonus" mom can attest to that. You are not alone!

    • Tamilyn says:

      thirded!!! lol..
      i wish i could have hugged you while u cried ..you beautiful soul i am so glad you found your way here xo

  4. Lara says:

    Thank you for this, Beth. It is wonderful to know that there are kind, supportive people out there who will express their love even without knowing me, or any other person. Happy Holidays.

    • Tamilyn says:

      Lara the Light .. has a pretty ring to it …we can not have peace without ALL the pieces xo everyone gets sad when you finish a puzzle and that lasttttttt piece is missing.. life is a puzzle and we are all equally important pieces because if just one of us is missing we are not whole or complete as a human beings xoxo . my two cents 😉 have a very happy holidays and may 2013 be your best year yet!!!

  5. benjamin says:

    hi Beth, my name is Benjamin and I have to admit my eyes watered while reading your letter. your son must be so proud to have such a great mother. I, unfortunately, am not in the same situation and have not been blessed with such great parents, but people like you make me stay strong and be confident that one day everything will start looking up. thanks for making the world a better place, I sincerely mean it.

    • Beth says:

      Hi Benjamin,
      You sound like a wonderful human being! I don’t know if my son is proud of me, but I know he is an amazing being too just like you! I hope you have a wonderful holiday.

  6. iomoon says:

    Thank you for your website. Two of my friends (who are a couple) have very conservative parents. As a friend, there are some scars I can’t help heal. I showed them this website and they were very touched. It needs to be spread around! 🙂

  7. Seth says:

    Hi Beth! My name is Seth, and I cried at this. You are an amazing woman, parent, and friend. There needs to be more men and women like you in this world. <3

  8. Tamilyn says:

    mmmmmm feast and cookies !!!!! two of my favorite things !!! and as a mom i shared the laughter you had with the “closet” lol .. thank you for sharing xo happy holidays to you and yours xo

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